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Love Wins…

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Release and restore. A willingness to embrace discomfort is absolutely essential to you being amazing you!

But as long as I’m worshipping other people’s approval, I can never accept myself.  And as long as I never accept myself, I never give anyone else a chance to accept me, know me, and love authentic ME!!!  

Why am I so darn afraid of being Beautiful Me?  
Why do I sabotage and set myself up for failure?  
Fear?  Hello...

When I’m trying to be in an approval-based relationship with everyone, it costs me myself and it means I can’t be in an acceptance-based relationship because I’m in a perpetual posture of rejecting myself, not accepting myself.  

So until we learn to actually accept ourselves, then we’ll always be worshipping other people’s approval or disapproval depending on if we’re compliant or defiant.

Embracing discomfort is absolutely essential if you’re going to be yourself and say yes to you. It means we’re ALWAYS unwilling to experience the uncomfortable fear of rejection.  It doesn’t always mean rejection will happen, it means “I will feel rejection.”  

And that’s okay... 🙏🙏🏿🙏🏽💝

We hurt ourselves from trying to hide from emotional pain.  Our self preservation instincts says to stay as far away from pain as possible.  But that just robs us of the love that God is waiting to pour into our lives.  He is our Christmas gift... 💝

When I feel I’m being approved, I have connection.  We don’t need to suffer alone in isolation, we need connection and community for healing.

We fear authenticity because as a child there were times when we stepped into being our authentic selves, and we weren’t recognized for it.  That hurts and it sucked!  We weren’t validated for it.  Being ourselves, it might not get recognized, it may cause abandonment or worse, we will get invalidated when we are being ourselves.

Perfect Love casts out all fear!  God’s Great Love brings people together who need others that will see them, hear them, hear their pain, and hear their heartbreak.  Love wins every time. #blamelessandforeverfreeministries

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Love Wins…

Release and restore.  A willingness to embrace discomfort is absolutely essential in being amazing ME!!!

And as long as I’m running after and worshipping other people’s approval, I will never accept myself.  And as long as I never accept myself, I will never give anyone else a chance to accept me, know me, and love authentic ME!!!

Why can’t we just be?

Fear?

Hello…

When I’m trying to be in an approval-based relationship with everyone, it costs me myself and it means I can’t be in an acceptance-based relationship because I’m in a perpetual posture of rejecting myself, not accepting myself.  

Ouch…

Darn it, I took the bait. Now my head is spinning as the fisherman is reeling me in.

That means I’m still a performance-based queen through my own acceptance-based fears!

That’s a hot mess…

Rejection could be for my protection, too; right?

Hard to shake off those old generational strongholds and insecurities I picked up during my own adverse childhood experiences and trauma.

We all need nurturing and belonging that clothes us with comforting connections. That’s why being authentic is so important; we won’t push others away with our insecurities and fears.

Sitting with our anxiety instead of avoiding it. No more running. It’s wasted energy. Being present is liberating! Let the awkward silence move through you.

Until we learn to actually accept ourselves, we’ll always be worshipping other people’s approval or disapproval, depending on if we’re compliant or defiant.

Why would we give another such power to control and devour?

Embracing discomfort is absolutely essential if we’re going to be ourselves and say yes to ourselves.

And I want to say “yes” to me; don’t you?

This shackling fear means we’re ALWAYS unwilling to experience the uncomfortable fear of rejection.  It doesn’t always mean rejection will happen, it just means “I will feel rejection.”  

I. Will. Feel. Rejection.

EVERYONE feels rejection from time to time…

And given that our self-preservation instincts tells us to stay as far away as possible from emotional pain; pain once felt from the fear of the hook, line and sinker which then released and flung us moving towards it, we became stronger and more resilient in our own acceptance.

So once I befriend and embrace the paralyzing pain delivered from the fear of rejection, it will turn this curse (fear) into blessings.

We can’t always be unwilling to experience the uncomfortable fear of rejection. We become resilient when we faith our fears and lean into it. It’s empowering.

And since my God created us in His image, with the royal blood running through our veins, it’s time to take a stand and embrace being Beautiful You with unique qualities that ONLY YOU AND I POSSESS and quit hiding and running from it.

The world NEEDS what only WE possess!!!

We hurt ourselves from trying to hide from emotional pain.  Our self-preservation MAY SPEAK CONTRARY (get out of that hood), but all that’s done is rob us of the love and healing that God is waiting to pour into our lives being an overcomer.  

Our Beautiful Jesus is our Christmas gift that keeps on giving and giving… 💝

When I feel I’m being approved, I have connection and belonging and an extra cup of confidence.

Connection nurtures, buffers storms by creating resilience and swaddles us tightly in our identity with Christ who alone transforms and restores.

I am not what I have done.  I am what I have overcome!  Redemption.

Overcoming means we are no longer consumed by those hot tears of bitterness and rage springing up. We have more laughter than tears. More joy and less sadness. More resolve and less problems than our insecurities and fears ever birthed. More hope and less fear.

We are called APPROVED; and God is for us, not against us!

God was rejected and wounded by the unfaithfulness of His children over and over again. But His Relentless Love expressed in His pursuit to cover us with His Perfect Gift, He was wounded again by trading His Very Life for us, knowing that we may very well refuse His Great Love again and again and turn our backs!

That’s rejection at its finest, but that’s the God that we serve! He pursues over and over and over again. That’s the spark called hope!

Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. – Desmond Tutu

That’s an unnatural act of Love; God’s Great Love, but we are His chosen and He continues to pursue us.

I want to love others like that.

Sit with me here…

Being vulnerable, we fear authenticity because as a child, there were times when we stepped into being our authentic selves, and we weren’t received or recognized for it. We were rejected. Shamed. Invalidated. Even abandoned or abused. Mocked! Not nurtured.

That hurt turned dark. It developed despair and discouragement that birthed depression and almost death. Every choice and behavior thereafter was triggered and built on the lies of rejection and anxiety.

Being laughed at and discarded while being authentic me has been my greatest trigger between my heart and others. And we wonder why I tried taking my own life 40 years ago?

We weren’t validated for it.  Being ourselves. It might not get recognized, it may cause abandonment or worse, we will get invalidated when we are being ourselves.

But Perfect Love casts out all fear!  

God’s Great Love brings people together who need others that will see them, hear them, hear their pain, and hear their heartbreak.  Love wins every time!

And when we release our fears and become the restored beloveds God created and designed us to be, we become our authentic selves who are available to love on and embrace others who are struggling with the same issues.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Winning the lottery doesn't make you lucky.  Getting to love makes you the luckiest of all because love always wins.  You don't need the love of many - you only need to love many times more than you ever thought you could. Ann Voskamp

The best things in life are oftentimes on the other side of fear. What’s holding you back? Fear of failure? Fear of change? Fear of being alone?

Join me as we run into 2021 celebrating being our authentic selves!!!

Until next time…

Homeless Blanket Drive

Blameless Blanket Drive

Needed: Blankets

(New or Used)

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Blanket Drive

My comfort in my suffering is this:
 Your promise preserves my life (Psalm 119:50).

Freezing temperatures are rampant. While most take for granted the comforts of our safe-havens that provide warmth and comfort, according to the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development, there were over 566,000 counted homeless people in the United States in 2016. Predominantly in western states.

America’s homeless population is rapidly rising. I’m sure it’s over a million now. There are miles and miles of homeless camps/cities.

I don’t have all the answers for solving this epidemic, but I do have hands-on experience witnessing what is working. Delivering love, care, concern and patience brings healing and change.

Attacking this problem proactively is essential. Takes unity! We can no longer turn a blind eye to God’s precious children, nor brush it off onto others to deal with.

We have a responsibility, our “humane responsibility,” to do something. Anything!

Turning our backs on those who are less fortunate due to oppression of various forms, whether it’s through bad choices and decisions, addiction, abandonment, mental illness or having a criminal record and just wanting to escape from society (hey, we’ve all felt this way one time or another) turns into being held captive with no way out. They need help getting back on their feet!

Love and acceptance takes patience!

There are homeless veterans who had no problem fighting for your freedom, so…

What’s wrong with that picture?

Why are we not fighting for their lives?

Love/action can do a lot being God’s hands and feet…

I took the image below last week because I never wanted to lose sight of this frame of despair that exists to blow up our pretentious suburbia lifestyles.

This. Is. Real.

Oh, and it’s spreading and moving into our suburbia communities…

Actually, it’s already here…

Blameless Homeless Gigi 2.24.18

This is a beautiful homeless beloved named Gigi.  Gigi is laying on the freezing cold cement in 27-degree weather with only two blankets. Weighing only 83 pounds, I might add. No meat for heat!

I’m reorganizing my nonprofit organization called Blameless and Forever Free Ministries to include and incorporate more on bridging this huge gap between church and state for homeless needs. It’s challenging, but the Lord has placed a heavy burden on my heart to love on these precious souls.

My insecurities initially buried my passion. Fear cost me both time and money with now having to refile and reorganize. Homelessness was once something I feared to get involved with because lives are messy and it’s definitely not glamorous (being honest).

Everything changed after buying dinner and spending a Friday evening with a homeless man named Fred Carlisson (no longer homeless and success documented by KCRA-3 News) in Granite Bay. Talk about assaulting stares, but his one eye saw everything.

As Fred devoured his food and appreciated the comforts of a warm place, his story changed my life! He didn’t want money, he wanted a job. And he was fully equipped with resumes, too!

Blameless Fred Carlisson

The key that opens doors of trust: Engagement and caring equates Love!

In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how He Himself said,

Blameless is partnering with Hope for the Homeless. We spend every weekend ministering to the needs of the homeless in Sacramento, rain or shine. Blameless is making plans to extend this same grace into the growing homeless population in Roseville.

Using music, food, prayer, the Word of God, and the constancy of presence from dedicated beloveds with open arms and tender hearts are vital instruments in sharing the love of Christ. Trust takes time. Embracing this grace encourages opportunities for change through guidance and second chances.

Blameless Praying Hands

Blankets are golden treasures right now. It’s cold! Please, can you look underneath your beds and linen closets for extra blankets occupying space and donate them?  They don’t have to be in perfect condition, they just need to be a token of warmth and comfort.

If everyone donates one blanket, the warmth delivered will change lives!

Once the homeless are wet, they have nowhere to warm up and end up in a hypothermia state. This costs us all money in the long run through taxes paying for their medical services, etc.

We are out serving the homeless rain or shine. Last weekend we got rather wet and it was a chill that bit. It cuts right to the bone. It’s hard to warm up enough in our vehicles with the heater blasting to thaw out and continue to serve. The homeless don’t have access to this simple luxury.

Blameless Enthusiasm

Your donations are greatly appreciated. If you live in Placer County or Sacramento, please email me hereand I will arrange to have someone pick up the blankets.

Leaving laundered blankets outside of your front door is easy and quite the treasure, knowing you have warmed and comforted a beloved in need.  

If you’re in other areas across the U.S., please take your new or used blankets to any church offering homeless services, your local food bank or homeless shelters.

Thank you for your generosity. Together we are changing the world, one life at a time!

Until next time…

Thank You For Being Beautiful You!