Monthly Archives: December 2014

Proverbs 27:17: “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” Cheers to Friendships

Proverbs 27:17 ~ Happy New Year ~"As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."

Proverbs 27:17 ~ Happy New Year ~”As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” Cheers to Friends!

Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”  Cheers to Friends!

As we embark on a new journey bringing in 2015, let’s make it fabulous by not forgetting to be grateful and celebrate who walked alongside of us during the previous years that helped us reach this point:  Our friends!  Let us also be reminded that Jesus is our “best friend for life.” Cheers to Friends! 

I just wanted to share how I’m embracing the new year by praying for all my beautiful friends as we usher in 2015 together with this prayer:

Fireworks2          Father God, Abba Daddy, we again praise you for our tender hearts and for bringing us together in all these wonderful, yet strange, venues technology has afforded us the privilege with in reaching out to one another.  We really are blessed!  I love all my girlfriends, near and far, and all the wonderful guy friends that put up with all this estrogen, or in desperate need of!  Jesus, we need your intercession here as we boldly ask for your grace and mercy to surround us with the love you so freely offer us through our friendships in 2015 that we oftentimes push away because of the guilt and shame brought on by believing the lies of the enemy.  Help us lay at the altar all the ugly and negative words EVER spoken over our lives.

           Father God, I boldly claim the protective hedge surrounding all my friends’ tender hearts and brilliant minds from this point forward which is bringing deliverance from every negative word that has ever been spoken over us and that we are now released from its captivity!  Help us acknowledge that these lies do not dictate, nor define, our future.  Help us, Daddy, embrace our past by walking through it, but help us leave it where it is, IN THE PAST!!!  Help us recognize how our value and worth does not come from the opinion of others and that there is nothing to hide from or run from or be embarrassed about; it is what brought us to where we are now, ready to be vulnerable and transparent and share our hurts by letting You in surrendering our deepest and darkest recesses that only You can heal and know about.  We praise you for these stepping stones of transparency and honesty which are helping us move forward with confidence knowing we’re Beloveds of the Most High and proclaim the courage to be set apart and used as light in a world that is dark and evil with boldness and courage all for Your glory!  


Lord Jesus, help us realize our worth and how we all have an intricate part in your Kingdom which requires the surrendering and letting go of our facades.  Help us to believe who You say we are in 2015 by bringing us Godly friends that will remind us of what your Word says and that will enable us to be transparent and vulnerable!  Help us to remember and believe we are Beautiful Beloveds of the Most High, fearfully and wonderfully made in Your image!  We love you, Jesus! Thank you for taking every brutal blow that has been inflicted on us, even though we don’t deserve it!  We love you, Jesus!  Let our lives glorify you through our speech and conduct in 2015.  Help us lift each other up!  Thank you for being our “best friend for life” and for blessing us with the friends that are walking alongside of us reminding us of our worth in You and how we are set free from the bondage of fear and insecurities that Proverbs 27:17 talks about, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”  

In Jesus’ mighty and powerful name!  Happy New Year!!!

The Perfect Gift – John 15:13 ~ Friendships

DSC01005   The Perfect Gift ~ John 15:13  “Greater love has no one than this, that He lay down His life for His friends.”

         As I began the tedious and somber task of tearing down all the Christmas decorations that reminded me of the blessings of the beauty and joy of another Christmas past, with all the changes that surrounded this year’s festivities, one thing stood out as I marveled at one particular gift box that remained.  You see, this box was no ordinary Christmas box; yes, it was decorated festively with its design and packaging, not to mention the elegant gold bow that wrapped and sealed the gift nestled inside; but this gift box housed a handcrafted item made with love that will be used year after year, along with its wrapping, as decoration reminding me of the love that was poured into it!

        When I started to peel off the gold bow to open the box and carefully place the Christmas coasters back inside, I reread the handwritten note and tucked it back inside while praising God for the precious gift of girlfriends that He so graciously surrounds my life with.  Though part of her note said, “Your friendship is a perfect gift all by itself,” I pondered how this emulates beautifully the definition of what our Lord’s life and promises are all about:  John 15:13, “Greater love has no one than this, that He lay down His life for His friends.”  Jesus calls us “His friends” and freely offers His love whether we deserve it or not.  He even promises to “always be there” so we’re never alone (Deut. 31:6; Joshua 1:5); now that’s a friend.  He’s relentless in His pursuit by calling on us often just to say hello hoping we will reciprocate with a little time by saying hello back (you know, prayer, praise, and spending time in His Word).

        My girlfriend’s gift of love and time that was so generously poured into will always be with me, not to mention the added cushion the yummy treats brought to my hiney; but it’s nice to know as I pack everything away securely so it will be here the next Christmas, I’m reminded of one promise that remains; whether future seasons are plentiful, seasons where there’s not enough to go around, or even seasons where they’re cold and lonely, one thing will always remain: LOVE. 

        Some of our girlfriends are put here for a short season with a reason and some are there for the long haul; but there is one thing that remains:  The blessings of the “perfect gift” that cost God so much, “Jesus, who is our best friend for life.”  Let us never forget by packing up what John 15:13 so beautifully promises, “Greater love has no one than this, that He lay down His life for His friends.”  It is our perfect gift that keeps on giving!  Wow, what a friend we have in Jesus!!!  Let’s keep our relationship with Him fresh and alive and not packed away with the rest of the Christmas decorations!  

Fearing the Challenges 2015 presents? Remember Jeremiah 29:11

Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Beloved, does 2015 prove challenging?  Are you tired of this long and relentless path with no ending in sight over the hill?  Are you fearing the future?  I don’t know about you, but I’m fearing 2015 due to all the changes and constant unknowns in my life.  I can actually say that I live a good life, I am very blessed; but after several years of intense suffering, even with the belief that 2015 will be prosperous, it’s the unknown that has me unsettled.  I acknowledge more change is imminent, even with its exciting and challenging treasures that lay ahead, but because I’m exhausted from the past trials I am walking through due to this beautiful mind God created, I find myself too weak to grasp hold of the blessings that are waiting for me to claim. Since just starting this blog and connecting it with my ministry that God is developing right at this very moment is freaking me out which is surfacing all the layers of insecurities that have held me captive my whole life; all because I don’t want to be mocked and humiliated by exposing my life, pain, and struggles through writing!

Girlfriend, I get it that we want a preview of the other side of our journey for OUR APPROVAL (I’m with you) or preparation to know what we’re going to be subjected to, but we would save ourselves a lot of grief and anxiety, not to mention the wasted time daydreaming out the fantasized “what-might-happen scenarios” that rob us of time we’ll never have again, with events that will never come close to fruition.  Let’s face it, the scenarios we give birth to in our minds over and over again about what WE PERCEIVE and BELIEVE will happen, usually will never even come close to the “ugly script” that we invented, not to mention how they distract and detour us from taking the path we’re going to have to travel on again until we get it right.  I don’t know about you, but I should be a millionaire with the dramatic scenes I composed in my mind that NEVER came close to developing.  Talk about wasting precious time, not to mention adding more wrinkles!  Ugghhhh!!!  My imagination is very creative!!!

This is why God gave us His Word for guidance.  He knew we’d have a tendency to drive ourselves nuts, not to mention those that occupy our space, you know, our family and friends!  I know going to the Word of God or spending time in prayer is the last thing we want to do when we’re enjoying writing the script for what we fear and “know” is going to happen, but that’s when we need to recalculate and remember that leaving God out of the equation is exhausting valuable time and it’s feeding into and developing our insecurities and fears that will direct us to where we feared we would go.  God is the author of our story, and since He already knows what’s going to happen; if He allows something to happen, since He brought us to it, He will bring us through it safely to the other side.  That’s why we need to take that nervous and anxious energy and go to His Word for peace and guidance.  Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

When I stop my Tammy Tantrums long enough to pray and go to His Word about what I am struggling with, I am amazed at how much precious time I have wasted in drawing up these scenarios that never end up happening, plus it was time I could have spent with family and friends in a better mood or even given back to my community.  Peace comes from trust; and how can we trust God when we’re writing our story and leaving God out of it!  If only I would have gone to the Word instead of kicking and screaming in the first place, the “unknowns” would have deepened my faith further and brought me closer to the One who is trying to save me from myself due to my own destruction.

Isaiah 41:10 says, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand”‘ and Isaiah 41:13 says, “For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.”  We need to remember that the Lord is leading and guiding us while holding our hand and there’s nothing we can do to change it except to trust and follow Him along the way!  The more we buck, moan and groan about not knowing what’s around the corner, we add so much unnecessary stress to our lives. God knows our story, He is the author of it, and we can either exhaust our energy by fighting and resisting the path that awaits us and bring more unnecessary pain and anxiety into our lives, or we can TRUST peacefully knowing Who holds the outcome and is holding our hand in the process!  Oh, such love is that!

The tantrums can be cute from a two-year-old, but not from a Grammy Tammy!!!  If we’re going to fantasize about what we know is going to happen, then let’s make millions of dollars off these scenarios we draw up and publish them!  Stay tuned; I don’t want millions, but if I can make one person laugh and learn from my mistakes, sharing my insecurities and fears will be worth it!  Let’s share and learn the Truth together!  That’s how we can tap into the power of God; and Matthew 18:20 tells us that “For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst.”  Let’s encourage and hold each other along the way and tap into the power of the Lord!

Have a blessed day!  Smile, Jesus loves you and He wants you just the way you are, tantrum and all!  Happy New Year!