How Our Earliest Experiences Influence Our Relationships Today…
“Do not be afraid; you will not be put to shame.
Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated.
You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach…” (Isaiah 54:4 NIV)
Trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering, according to Dr. Peter Levine, PhD, the Developer of Somatic Experiencing® A naturalistic and neurobiological approach to healing trauma that is taught in over 42 countries.
When the main thrust of programming is emotional growth, in order to get our incarcerated residents to analyze how their own anger and sadness alchemized into decisions that harmed others, it requires sitting in awkward silence so conversations can process the pain while being vulnerable.
This requires both time and devotion to building trust that initiates and draws out honest, raw, open and transparent conversations that are essential for healing and growth.
When is the last time you sat present just listening, being silent, seeking to understand before being understood?Tweet
Mattering is so important! The concept of belonging, it’s hard to hold onto if you think about it!
Meeting a basic, human, minimal need for someone is belonging; knowing that their lives matter. Resilience requires community and when we have a buffer zone, our communities become safer.
Every life has value!
The initial trauma of a young child may go underground, but it will return to haunt us! – James Garbarino
Until next time…