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Blameless and Forever Free Ministries and Chaplain Tammy believe by the time a crime is committed and a victim is harmed, the root causes of the crime may have occurred long ago. D.A. Kevin Barton

By The Time A Crime Is Committed And A Victim Is Harmed, The Root Causes Of The Crime May Have Occurred Long Ago! -D.A. Kevin Barton

By The Time A Crime Is Committed And A Victim Is Harmed, The Root Causes Of The Crime May Have Occurred Long Ago!

-D.A. Kevin Barton

We can’t solve the problem of violence against girls and women without also addressing violence against boys and men.

And our prisons are filled with wounded souls that need healing. This requires connection, community, compassion and safe places for healing to begin.

Ready or not, 95% of our incarcerated residents will be released as our neighbor!

Sexual Assault Against Boys Is A Crisis


It’s far more common than we think. Below are a couple of great articles shedding light as to why we don’t talk about it. It’s far more pervasive than we think.

Discussions regarding sexual violence against boys and men need not be uncomfortable and awkward, but it will require honest, open and transparent communications that require listening and engagement.

I share, taking 15 minutes of time invested in this reading will save souls, maybe even the lives of our own future children, their children and/or our grandchildren.

Sexual violence against boys is far more common than we think. And since Sundays seem to be the perfect day Blameless lays out and exposes hard issues, we’ll continue because our sons, grandsons and future generations, heck ALL BOYS and MEN for that matter, are invaluable members of the Body of Christ and when they’re being attacked, we need to have the courage to stand in the gap with them.

Jesus wants our eyes open through the lens of love and Sabbath days are perfect days to chew on tough matters. If we want to raise boys differently, we must start believing that they are equally capable of feeling pain AND doing violence.

Just reading these couple articles will help empower awareness and shed light to toxic stress, trauma, the reality of our dark culture, and open up a dialogue exposing behaviors of generational household dysfunction that would even think that hazing and bullying are acceptable behaviors, much less without also addressing violence against men and boys.

This is why Blameless and Forever Free Ministries is now adding the incarcerated families to our curriculum to work through some household dysfunctional issues with the residents at Folsom State Prison because there’s an intergenerational link tied to the revolving door of our lives that needs addressing and exposure to sever the strongholds.

After all, there is no shame in our game; Jesus is His Name! And in order to receive healing, we must name it and that requires intention.

The article below is from the Washington Post and it sheds so much light as to why we don’t want to talk about matters concerning boys and men in being sexually violated and how and why we need to engage in these tough questions and conversations.

👉 https://www.washingtonpost.com/magazine/2021/02/22/why-we-dont-talk-about-sexual-violence-against-boys-why-we-should/?arc404=true

I only hope and pray you’ll take the time to look through the lens of trauma and compassion when looking at others that are different from us.

Until next time…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries and Chaplain Tammy believe that love softens traumatic memories. Memories of being loved that we can access or create help us tolerate suffering. It all comes down to love.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries believes trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering that Dr. Peter Levine quoted.

How Our Earliest Experiences Influence Our Relationships Today…

How Our Earliest Experiences Influence Our Relationships Today…

“Do not be afraid; you will not be put to shame.
    Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated.
You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach…” (Isaiah 54:4 NIV)

Trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering, according to Dr. Peter Levine, PhD, the Developer of Somatic Experiencing® A naturalistic and neurobiological approach to healing trauma that is taught in over 42 countries.

When the main thrust of programming is emotional growth, in order to get our incarcerated residents to analyze how their own anger and sadness alchemized into decisions that harmed others, it requires sitting in awkward silence so conversations can process the pain while being vulnerable.

This requires both time and devotion to building trust that initiates and draws out honest, raw, open and transparent conversations that are essential for healing and growth.

When is the last time you sat present just listening, being silent, seeking to understand before being understood?

Mattering is so important! The concept of belonging, it’s hard to hold onto if you think about it!

Meeting a basic, human, minimal need for someone is belonging; knowing that their lives matter. Resilience requires community and when we have a buffer zone, our communities become safer.

Every life has value!

The initial trauma of a young child may go underground, but it will return to haunt us! – James Garbarino

Until next time…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries believes that culture changes one heart at a time.  Transformed people transform culture.