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Blameless and Forever Free Ministries realizes hurting children grow into hurting adults. Our prisons are filled with beloveds who have suffered their own childhood trauma and need hope and healing for restorative purposes. Today's offender will be tomorrow's neighbor so if we want safer communities, we need to bring the focus in our prisons to rehabilitation and restoration leading to reintegration.

Hurting Children Grow Into Hurting Adults!

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries believes  that hurting children become hurting adults  causing trauma and I healed pain that affects others.

Hurt People Hurt Others, But Healed People Heal!

I repeatedly watched my father’s beat-into-submission cornering of my mother through rage and control while clutching a beer in his left hand. His dangling right hand empowered with flexibility slapped away our quivering lips and stilled our own screams into silence and defeat.

Sometimes pain crushes you. It leaves you incapable of love and void of everything. The brokenness craters a deep wound. Tears no longer roll down your cheeks and screams won’t escape past your lips. Instead, the force brews inside until its burn shatters your broken soul.

I never felt safe or protected after being exposed to these gut-punching realities. I continued to bury the tears and fears that formed a glacier surrounding my heart in ice.

From the weight and movement of my own childhood trauma, this powerful force began to flow outward and downward under its own pressure taking down anyone and everything that was in its path of erosion.

The tears may have initially escaped my eyes, but the shame of the hurt ran away down my cheeks and lingered deeply. Turning my pain inward only regressed my fears and caused a battle within of chaos and unbearable burning.

Feelings that once masked any trace of childhood trauma were now visible. One day after my father died, I noticed how my own reactive behaviors modeled his. My dad may have died, but his life of pain and rage was very much still alive; within me.

Teaching others the value of walking together so that the world can believe in the power of God’s Great Love (John 17:23).

Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) have a tremendous impact on future violence victimization and perpetration, with lifelong health and opportunity.

Working together, we can help create neighborhoods, communities, and a world in which every person can survive and thrive.

Creating opportunities for healing inside our state prisons requires connection and communication, not isolation. Sometimes all it takes is a person filled with God’s Great Love, hope and compassion who has been healed themselves to help uncover unhealthy behaviors that are destroying everyone in its path. This builds bridges of healing.

If we’re not open to discussions leading to what triggers violent behavior, how are we going to experience the peace and transformation that restorative justice practices and trauma-informed care delivers?

Today’s offender will be tomorrow’s neighbor!

Until next time…

Injustice Anywhere Is A Threat To Justice Everywhere…

Injustice Anywhere Is A Threat To Justice Everywhere. – Martin Luther King, Jr.

When State Prison Becomes Our Permanent First Home!

I’m often asked, “What are the people like inside our prisons?”

They’re broken beloveds in need of healing, but they’re also God’s children. Sadly, around 25% of all incarcerated people have spent part of their youth in foster care (Doyle, 2007). 40% to 50% of former foster youth also become homeless within 18 months after leaving care.

While running a homeless organization, I fought RELENTLESSLY to get a few beloveds who were once in the foster care system into permanent housing. That paled in comparison to how hard housing would be for our returning citizens once they’re released from state prison.

Sadly, we are sending more foster children to prison than colleges. With an annual price tag on incarceration in California being approximately $81,000 a year, we need more focus on programs, because every person is REDEEMABLE!

Gut-punching, raw words spoken from an incarcerated man, still under 21.

“From the time I was 3 until I turned 14, I was bounced to 80 (yes, eighty) different foster homes. When I turned 18, I found myself alone and homeless, and resorting to a life of crime.

Now, at 20, I finally have a home more permanent than any I’ve ever known; state prison!

I’m just one of many kids who age out of foster care…”

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States are failing in their role as parents to America’s most vulnerable children. They’ve already suffered enough trauma and adverse childhood experiences. It’s time for God’s Great Love to step in and bring healing.

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. – Martin Luther King, Jr.

Time’s up! When our kids age out of foster care; everyone suffers. Hurting children grow into hurting adults. Our state prisons should never become a beloved’s first permanent home.

Our state prisons are filled with hurt people that hurt others, but healed people can and will bring healing!

Until next time…

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