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Seven Days of Gratitude… Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

Gratitude Wall

Seven Days of Gratitude…

Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows (James 1:17).

Hello Beautiful! I pray you’re having a blessed week so far and are enjoying being a member of the H-O-T Club; you know, doing life together with other Beautiful Beloveds that operate under the conviction of being honest, open, and transparent. Talk about building community! 

Oh, how our Lord smiles with great joy knowing His Beautiful Beloveds are coming together to connect, celebrate and contribute while being honest, open and transparent.

It’s that time again, it’s Tammy Tangent Tuesdays…

With all the raging storms filled with heartbreaking tragedies affecting our world today, it’s challenging to keep our minds focused on the beauty, life and peace that our Beautiful Jesus offers us.

If only we could keep our minds focused on our Beautiful Jesus and be grateful, we would sojourn this side of heaven knowing:

We’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven (Matthew 5:14-16 MSG).

Life is all about our Heavenly Father, you know, and the glory we bring to His amazing name. That requires being grateful and not lives filled with groans and grumblings.

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This weekly challenge should be fairly easy to do, but it will require some dedication and determination, especially if life has brought on unexpected challenges or tragedies due to the effects from natural disasters, disease, or even the tragic death of a loved one.

We can always find items we’re grateful for that deliver the blessings that a cheerful heart being great medicine offers so our crushed spirits won’t dry up our bones (Proverbs 17:22). 

Writing down items that we are grateful for in our journals or on a piece of paper (journal wall) and posting it to our refrigerators where we frequent often, even taping it to the bathroom mirror or better yet, copy it to the wallpaper on our cellphones (♥♥) , as a great reminder and a gentle way to help transform our hearts and minds to a place that transcends all understanding.

Being grateful is powerful medicine and a great healer. Also, it’s great medicine for our souls, you know, the antidote that keeps our attitudes in check that acts similar to an accountability partner.

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Weekly challenge:  Write down seven items each day on your journal wall that you’re grateful for daily for seven consecutive days. They cannot be repeated again once you’ve listed them as an item you’re grateful for.

At the conclusion of this challenge, you will have a tangible reminder of forty-nine reasons to be grateful for and it will help rejuvenate your downcast soul. 

Come to the Grateful Wall and start documenting your items by listing what you’re grateful for. Remember, give thanks to the Lord, for His love endures forever (Psalm 136:1).

Sweet friend, one thing our tender hearts must never lose sight of:  We are not here by mistake. There is a plan for our lives and we are woven together to radiate our Papa God’s light this side of heaven.

If we believe in the life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, our future, which is our eternal destiny, is built on the most amazing and solid foundation that can never be shaken, destroyed or taken away from us (Hebrews 12:28). 

James 1:17 reminds us, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” 

That means… We have a lot to be grateful for!!!

Until next time…

Thank You For Being Beautiful You!


James 1:17

Living With Addiction Day 20 ~ Broken Behaviors of Abuse

Blameless Scars and Shame

Living With Addiction

Strongholds of Shame

Broken Behaviors of Abuse

Day 20 of 40

How does a Beloved heal, much less move forward, after encountering one’s best friend cradled in the arms and refuge of her own husband?  Did I forget to mention that my best friend and I were both business partners in a court reporting business that required day in, day out contact and cooperation occupying the same space and airways as one another?  There’s no room for a cat fight in a court of law!

Do I hear awkward?  I don’t know whose motives were worse, hers or mine!  How about both being destructive and lost!  One vying for revenge through the scorn of power and the other like a mouse running for cover in the presence of a cat!

My motives and deliverance were based solely on Vengeance with a capital “V” with having the upper hand in holding the power brought on through daily punishment in working together.  Makes absolutely no sense, I know!  She worried about her reputation and profession and I worried about feeding my babies while controlling our business arrangement my way!

You may take my man, but you won’t survive my plan!  Can I hear kudos to the scorned Queen?

Honestly, what was I thinking?  After I kicked my husband out of our home, those two ended up cohabitating for a period of time, supposedly for the sole economic convenience, until reconciliation developed between my husband and I.  Welcome to the behavior of use and abuse! 

And here I felt pity and compassion for her when I allowed him back into our home.  Seriously?

My battle scars ran so deep, not only was I consumed with covering up my perceived failure as a wife which justified the actions of these two selfish individuals, but the shattered image that projected my source of identity could no longer thrive and survive.  I now became that dubious distinction; no longer desired as a Beautiful Beloved. 

Cells of hell are built on insecurities and identity blasters!

My shame evolved around spending countless hours and resources trying to hide and cover up the behaviors of others who needed to be exposed.  My sweeping it underneath the rug just enabled freedom for it to occur again and again.  It also robbed me of my voice and prevented healing, not to mention the acceptance in the behavior that would subsequently become violent!

Because denial lost its battle, I needed a new go-to, a new source of strength to handle all the pressures in burying this infidelity.  Since suicidal tendencies and drug abuse didn’t work in the past, my desperation sought out the comforts delivered from Coors Light!  Can’t lose the figure in the process, right?  I started covering up this pain through good ‘ole beer drinking just to take the edge off.

Herein lies the daughter of alcoholism and rage.  If you can’t beat ’em, join ’em, right?  Isn’t that the old adage?  Wrong…  This just further contributed to my alter ego developing a life that was similar in nature to court reporting; you’re hearing it and taking it all down, but it goes in one ear and out the other, blinding my reality and exposure to unhealthy behaviors.

Sadly, this left the door wide open for its festering effects of bitterness and anger to attach and disease all of my vital organs.  It also allowed full exposure for the flaming arrows to penetrate my tattered and bleeding heart.  My precious cubs were left unprotected and in an environment that was unhealthy over and over again.  I became so numb, infidelity and abuse had full rein and control over my life.

We have to be fierce lionesses standing firm, facing our enemy and looking him square in the eye, while being self-controlled and alert.  Not buzzed and medicated on alcohol or drugs.  The enemy prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.  We need to let the enemy know whose authority and power we are standing on and living under through the sharing of our sufferings with one another (1 Peter 5:8-9)!

After all, let’s continue to be honest here while remembering that our friends and associates mirror us, so let’s say cheese!!!  This is why the Lord cautions us to be careful with those whom we spend a lot of time with because we will become like those surrounding us; and bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33).  Some of us are slow learners and that would be me!

Betrayal in marriage is a double-edged sword and it hurts all who are near.  I have to believe that some pain and difficult trials are oftentimes the only doorway leading towards development that God uses for complete healing.  This enables us to receive His best that otherwise would never have been received!  God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who call upon His name (Psalm 34:18)!  I’m living proof!

Until next time…

The Beauty of the Lamb Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

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Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

The Beauty of the Lamb!

No Ugly Duckling Here

Hello Beautiful!  I pray you’re having a blessed week walking joyfully on those golden stepping stones of realization that have been carefully laid out through every acknowledgement while building your gratitude wall this past week.  It’s that time again; it’s Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!  I pray your tender hearts are able to see the beauty and blessings that abound our lives from last week’s challenge even when life is hard and full of pain!  In case you missed it, just click here:  Gratitude Wall.

Since our Tammy Tangent Tuesdays’ challenges are geared toward us Beautiful Beloveds exclusively until the first of the year, acknowledging that we’re so dearly loved and quite beautiful requires first understanding the beauty that exists in the mind of the Be-Loved and Be-Held.  Once we grasp that concept, this Great Love unleashes a breathtaking love affair that blooms radiance.  The power of this amazing Love is not only unconditional, but it never ceases to satisfy, nurture and cultivate this assurance which opens our eyes to the true beauty looking back at us in the mirror! 

That unbelievable feeling you get when you’re fully known, cherished, pursued, loved and accepted just the way you are!  You’re giddy, you’re alive, you’re even powerful!  Your magnetism draws in and intensifies more love, surrendering that confident step in your glide as Blameless No Ugly Duckling 1you gracefully waltz through this side of heaven with your head held high because you know and believe in the One leading.  No one can put a price tag on that fulfillment, nor can anyone take it away from you.  It’s yours and it’s free!

Oh, how He loves us!!!  When we start seeing ourselves as God sees us; pursued, lovely, pure, beautiful, precious, valued, cherished, and did I say loved (after all, when you’re loved, you’re oh-so-much more than penned words ♥♥), certain behaviors and attitudes develop that everyone is drawn to.  When God’s love truly permeates deep into our hearts and souls, we make room for the natural beauty to bloom and shine. 

Beautiful Beloved, the Lord God Almighty, the Creator of the universe, wants to live in us, yes us, because we’re precious, we’re beautiful, we’re extremely valuable and we have a purpose for His kingdom!  We’re so valuable to Him, He constantly pursues us!  If you ponder those amazing words over and over instead of believing the lies of the enemy that occupy so much space in your neighborhood (your mind) holding you captive, you will walk confidently with the reassurance and affirmation that we constantly seek from others, like men, our children, careers, accomplishments, image, you name it!  We are beautiful just the way we are!

When we realize we have an enormous advocate, our Creator, who designed us not only in His image, but designed us specifically for a relationship with Him because we’re that special and beautiful; when you love someone, you will fight for them!  Trust me, girlfriend, God always, whether we realize it or not, triumphs so let’s let Him in and Be-loved and Be-held!  What do we have to lose anyways? 

Let’s run to the Lord similar to what my granddaughter did when she heard me unlocking the door when I got home.  She ran over to me with tears streaming down her cheeks, with outstretched arms, squealing to be picked up before I could even put my purse and groceries down.  As the groceries crashed to the floor along with my purse and Bible, nothing in the world mattered but my Princess Ella.  The only thing on my mind was that she needed me; to be held tight, loved on, consoled and sang to because she knows me and trusts me. 

She may have needed that extra love, but the blessings and memories she poured into my heart that evening will forever be cherished and keep me smiling; similar to what makes God smile.  God wants to know He is loved and needed, too.  Let’s run to Him with outstretched arms and sing praises of His Greatness as He continues to walk alongside of us while holding our hands; that is what blesses Him!  The beauty of the lamb!

Weekly challenge:  Let’s bless God.  We bless Him by having hearts filled with love, praise, and gratitude.  Let’s lift up holy hands, blessing God by walking confidently in who He says we are and radiating that natural beauty.  Yes, that’s what makes Him happy!  Knowing and believing we are precious, we are beautiful, we are valuable, we have purpose, and that God loves us just the way we are will bless God.  Stand tall, Beautiful; never forget, you’re an heir to the kingdom of God.  Wow, what a privilege!  Your crown is secure; wear it proudly!

Until next time, never forget…

Thank You For Being Beautiful You!


Let’s Blow Up Facebook and Social Media Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

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Hello Beautiful!  I pray you are having a blessed week so far filled with all the love and beauty you generate just by being Beautiful You!!!  ♥♥  It’s that time again, it’s Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!!! 

Tammy wants to come out and play by giving back to each and every Blameless Bloody Mary Flowers 7woman around the world by telling her how beautiful and special she is!  That requires help, from all of you!  Every woman WANTS and NEEDS to hear how beautiful she is by hearing one of the many reasons why others think she is beautiful. 

Let’s blow up Facebook and other social media forums (I will get arrested now) with love and encouragement so every single Beautiful Beloved is acknowledged for her own unique qualities!  Truth be told, I feel since we’re so quick to post our political positions and objections, sharing selfies, slam religions, etc., let’s do the opposite and post love through praise and recognition.  Yes, I’m throwing a Tammy Tantrum instead of a Tammy Tangent!  🙂

Blameless Hands of God 4.4Weekly challenge:  Pass the flower around by picking seven girlfriends and tell them one thing you love and admire about them on their Facebook page by hitting the share button of this week’s Tammy Tangent Tuesdays onto their Facebook page and start an outpouring and overwhelming amount of love and beauty to each and every Beautiful Beloved.  Thank them by stating, “Thank you for being Beautiful You!  I think you’re beautiful because…” ♥♥

Remember, our friends fight for us, they respect us, they include us, they encourage us, theyneed us, they deserve us, and they stand by us!  This is our virtual opportunity to smile radiating that beautiful spirit that resides within us.  One person gets to bless seven Beautiful Beloveds all across our world!  Let’s make hearts smile!

Just think how quickly this can spread around the world.  Oh, happy day to spread some sunshine around in our dark world!!!  Our world needs to hear more love, more encouragement, more cheer, and definitely a whole lot more joy to build up and construct confident Beloveds rather than the demolition derby that seems to be prevalent these days with the ease in tearing down others on social media.  Radiate that beautiful you that is sitting idle; let this stir something inside of you to bless others with a word of encouragement. 

Think about it, if every woman on Facebook told just one woman why they believe she is beautiful, it would be a matter of weeks before every woman in the world is told how beautiful and appreciated she is.  Domino effect!  What a better way to bring unity into our communities.

Most of all, Beautiful Beloved, thank you for being Beautiful You!  There is no one like you; never will be!  God loves you just the way you are, and so do I. ♥♥

Until next time…

Thank You For Being

Beautiful You

What These Eyes See Now Matters ~ Tammy Tangent Tuesdays


Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

What These Eyes See Now Matters!

Hello Beautiful!  I pray you are having a blessed week so far!  It’s that time again, it’s Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!!!  This weekly challenge is dedicated to all of the single parents trying to sojourn through what appears to be a swamp land filled with nothing but quicksand that is pulling them under with no way to be rescued, refreshed and restored.  Plus, think about all those precious little eyes that need help in seeing what the kingdom of God is like this side of heaven.  ♥♥

Sadly, I know all too well what it was like to be a single parent raising two children of my own without any help.  I admittedly made numerous mistakes while doing the best I could with delirium, fear and chaos leading the way, but one thing is tragically apparent to me that we cannot deny; with the Blameless Single Parents Isaiah 46.4predominance of society today rearing children in single households, we need to reach out to all of these heavily burdened parents and start helping with co-hosting nights of babysitting services and sharing our struggles.  Being a parent is hard; you don’t have to be a single parent to understand that feat.  We all need time to be renewed.

In sharing in the responsibility to love, care and nurture my granddaughter, one thing I am reminded of is how demanding it is to even go to the grocery store with children in tote, much less living daily life juggling family and career.  It takes you an hour to get your car packed and loaded just to get everyone to their respective places.  It’s rush here, rush there; snap here, snap there, simulating nothing but alligators in the swamp awaiting their devour.  By the time you get to your destination, everyone has been bit and overwhelmed. 

As a grandparent, I experience love through a lens that offers a renewed perspective to cherish this time without juggling.  My son even pointed out his jealousy in how my granddaughter just snuggles in tight while being still.  This Grammy Tammy’s life and world does stop with literally no demands except for what my Princess wants.  This highlights the difference between roles and in wanting to help my son be the best parent possible, it made me think about ways we can help each other bring unity and purpose into our communities in areas that we might not otherwise think about or cater to.

This weekly challenge is to start co-hosting babysitting nights throughout our churches and friendship circles.  Extend an offering to anyone you know Blameless Proverbs 22.6who is a single parent.  Great excuse for building relationships and community!  There are many Beautiful Beloveds that have barren wombs who would love to love on our children and offer refuge and friendship to those that reciprocated.  I know a few personally! 

I may have struggled more than I should have parenting alone because I didn’t have the resources like many, but it was primarily because I DID NOT TRUST anyone due to the pain afflicted from a painful past that pushed away God’s blessings of help from others.  Many tender hearts are living the same way; in fear.  Relationships take time and commitment; and this is helping those who really need it by getting to know one another and establishing trusting relationships through co-hosting. 

We need to intervene and help not only the single parents, but our children in today’s society need to see what the kingdom of God is like this side of heaven through people who are willing to be the hands and feet of God.  Every person matters, and we are helping the next generation through love and service by modeling how God loves His children. This is also a great way to connect single parents together since their time is so limited.

Let’s start co-hosting babysitting services where new life can be renewed and restored for all while teaching those little eyes NOW what true Love is.

Until next time…

Thank You For Being Beautiful You!!!

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The Offering ~ Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

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Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

The Offering! 

Hello Beautiful!  I pray you are having a blessed week so far!  It’s that time again, it’s Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!!!  This weekly challenge is probably going to require a little stepping outside of our comfort zones in being the hands and feet of God, but it will bless others with the provision and hope that a “free ride” offers.

I overheard a couple of people last weekend at church sharing that they would love to come to church more often and get involved in the community if they had a ride.  They shared the depth of their grateful hearts, but they feel a sense of embarrassment due to the constant imposition.  It tears down their worth and value.  It can be degrading emotionally, spiritually and physically when our sense of independence is hampered.

Let’s face it, when it’s above 80 degrees outside, walking a short distance makes a person perspire and uncomfortable with their presence.  Lord knows, us menopausal women know how humiliating and uncomfortable it is to be cold and clammy one minute and hot and sweaty the next.  Forget it!  Talk about being a hot mess that wants to hide, preferably in the freezer!   🙂

This weekly challenge is easy.  Let’s position ourselves to be “the offering” that will bless someone in need, whether it’s giving them a ride to church, to the store, to the doctor’s, or even to a friend’s house.  This extends to our neighbor’s teenager whose mother is working nonstop just to keep a Blameless The Offering 2.2roof over their head.  It’s an extremely easy way to serve others by giving rides to church.  You’re already going. Extending those golden nuggets as an offering could be the conduit that God uses as a stepping stone to bless the life of another this side of heaven.  What a valuable gift!  If you don’t know anyone who needs a ride, contact your church to see if they do; be proactive.  You could even ask to be put down in the weekly bulletin or start a ministry called “The Offering” to help spread the news in your congregation.  There are so many people who don’t go to church because they’re unable to get there for a variety of reasons; whether it’s because of the heat, too cold, disabled, too far, etc.  We all need to be carried at times.

“The Offering” could also extend to reaching out to the lonely and alienated.  When we get to know the people in our congregations and communities, one common thread is apparent; oftentimes peopleBlameless Flowers Bunch don’t go to church because they don’t know anyone and/or they don’t want to go alone.  Some of us may welcome going alone from time to time, but for most people, they want the added security of a physical being that will walk alongside of them until they get comfortable so they won’t stand out feeling so isolated.  One may be the loneliest number that anyone will ever do, so let’s invite and be a part of their lives.  This kind of “Love” requires action, which is being the kind of friend that Jesus is and teaches in the gospels!  Challenge yourself this week by extending the invitation in being the hands and feet of God by presenting yourself as an offering while remembering, without each other, there’s no beauty in the bunch!  We need each other to bloom and grow! ♥♥

Until next time…

Thank You for being Beautiful You!

Being the Hands of God Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

 Tammy Tangent Tuesdays

Being the Hands of God!

Hello beautiful!  I pray you’re having a great week so far.  It’s that time again, it’s Tammy Tangent Tuesdays!!!  I don’t know about you, but I believe we all need someone who will reach out and help strengthen us as we sojourn through this life; whether it’s given through a sprinkling of love from a simple smile, a hug, a tender touch, precious time, or that much-needed encouragement. 

Have you ever wondered what being the hands and feet of God is like?  I admittedly never thought much of the impact until a girlfriend shared this beautiful song with me called “Being the Hands of God” by Francesca Battistelli.  It is amazing the blessings that loving others the way God asks us to signifies.  It just resonated so deeply within my heart the significance and import that simple and random acts of kindness offer through healing Blameless Hands of God 6and is a key to unlocking the doors of heaven here on earth while bringing unity back into our churches and communities. 

We all need to love and be loved; so simple, yet somehow or another we’ve lost this delicate art!  War and division seem so much easier than to just love others.  This song illustrates beautifully the importance in being the hands and feet of God (1 Corinthians 12:14-24 and Romans 12:4-8) and is exactly what the body of Christ was designed and meant to do; reaching out and pouring love into others; therefore, revealing who Jesus Christ is.  “Every time you reach out, I can feel His love so near.  I hope you know to me you are the hands of God.”  This amazing song with lyrics can be listened here: 

Blameless Hands of God 2.2Just knowing that reaching out and loving on another Beautiful Beloved through simple encouragement and an easy gesture was considered being the hands of God, it just inspires me to continue sharing and pouring out the love of Christ.  We are all in this together, and we need each other to weather the storms in life, and it takes just a few minutes to tell someone you love them and appreciate them; offering a shoulder to cry on; the touch of a hand; a card saying “I love you and appreciate you”; a simple token of “I’m sorry, please forgive me”; flowers “Just because”; these random acts of love and thoughtfulness radiate the sunshine and growth that keeps us blossoming into the Beautiful Beloveds God designed and created us to be. 

Blameless Hands of God 4.4No matter how hard our own lives are, blessing others with simple deposits of love not only sprinkle blessings and affirmation onto the recipient, it creates an atmosphere that takes our minds off of self and pity and unites and knits together woven strands of love that are so strong, they can break down the walls of division and spread the love of Jesus that only the transforming power can accomplish and conquer.  We are here to encourage one another through love.  All lives are messy and need help from time to time; and when we reach out, pull up and share our lives with another through love and service, we are being the hands and feet of God.

Weekly Challenge:  Since Jesus reaches down to us and meets us where we are so He can heal our bleeding hearts, let’s start emulating His life by using His power that exists in our own hands.  I don’t know about Blameless Hands of God 5.5you, but I want to utilize the hands of God that extends to everyone I cross paths with, whether I know them or not, and leave a deposit of love on their life!

Let’s take the time this week to reflect on the fact that we have the privilege in being loved and to love, along with the privilege of time right here and right NOW!!!  With that understanding, this will usher in the time to be friendly!  Say hi, smile, make eye contact, pray over, hand a flower to, open the door for someone and radiate that Beautiful You without hastily rushing by others without much thought or concern.  This is such a simple start in unleashing the power in being the hands of God!  Together we can make a difference!  With no guarantees of tomorrow, never forget:

Thank you for being Beautiful You!

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