Monthly Archives: March 2015

Oaks of Righteousness: Isaiah 61:1-3

Oaks of Righteousness

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Seasons……. whether beautiful and abounding in fragrance or frigid and empty, seasons demand change.  They come and go so fast at times that before you can even grasp their arrival with a deep breath, a new season is forced upon us without any forewarning.  Oftentimes these approaching seasons will come masqueraded as welcome mats offering us blessings; but without notice, the sudden force of the rug being pulled out from underneath our feet takes away our very breath!

I don’t know about you, but springtime has always been my favorite season. The excitement of eager anticipation of fresh new beginnings and lives filled with the guarantee of vitality as new growth suddenly appears everywhere through the vibrancy of colors, scents, sounds and astounding beauty is surreal!  It’s a time where we feel most confident and less inhibited to love which swings the doors of our hearts and lives wide open to embrace this welcoming of change in our lives.  This cheerful mindset stirs up the happy and excited attitude that gives us a new skip in our step and a strong desire to let go of the old and the ugly!

Blameless Thank YouI’m actually becoming a believer that God is trying oh-so-ever-hard to get us to welcome the seasons of life similar to the excitement spring often brings along with an open heart and mind that the innocence of a child embraces each day: Through trust and great expectation!  God loves to lavish on His children the blessings of beauty through a provision that is oftentimes meant for just that particular moment, kind of like the manna He provided to the Israelites on a day-by-day basis to satisfy their grumblings (Exodus 16), just to see if we will approach each day with great expectation and trust or whether we would stay stuck in the muck of needless complaints and pity parties!

As much as I care to admit, I have been in a consistent season for years filled with great pain and constant change (you know, the only thing consistent is the constant change), praying for the victory in claiming the promised restoration of health and family only to watch it unravel further.  Each time my heart starts palpitating in eager joy and anticipation for a new season filled with love and beauty, like springtime, God reminds me to continue being obedient and not quit, whether I understand it or not. Sometimes when we’re exhausted from the pain caused from a dark and evil world and our faithful, unwavering pursuit to walk by faith and definitely not by sight during all of these unknowns, God loving reassures us of the meaning behind the beautiful words of Galatians 6:9 (NIV), “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” 

Last night I was ready to throw in the towel and engage in a Tammy Tantrum; between exhaustion, seasons of relentless health issues and great sorrow, and no time for that much-needed vaycay to the beaches in Florida calling my name, I was sharing with God how being obedient to Him and His guidance was too much for this weary soul to continue, especially without expected results (I want MY timing, not God’s).  So through my fit, I reasoned I needed me some Tammy Time equipped with that tall, dark and handsome drink of love to serve my every need and demand, where all the demands and responsibilities thrown at me no longer exist!!!  (A girl can dream, you know!)

Blameless and Forever FreeWe all have those moments in life when the seasons are filled with ashes of mourning than the wanted beauty that the blessings of the blossoms bring that are both fragrant and pleasing and excite all our senses; but one thing I do know for certain, God somehow or another in His omniscience and Love turns our pain into beauty that never could have developed had we not trusted Him and continued moving blindly forward while clinging to His promises that came as a result of trusting in how “we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28).

Today was a rather profound reminder of His great love for my needless complaints.  I was rather perplexed when I locked the front door and started to leave for my hike to try and sweat away this fever when I felt the Spirit’s tugging and rather obvious wrestle to go back inside and get my Bible.  My hikes, or rather walks, are usually a time for complete solitude as I connect with the Lord through nature.  I like my hands being free whereas not to agitate my spinal injuries while having the freedom to twirl around like a little girl (yes, I’m very animated ).  I surrendered, though!

This ravine that I live next to is full of magical blessings between the musical owls and birds, frogs (my favorites ), deer, racoons, geese, turkeys (so obnoxious and domineering! Talk about attitudes gone wild!) and even the rarity and beauty of the blue butterfly (what a sight ) that are God’s gentle reminders.  The fragrant aromas that are lingering right now remind you of this cherished, yet brief, flavorful season.  The ravine also houses and is Poppies, lupine, and oaks, near El Portal, CA, USAsurrounded with a landscape full of majestic oak trees. I especially love the changes that announce springtime is upon us when the grass becomes high in deep, dark hues of green amongst the colorful assortment of flowers. 

I eagerly await and focus on the approaching of another season that is near oftentimes without enjoying the blessings of the one that is to be lived out right now in this moment which will shortly come to an end before I know it.  Why is it we have a tendency to focus on what we know lies ahead, good or bad, instead of embracing the beauty of the moment and the precious time that is right here and now?  Oh, how we miss out on so many blessings of today because we’re so fixated on our tomorrows!

In order to preserve these fluid and ongoing seasonal changes, this beauty requires the need of purging and removing for additional protection from the heat and the elements that contribute to igniting wildfires.  This beauty becomes dry and brittle, you know, the dormant and stagnant parts, and demands refinement periodically through the removal of the old and the ugly that is prohibiting its growth to continue to blossom into its beauty (even nature is high maintenance ).  There is so much to embrace each season, and even if it is filled with gloomy and painful times, it requires us to be still and allow the clearing to occur.  Regarding my ravine, this anticipated purging for protection requires the most unusual form of blessings that consists of numerous herds of goats to maintain (are they called herds with goats?)  I can’t wait for their arrival!  In fact, it clouds my perception of the beauty right now!  Hmmmmm…….

Blameless GoatsLet me share with you through a child’s heart (even though I’m Grammy Tammy ), when you set free a herd of 100 goats, these guys can devour six-foot tall dry grass in one chomping like it’s nothing which removes hundreds of acres of dormant and dead grass which once brought such beauty; and it’s the most amazing sight to watch in its transformation.  Plus, the goats will even stand on their hind legs just to get every last drop of the old and unhealthy brush that is choking the oak tree’s growth without damaging even one new bloom on the tree.  That resembles a loving and caring shepherd, kind of like Jesus, and the one in the photograph above that is carrying its young. 

This clearing is a treat I relish and treasure every year with great anticipation and excitement of the changing seasons because it not only brings out the little girl in me with joy and happiness, but it’s a great pyrenees dog and sheepreminder to live in today and embrace today’s blessings, while being patient during the hard times because new beginnings and seasons bearing sweet aromas for the years to come are near.  This pruning and refinement only removes the dry, the ugly and the hindering that once nourished its life and purpose in the seasons past; but by removing it, it will prepare and allow for more healthy growth and more beauty to emerge that otherwise would not have blossomed!  Pain promotes beauty!  What amazing grace!

This vast area houses acres upon acres of the most beautiful and magnificent oak trees anyone could seek refuge under or be blessed to live by.  These oak trees somehow or another manage to survive during seasons of extreme drought (which in California has been wretched the past few years) and oftentimes thrive under these dismal conditions.  They have experience in reaching up towards the light and trusting in that Source for their daily provision which intuitively urges their roots (foundation) to go even deeper for sustainability and nourishment (water) to survive.  They know and trust their Source will provide!  Plus, after hundreds of years of experience in trusting, they know that when the provision is lacking (no water), to be patient and still, because they know this drought will remove the old that is consuming.  They stand tall and beautiful while digging deeper into the ground so their roots can tap into the source that will sustain them and also increase their strength from the water table below, no matter how much it hurts to plow through.  Trust me, right now the ground is like cement!

This hike led me to stop fairly close after the time I left my house.  I was doing my typical engagement with the owls (consistent pause every three seconds between each whoot-whoot) and my rather loud animated frogs Poppies, lupine, and oaks, near El Portal, CA, USAfeeling a bit neglected because of my interaction with the owls (told you I was a little girl and why I need my flailing arms free ); but somehow or another I just stopped dead in my tracks and looked at the expanse of the beauty of nature ahead of me and decided I was meant to park it underneath that beautiful oak tree calling me near and read my Bible.

It took me a moment to get comfortable because my bass lacks that extra padding to cushion the drought-filled ground that resembles concrete nowadays; but once I managed to get comfy and propped up against the oak tree did I open my Bible right to Isaiah 61:1-3 which has always intrigued me about the significance and meaning of this powerful passage.  Isaiah 61:1-3 (NIV) reads:

“The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to preach good news to the poor.  He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion – to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.  They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of His splendor.”

I don’t know what happened (Holy Spirit cleansing, obviously), but the awareness of my own transformation and the reminder of the Lord’s promises of Blameless Hoover overflowrestoration reflected in this passage opened the floodgates of Hoover Dam rushing out.  God was reiterating to me again about the blessings of restoration to my family and my health, “though it tarry, wait for it…” (Habakkuk 2:3), and how our faith is like these majestic oak trees; that we’re planted to proclaim His glory through our testimony, even though the evidence has yet to be delivered!

Blameless Bible Image SelfWe need to share our stories with each other; not just for our benefit, but to bless those who are going through their own trials for the edification and encouragement of community!  No matter what, we have to hold onto and press into what we believe, even though it’s brutally hard at times.  Nobody likes to share their open and bleeding wounds, much less their battle scars and deep scar tissue that has developed; but you know what, since God has never let go of my hand or failed to fulfill any of His promises, I desperately cleave to Him for the strength to carry on through the unknown!  I’m not used to sharing my grief myself, and I will wrestle with Him about it until I go home, but God wants those walls torn down.  The blessings of being weak; when I am weak, He is strong (2 Corinthians 12:9)!  The oak tree that I was sitting under will easily survive another couple of years of drought, at least, due to my watering!

Blameless TearsWhy are we so afraid to claim and rest in the assurance of God’s promises of power for restoration and complete healing through the love and support of other believers walking alongside of us?  Is it because we’re afraid to share our pain due to being perceived as weak (pride at its finest) or through a lack of trust brought on by believing the words of the enemy (self-worth insecurities), or our own refusal to share our broken hearts with one another to keep up a perceived image (deception knocking), or is it simply because we’re too embarrassed to expose our true beautiful selves and weaknesses by taking a stand where we’re planted, like the oak trees, boldly and confidently through admittance of hurt that our lives are nothing short of hot messes?  Isn’t that what faith is anyways; “being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see” (Hebrews 11:1)? This is why there is so much division in the church and we need to change it!  We all hurt and we all need each other to help us walk boldly and courageously through life!

Blameless JudgeGod works best in hot-hot messes because we know we’re powerless in all the chaos and pain, and we acknowledge our need for something better than drugs or alcohol, food, work, even gossip, or whatever vices we use to bring us through the grief and conflict!  Life is filled with conflict, and we can’t run from it; it’s how we react and bring resolution to these problems is what will be remembered!  This will bear the fruit of the spirit and the crown of beauty in the ashes.  How else are we going to tap into the power of the Holy Spirit or even announce God’s glory when we don’t open ourselves up and share our struggles? 

Personally, my acts of obedience this past year in revealing my pain through transparency opened the door to friendships and deep bonds for life all due to the sharing in being honest and real (broken).  This was harder than giving birth to an almost 11-pound baby boy (I survived )!  What great Love led us together.  I know it’s scary being vulnerable and being exposed and open for all to see, but God loves us just the way we are, and somebody else needs to hear our story!  Let’s quit robbing others of the blessings they’re waiting to hear!  ♥♥  Faith Builders at their Finest Hour!!  ♥♥  If we can remember that, it will help us with our transparency in being open and honest!

jesus-on-cross2.jpgI don’t know about you, but with the reminder and the meaning behind Easter, that Jesus is Risen, and all that He did for just me alone (it is all about me right now ), I want to remember to glorify my Lord through proclaiming everything He has done and continues to do in my life, not hide beneath it; and try to remember this as we embrace seasons of severe testing and famine that afflicts us with suffering.  Jesus wants us to live for today, enjoy the blessings He gives us each and every day, and not to focus on the worries of tomorrow.  He offers us this peace and strength through the reminders and love given from the community that God has placed before us. 

Don’t fight another battle alone; open yourself up to receive His great love.  Those walls of isolation and shackles and chains have held you captive long enough.  The only way we can cling onto His promises of hope is we need to be in community with Blameless Shackles 2others, to be honest and vulnerable, while making a commitment to reach out and be present, so we can be reminded that He is the author and perfecter of our story ♥♥ and to let Him have all of the weight of these great burdens through fellowship.  We just need to walk through it.  Then we can be still underneath that majestic oak tree and look outward and see the beauty and claim the freedom that has been there the whole time.  Being shackle-free is so easy, yet so hard to remember where the key lies!  Pain is only a season and it’s our opportunity to walk through it boldly while we allow, through trust and community, our roots to dig deeper and deeper into the soil for the constant nourishment that will sustain us.  No matter what happens, He is real and He is just waiting for us to sit at His feet and embrace the freedom a life of trust offers!  This is the definition of unfailing love to carry on!!!  ♥♥♥ 

P1000143Jesus is no longer hanging on the cross, He is Real and has Risen!  Let us be reminded and never forget why Jesus bravely surrendered to His Father’s will on this beautiful Easter:  Love; so we would be redeemed which was paid in full through the blood of Jesus Christ.  We are so valued and so loved; God has planted us for His splendor for all to see!  Wow, our worth and value is immeasurably greater than anything we could imagine; that is why He loves us just the way we are!

He Has Risen!!!

Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!

Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

Courage and Kindness

Hello beautiful!  It’s Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!!  Since I can appreciate the depleted and tired hearts and minds from all the preparations that went into the festivities with celebrating our glorious Risen Savior, this weekly challenge is to have the courage to be the Beautiful You along with a whole lot of kindness! ♥♥

Blameless LionThis weekly challenge is going to be no easy feat!  It will be a lot more challenging than it seems (just ask Cinderella)!  This is going to require the courage to be kind to ourselves so we can embrace the beauty that lies within!   With the extra demands placed on our already overwhelmed and busy lives, it’s going to take a delicate balance between prayer (meditation) and practice (action) in claiming the courage to be kind to ourselves. 

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to be kind to others while being so critical of ourselves as we compare what others are doing or look like from our own perceived expectations?  Have the courage to declare you’re going to have kindness in loving on yourself while acknowledging how you’re designed to be unique and oh-so-beautiful ♥♥ just the way you are!  No comparison allowed!

This week might require extra attention due to the frustrations that might develop as you purposefully Blameless Courageacknowledge the need to be kind to yourself.  Every time you find yourself living in your old neighborhood (your mind) and listening to your old tapes, have the courage to vacate those premises immediately that lead you to be so hard on yourself.  Take advantage in being as courageous as a lion in making peace with being Beautiful You while not expecting perfection; you are equipping yourself with the courage to let everyone see the Beautiful You, all because of your kindness…….to yourself!

How about being kind to yourself with taking some time out just for yourself this week, if possible, to share a cup of Blameless Girlfriendscoffee with your girlfriends to decompress, share a passion or two, or grab a couple of friends to pray for the courage to be the kind and the Beautiful Beloved that you are!  Have the courage to be a true friend to yourself first and then others; fill your mind and heart with thoughts that are true and beautiful (Philippians 4:8) and praiseworthy (like you ) so you can experience the kindness that is necessary to create and nurture your soul!!!  This all starts with the courage and kindness in loving the Beautiful You that you are, Beloved! 

Blameless GirlsEvery new change and mindset requires courage.  It’s hard to change the way we see ourselves and what we think, say or do.  My favorite scripture regarding courage is to meditate on the wonderful words of wisdom written in the book of Joshua (talk about somebody who needed courage, conquering a new land (new life) leading over two million people, yikes!), because it reminds us how the task ahead will be hard so it will require the courage and dependance on God.  Joshua 1:5-9 (NIV) says: “Be strong and courageous…be strong and very courageous…Be strong and courageous.  Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”  This passage states “courage” three times.  It takes a lot of courage to change our mindset through meditation and action!!!

A great passage to also unleash the kindness within you is located in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 because it’s part of what true Love is:  “Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud…” (pride promotes the SuperWoman mentality) and Proverbs 11:17, “A kind man benefits himself, but a cruel man brings trouble on himself.” 

I’m praying for you to have the courage to be kind to yourself in this weekly challenge while remembering to love on yourself.  If you would like prayer, please send me a request and I would be honored to pray for you.

♥♥ Have an amazing and blessed week, Beautiful! ♥♥

Tammy Tangent Tuesdays – Senior Prom Time?

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Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!

Hello Beautiful, it’s Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!!!  I pray your week has started off as beautiful as you!  ♥♥♥  Just remember, when we’re courageous enough to be kind, it turns our sorrows and complaints into complete joy filled with all the love that follows!!!

Blameless Senior 3This weekly challenge is dedicated to all of our beautiful and amazing senior citizens who have walked before us and have so much to teach us all through their wisdom and experiences, not to mention their daily acts of courage and kindness that is sorely forgotten!  There’s a reason the Bible talks at length about respecting our elders and listening to their divine wisdom (Proverbs 16:31; Proverbs 20:29; and especially Psalm 71:18).

Blameless Senior 1This weekly challenge is to spend just a couple of hours loving on, listening to, dancing with, or even playing a competitive game of cards or other games with those who deserve so much respect and attention and, yet, receive little recognition!  I dare you to spend just 30 minutes listening intently to the marvels of their life story and you will Blameless Senior 2forever be changed from just being in their presence.  These tender hearts will not only bless you with a priceless front-row seat of the beauty being lived out through their very eyes, but you will find somehow or another you lost every hand that was ever dealt from the sneaky dealer!  Hmmm……. 

We honor our elders by listening and learning from just watching the twinkle in their eyes as they reminiscence about the past.  Their words of wisdom oftentimes reflect a life full of love and joy, not one of selfishness or loneliness, but one full of gratitude for Blameless Senior 7having been blessed with precious time in making these beautiful memories.  What a greater joy than allowing our children to hear these positive and gentle reminders from our elders while loving on them and listening as they relive the beautiful moments of their stories with such delight and dignity.  What an innocent, yet powerful, mindset for complete gratitude and joy for the seasons past that has graced our lives!  What a legacy of love and history at its finest!  Nothing short of being touched by angels!

Blameless Senior 8If you visit any convalescent hospital or long-term care facility, you will also find a common theme and one that centers around stories of love!  My friend, Wilma, speaks of her beloved in the most loving and admirable way that just reiterates how we appear to have lost the art of respect today.  She speaks of her beloved as “Darling” with such an endearing and joyful radiation.  All Wilma wants is to dance with her beloved.  She awaits enthusiastically until that day, but loves the company of anyone willing to share that next dance!  That’s kind of hard given the fact that most of the residents are in wheelchairs!

Blameless Senior 5We can do so much for our elderly, like random acts of kindness through time, card games, bingo, offering resistance exercises, dancing, or just the gift of listening.  I don’t know about you, but wouldn’t it be nice to throw the literal meaning of the word “senior prom”?  I wonder what Wilma might say?  It’s definitely food for thought and one I’d love to hear from those who might be interested in helping me accomplish such a feat!

I pray you’re receiving these Tammy Tangent Tuesdays as much as the people in the community are experiencing the love being poured out.  We all long to be loved and valued; and what a better way than bringing unity within our communities through kindness and courage!!!

Have a great week, Beautiful! 

Thank you for being

Beautiful You!!!

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Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

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Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

Let’s bring unity back into our communities!

Hello Beautiful, it’s that time again!  It is Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!!!  This Blameless Police SWATweek’s challenge is to go out into the community and show your love and support by acknowledging the men and women who put their lives on the line each and every day to serve, defend and protect us!  And with the crime, mindset and condition of the world today, please understand how vital it is for the unity in our communities to constantly rally around them through love and support.  We can accomplish this by letting them know how much we thank them for all they do on a daily basis with random thank-you’s of appreciation!

Blameless Police OfficersWhen a police officer is sworn in, they take an oath to serve and protect the lives and property of others, while defending and keeping the public safe.  These brave men and women are constantly on high alert and live under tremendous stress.  They don’t leave their homes and families worrying they might not make it home, they just pray that their dedication and commitment can make a difference while serving and protecting their community. Don’t let bad press cloud the respect and honor these brave men and women deserve!

Blameless Mindi LECFor all of the wonderful school teachers out there, what a great craft/art project to have your students make thank you cards and letters to drop off at the police department; for all of the high school students to respect, hug and thank their resource officer for keeping tabs on possible trouble and holding those accountable that might be going down the wrong path; and for the rest of us, to send an email, a written card, or go out and buy goodies to bless them with while expressing our gratitude for all they do and that we are supporting them through prayers!

Blameless Roseville PDLet’s get together and go out into our communities and give a loud and great big “Thank You” to all of our law enforcement officers by showering them with love through acknowledgement and praise for all they do and deliver them goodies, along with hugs, praise, cards, and words of encouragement!!!

Weekly Challenge:  Grab your girlfriends, your church community, kids and grandchildren and share the love through support!  What a great way to model to our kids our respect for authority through BLAMELESS Police LEC 1giving back while having fun by loving on and blessing others with random acts of kindness and cheerful smiles radiating that Beautiful You!

They do so much for us, let’s do what we can to say “THANK YOU.”  We need to restore unity back into our communities and what a great way to start, through the support and encouragement of our law enforcement officers before it’s too late!

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Have a great week, Beautiful!  Thank you for being Beautiful You!

Mirror, Mirror, on the Wall, Please Tell Me That’s Not Me After All!!!

Mirror, Mirror,

on the Wall,

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Please Tell Me That’s

Not Me

After All!


This picture was taken today, March 2015, by my girlfriend who was laughing hysterically at me because I was so upset, so frustrated and angry, that I was looking for something to eat and crunch on (munchies at their finest hour) like potato chips would have satisfied; but in a house and frig full of organic healthy foods (Oh, Lord, give me a break!), this did nothing but fuel my agitation and need for something stronger to settle me down, like a bottle or a bat!  Yes, this joyful and oftentimes Happy Be-loved needed some lovin’ that only the Lord could provide because what I was looking for was not to be found, at least not in my refrigerator!

This blog is dedicated to all the people, especially my children, that I ever annoyed or hurt by my careless words or behaviors because of my depleted coping mechanisms in trying to be SuperWoman to All!  Who am I kidding?  Hello…….

Blameless StressedAmazingly, because our reactions and attitudes reflect our deep-seeded hurts and emotions rather powerfully which triggers what we crave for comfort and how to go about satisfying that receptor (oooh, and that was said without a breath), I went to my comfort zone (food) because it was the ONLY available relief at that hour in a socially-acceptable manner to try and pacify that part of the brain that needed love and caressing.  Potato chips do not find their way in the frig; but since I rarely, if ever, have potato chips in my house, unless the kids are coming for a visit, I was looking for a vegetable to crunch on to satisfy my craving to conquer the anger-bit bug that was chewing on my assets and wreaking havoc all throughout my body like the image above illuminates. 

Supposedly, if we are craving chips or something crunchy, it means we Blameless Pacmachave suppressed anger and that emotion is drawing us to seek something crunchy so we can chomp, chomp, chomp!  Hello!!!!!!!!  Emotional Crunch, Bring It On!!!  I was chewing on people faster than PacMan ever did!  And here I love Jesus and was waiting for additional services so I could get a head start on ministry matters, so what could possibly be bugging me?  I think I would do better being locked up in a straitjacket than anything else right now; but then again, that’s not what God says……..  ♥♥♥

Blameless DoorsWhat’s a girl supposed to do when all I have is broccoli, cauliflower and red bell peppers in the frig (at least that crunch)?  All that is going to do is give me gas!  Oh great, that’s all I need in addition to all this waiting and down time along with the irritation is more blowing power!  Gas from that end while spewing out the other end?  Somebody needs to gag me with a purple spoon, and seeing the pictures and my gestures on my girlfriend’s phone proved I needed to get on my knees and pray like a mad dog because I was a disaster!

For starters, I pray you have a sense of humor because days like today, well, let’s just say Extra Grace Required wasn’t enough; and every time Blameless Mirror BrokenI looked in the mirror, I was more than mortified to see who stood there mocking my every move.  This was a day that even the mirror irritated me! Here I am this “supposedly” beautiful, happy, joyful woman working on my ministry’s Statement of Faith, and with all these irritants, delays and stood-up appointments that left five hours of an unfulfilled schedule still in need of accomplishing, left me acting like the lead actor in a horror film.  What am I thinking?

What happens to us, and our witness for that matter, when hundreds of little irritants add up and we’re depleted from trying to kill, destroy, or remove even one little bug when another comes flying by irritating us even more Blameless Broken Glassand before we know it, we blow up like Mount St. Helens and destroy everyone in our path, except those little bugs that got us to where we are today?  You know those days, when you scream and crack the very mirror before you when really a whole lot isn’t going on except you’re exhausted from life and all its demands and hats us women wear because we forget to take care of ourselves by being still and quiet before the Lord so He can pour into us and refresh our spirits like no other!

Here God is busy telling me to be still and quiet and bask in His love now that I have been obedient, yet I feel this sense of burden burning deep inside of me due to guilt or whatever to keep moving forward when all I’m doing now is spewing venom onto innocent souls that need uplifting, not my ugly!  Trust me, my UGLY is ugly and it’s uglier than anything I care to admit.  Ask my cable guy!  I am not proud of that!  I can only share this because I’m humbled, forgiven and know whose I belong to and AM!!!  I am an exhausted Sister in Christ who is trying to wear and fulfill the many hats that I feel are required!  You know, it’s really okay to just relax, be us and not perform, because if we really think about it, all we’re doing is tarnishing our witness and subjecting our special people to an ugly that is anything but glorifying God!  

Blameless BibleGod loves the woman who puts Him first; not because He is just a jealous God, but because He desires to generously reward those that seek Him and put His kingdom first (Matthew 6:33). He wants to satisfy and pour into our depleted and maxed-out souls.  Remember, I’m high maintenance, I require minute-by-minute cleansing and fulfillment.  God gives us these beautiful words of wisdom for a reason.  I don’t know about you, but I blew it today.  I have asked for forgiveness and received it.  God has stroked my face, shared with me how much He loves me and repeatedly reminds me, “Beloved, I love you just the way you are!  Tomorrow’s another day” (Matthew 6:34).  So I pick myself up and continue moving forward knowing I am forgiven.  Now I can embrace the evening dedicated just for me through a dinner cooked by another and the big screen playing “Cinderella.”  Oh, what a wonderful life!  ♥♥♥

Thank you for loving me, Jesus, and showing me that I don’t have to keep performing; and that when I’m obedient and seek Your kingdom first, I know that’s all that is to be expected of me and to let go and be the free and beautiful me! ♥♥♥

Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

Blameless Flowers Beauty in the Bunch 1

Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!

Hello, Beautiful!  It’s Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!!I  This week’s challenge is to spread the beauty throughout our communities with flowers.  Everybody loves flowers and they brighten up lives!

I challenge all of us this week to go out and share the beauty and joy that simple flowers bring.  Let’s show the world by sharing how a simple gesture of handing someone flowers or attaching them to a car’s windshield or your neighbor’s front door will illuminate a smile across America!  And when mamas are happy, everyone’s happy!  

I challenge you to go out and buy a bunch of flowers, $3, $4 a bunch (if finances are tight, buy one flower or cut one of your own), and attach an anonymous note saying:

“Just because……. Thank you for being Beautiful You!  Pay it Forward.”

Blameless Smile Reason

Find that neighbor that you don’t know and drop them off on their porch, give them to your pharmacist, a nurse, or the checker in any retail establishment, or how about the waitress that serves you. Trust me, you will be amazed at the reactions to what people say and do. Flowers bring smiles; and that smile will be conveyed onto others naturally and it will bring joy to a dark world.  Come on, let’s spread the love of Jesus to a world that needs a bright spot.

Share this post on your FB page and let’s get this started.  Every time you receive a bunch of flowers, take one flower and give it to someone else.  I would love to hear how this simple token of love is brightening up others’ lives! 

“Embrace that beauty within you and let it shine!!! Remember, we may be different in color, shape and style, but without each other, there is no beauty in the bunch!!!” ~ Tammy Ingram

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I want to be Wild, Beautiful and Carefree just like the Sea!

Blameless Wild, Beautiful, Free

It’s Not Easy Being Me!!

Blameless Mind ControlYou know that rare and treasured moment when your mind is still and quiet enough to hear a song that is playing in the backdrop throughout the store and it pushes the happy dance button.  You find yourself fancy-free and footloose in your moves (more like grooving) along with the piercing and obnoxious exaggeration of the tone-deaf vocals that overshadow your presence.  As you complete the Michael Jackson twirl, you adjust your composure and look up to find others not only staring at you, but joining in as well because of your free spirit in being Beautiful You; but because you are so stinkin’ embarrassed (more like humiliated because you got caught seizing the moment), you instinctively remove yourself through the channels of shame and despair with your head down instead of enjoying the moment and sharing in the joy.

Blameless Wild, Beautiful, FreeWhy can’t it be the other way around; whether or not the perceived reception is favorable, we find ourselves free and confident enough to enjoy the moment and embrace the innocence and beauty in being the real us?  I don’t know about you, but I want to be as wild, beautiful, and courageously carefree in being me just like the sea and Jesus says we can be!  I was born to be wild; just ask my parents, and not in a bad way, just different than them in my hopes and aspirations!  Being wild does not always mean inappropriate or rebellious in nature!  Why are we so afraid to be the “real” us?  Why do we feel we have to be conformed to what society demands instead of being who God designed us to be?  And who sets the standards anyways as to what is considered goofy in today’s norm?  Society projects a standard of perfectionism and a feat that is not only unattainable, but it contradicts what God created and His laws.  I’m so far from perfect that there’s no way I could hold a candle to those expectations, and I don’t want to.  All it does is lead us down to a path of destruction through deceit, depression, anger, loneliness, isolation and shame, to name a few, not to mention a hefty plastic surgeon debt!

Blameless BibleSo how do we tap into the power of achieving this great confidence in understanding our self-worth and value that will allow the joy and happiness that makes up our person and brings beauty to the bunch?  First of all, let us not forget how we were uniquely sculpted into this magnificent creation out of nothing (Psalm 139:14-16) into the image and likeness of God (Genesis 1:27).  But most of all, we need to stop comparing ourselves to each other!  We are all different colors, shapes and sizes so we can specifically add beauty to the bunch (can you imagine two of me; Lord have mercy)!  Plus, this is sin at its finest hour!  Comparison is folly and invites the consequences of a fool (2 Cor. 10:12-13).  We were not designed to be replicas of anyoneCan you sense my Tammy Tantrum starting?

This is such a hard feat for us women to conquer and one I struggle with myself; between all these bipolar emotions, you know, the love-hate ones especially when comparing (look at her hair or her skin, I hate her already); the Blameless Ballet 8fluctuating hormones that promote weight gain and bloating and PMS that is as psycho as the worst offender, and all that hot air (my butt looks fat in these jeans, my day is ruined ); I’ve hid long enough behind the facade in what I perceived society dictated and demanded me to be.  The younger and wiser this Grammy Tammy gets through the transforming power of the Holy Spirit, there’s such amazing freedom and beauty found within all this hot mess and battle scars from life by accepting the unique and beautiful Be-loved that God says I am.  Now I don’t have to hide from the enjoyment of life when I have bad hair days or when I gain ten pounds because I ate too much Thai food; but oh, was it yummy! 

You know what, Sunday, March 8th, is International Women’s Day!  Let us all respect and celebrate each others’ lives through the acknowledgement and prayer that is due to each and every one of God’s magnificent creations, that’s all of us Beautiful Beloveds, and that we celebrate what all we’ve accomplished and who we truly are!  We are all so beautiful and offer so much to this world through God’s divine plan and purpose!  This is the easiest and cheapest beauty trick known to mankind and yet it’s the hardest to do; time to love on ourselves!

Fuel for thought…….

Blameless Ballet Hard WorkI believe the mastering of what we allow to control and put in our minds is similar to dancing; fluid movement like ballet takes more than grace, it requires hard work and dedication; and to master yoga, it takes practice and discipline, all of which requires action.  I believe that conquering the mind controls every element and belief possible and it is painful at times. The mind is like the legs and feet, what we put in and entertain (ponder), what we focus on, sets into motion where we will go, how we will react, and who we will love and forgive.  This includes ourselves!  If we don’t love who we are, how can we expect anyone else to?  Our mind is more than just a battlefield, what we put in it determines our path!  This is why we need to spend time with the Lord daily reading His Word!

Blameless DanceWhat’s it going to take to allow the freedom to stretch our minds and allow our feet to dance so freely without inhibition?  Will you walk down the aisles of your local supermarket or department store and dance to your favorite popular song with me?  How about playing a classical note on the piano with just your feet?  I would, if given the opportunity, even though it would just be chopsticks.  It may not be easy to be me, but oh my, it can be so much fun when I’m free! ♥♥♥

I find great solace in the beauty and tranquility of the beach, along with its cleansing properties.  Watching a sunset at the beach brings me great satisfaction!  I pray some day to go back because that’s where my heart and soul gravitates to and I find the greatest peace. Blameless Beach Healing  At the beach I am able to still my mind and be purified so the viper attacks Paul talks about in Acts 28:1-7 do not latch on and suck me completely of my worth (that insecurity fester); or the countless hours I spend feeling inadequate because I don’t feel beautiful or wanted, nor belong, to a world that is cruel and oftentimes demeaning; but I need to be poured into because I realize that if I am going to witness to a world filled with non-believers, then my life needs to be filled with His Word so His confidence in who He says I am is lived out so my testimony through character and witness will make them question their doubt and disbelief!  I am not religious, I have a relationship with Jesus Christ and that is modeled by my character and conduct; that includes loving myself!

Blameless Ballet 7Why can’t we be free to be you and me?  What are we so afraid of?  I want to be free and be the Beautiful Be-loved that God designed me to be, so let’s pray for one another and encourage each other to claim and embrace with immense joy who we are and not prohibit or inhibit His allowing us to be confident and courageous Be-loveds He designed us to be!  It takes intense strength and courage to be this way; much like the beautiful ballerina to the right!  Wow!!!

Every opportunity for change is a blessing; it really is up to us to walk through the door and embrace the beauty of the challenge.  It may be hard and it requires courage, but it’s a channel worth pursuing because God wants to meet us there at our weakest spots.  Let’s be as wild, beautiful and carefree as we deem to be!  Let’s embrace this season of change and realize not only our worth and value, but how so deeply loved and cherished we are!   

♥♥♥ Happy Woman’s Day!  Thank you for being Beautiful You! ♥♥♥