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About tammyingram7

Beloved daughter of Almighty God determined to leave a legacy of love through the realm of advocacy in being a "Voice" for those who have lost theirs through the imprisonment of abuse, abandonment, addiction, neglect and violence all in the name of Jesus. The way I see it, there is no shame in our game; Jesus is His name! I love the Lord with all my heart and soul and want to help other beloveds cleave to and press into the Lord to know what it's like to be truly loved! The worth and value is overwhelming; be-loved and be-valued and be-healed! This is why I started a religious 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization called Blameless and Forever Free Ministries. Bringing unity within our communities through relationships and outreach events is just as important to me as sharing the love of Christ with women; which is why I designated Tuesdays to Tammy Tangent Tuesdays. These are weekly challenges to stimulate community involvement and to bring unity within! Received my B.S. in Religion, with a minor in church ministries, and forever working towards my Master's of Divinity! And I'm Grammy Tammy; doing everything backwards! :-)

Good Friday Meets Jesus On Death Row

Good Friday Meets Jesus On Death Row

Good Friday Meets Jesus On Death Row

Good Friday Meets Jesus On Death Row

Reflecting on the depth of despair that must have been present on Good Friday, it feels unfathomable to encounter such forgiveness that Jesus extended towards those who not only condemned and executed Him, but the criminals hanging alongside of Him as He awaited His execution.

Here we become so hurt and violated over petty assaults stemming from moments of disregard, gossip, and hurled insults.  But to proclaim this unimaginable mercy as one looks down on those condemning Him, “Father, forgive them, they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34), it’s obvious we have no idea of the resurrection power that is available to us and at work in us.

Whoever thought love, forgiveness and second chances would require resurrection power?  We generally lean inward to self to believe we’re only talking about our failures, our sins, our mistakes and our regrets.

Oh, how I want to love like Jesus!

Don’t you?

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries and Chaplain Tammy believes culture changes one heart at a time. Transformed people transform culture, all in the Name of Love!

Everything Jesus did for us, He did out of love.  God showed His Great Love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners (Romans 5:8).  God didn’t just say He loved us, He showed us.

Love is an action that we tend to forget that requires active participation; loving when we don’t feel like it.  We want it OUR WAY AND WHEN WE FEEL LIKE LOVING!!!

Easter shows us the depth and width of God’s Great Love. The Bible says in Psalm 57:3 that God will send down help from heaven to save us because of His Love.  That’s what Jesus did on Easter. Jesus came from heaven to save us because of His amazing love.

And when they came to the place that is called “The Skull,” they crucified Jesus there with the criminals, one on His right and one on His left (Luke 23:33).

Amazing how Jesus is still showing His Love as He takes the works of the crucifixion and turns it into the first “Christian community” placing emphasis on the criminals alongside of Him.  

A Christian community is when two or more are gathered together. Jesus established the first Christian Community with prisoners. The Word declares it, For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them” (Matthew 18:20).

Jesus may have appeared insignificant to the world; yet, He is our greatest gift that keeps on giving and our greatest advocate!  Without His Great Love, we surely could not love.  Without His forgiveness, we truly could not forgive and release the imprisonment of rage and bitterness. 

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Forgiveness Practice

This is the beauty and power of the resurrection as Good Friday Meets Jesus On Death Row.  When Jesus stretched His arms out as wide as the cross, He was saying, “I love you this much!  I love you to eternity. I love you so much, it hurts.  I love you so much, I’ll die for you so that I won’t have to live without you.”  

Knowing I’m loved like that, transforms and unleashes courage to be all He says I am and can be!

Isn’t that why we’re told to love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins?

Because of what Jesus did for us on Good Friday, leading to Resurrection Sunday (Easter), forgiveness reminds us that we cannot diminish human beings.  “We’re all capable of being better than our worst selves.”

They crucified Jesus with criminals, and there’s good reason Jesus made it a point to draw our focus towards those incarcerated both at the beginning of His ministry (Luke 4:18-19) and all the way to the end (Matthew 25:35-36).

The Church is challenged to Call For Abolition by advocating for the repeal of capital punishment.  This requires the Body of Christ to walk out through LOVE human dignity that requires us to build opportunities for healing, community and redemption.

We can’t just pretend to love others.  We have to really love them!!!  Hate what is wrong.  Hold tightly to what is good (Romans 12:9).

He is Risen!

Until next time…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries and Chaplain Tammy believes in investing in people, not prisons, whereas to invest in the value of each resident in our prisons through God's Great Love and programming. We feel punitive punishment of dehumanizing others only encourages higher recidivism rates and more crime creating unhealthy and unsafe communities.

Dehumanization Is Not The Answer…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries and Chaplain Tammy believes in investing in people, not prisons, whereas to invest in the value of each resident in our prisons through God's Great Love and programming. We feel punitive punishment of dehumanizing others only encourages higher recidivism rates and more crime creating unhealthy and unsafe communities.

Dehumanization Is Not The Answer…

This is a picture of a GROUP THERAPY session at California’s San Quentin Prison. Personally, all I can see is an animalistic inkling.

This is how some of our men and women incarcerated live; for many years also. They go from one cage to another. Residing in these tiny cages 23 hours a day.  They are put in there for disciplinary reasons, SAFETY concerns and/or investigative reasons, but…

After just a couple of hours, psychological warfare sets in.  

There’s a line here. Has to be! One etched in dignity. Like Brene’ Brown said, Dehumanizing others crosses that line. And it still sadly exists today, even though it obviously never worked to rehabilitate, make communities that are safer, and/or decrease recidivism rates and crime with over 2.2 million people incarcerated in the U.S.

Wonder why???  

It’s a process of stripping all mental capacities which deprives them of human qualities and makes them appear less human, creating animalistic qualities full of rage, if you ask me. There’s nothing rehabilitative and transforming in this inhumane treatment.

They do need to serve their time for their crime; however, but in this setting/time out that can last years, it just creates more rage and violence. Imagine years like this!!!

Their lives need redemption and it’s kind of hard to identify and change old behavioral problems due to their own childhood traumas and deep wounds in this environment. This just reinforces their hostile triggers and reactions that they never learned to deal with because of generational dysfunction and/or systemic trauma with nobody taking the time to invest into their lives and teach them the tools necessary for success.

This is not an acceptable form of rehabilitation, this is creating more problems and more violence.  They need skills and environments conducive to healing and wholeness that a sterile cage cannot deliver.

If you stuck me inside one of those cages for more than a couple hours, even with all my favorite books, I’d become crazy and hostile too, much less for years.  Being provoked doesn’t take much when you’re stuck in a cage being treated like an animal and mocked with no one to speak with/to or engage in conversation with. 

The ground turns into some pretty scary hallucinations, I’m sure.  

And if you’re not coached/led to some form of self-reflection and community, you’re never going to understand how to exist in community as a productive member of society that you struggled with in the first place due to your poor choices and decisions that contributed to your incarceration. Therefore, you will continue to exist through this revolving door of repeated criminal conduct and state prison with many more people suffering due to being unhealed and this dysfunctional behavior.

Hurt People Hurt Others, But Healed People Heal!

It’s sad! A travesty.  I get all sides being a survivor of violent crimes myself, being a chaplain, marrying once into law enforcement/corrections, along with a son who did time, but this is inhumane and it’s not solving anything except for throwing the keys away of residents whose lives do matter, have value and can be redeemed and transformed.

That’s the power of our beautiful Jesus, He’s in the business of transforming lives, and I’ve been honored to witness it!  That’s what prisons and/or healing centers are supposed to deliver, transformed lives. Sadly, the deep hurts that led the men and women to prison in the first place are RARELY dealt with.  In fact, we release them back into society in worse shape than when they entered state prison. That’s scary and not building safer communities.  And now you can see why.

This is just an easy way to pocket the money of taxpayers that should be going to programs that actually change lives, restore and bring healing to all affected by crime, especially the victims.

And the scary and sad thing about this is, our residents have been suffering in silence locked up now for over a year without programming and/or visitation from loved ones due to COVID and we wonder why they’re so full of anxiety, rage and suicidal ideation right now. We have our work cut out for us once we get back inside our state prisons to facilitate programming.

Talk about a humanitarian crisis!

That’s the end of that honest narrative in Tammy Tangent fashion.  Guess I needed to purge my own frustrations in what others are trying to cover over.  Amazing what God exposes at times.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries and Chaplain Tammy believes that human suffering could connect all of us, if only we had the courage to share in it.

Until next time…