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Blameless and Forever Free Ministries believes trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering that Dr. Peter Levine quoted.

How Our Earliest Experiences Influence Our Relationships Today…

How Our Earliest Experiences Influence Our Relationships Today…

“Do not be afraid; you will not be put to shame.
    Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated.
You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach…” (Isaiah 54:4 NIV)

Trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering, according to Dr. Peter Levine, PhD, the Developer of Somatic Experiencing® A naturalistic and neurobiological approach to healing trauma that is taught in over 42 countries.

When the main thrust of programming is emotional growth, in order to get our incarcerated residents to analyze how their own anger and sadness alchemized into decisions that harmed others, it requires sitting in awkward silence so conversations can process the pain while being vulnerable.

This requires both time and devotion to building trust that initiates and draws out honest, raw, open and transparent conversations that are essential for healing and growth.

When is the last time you sat present just listening, being silent, seeking to understand before being understood?

Mattering is so important! The concept of belonging, it’s hard to hold onto if you think about it!

Meeting a basic, human, minimal need for someone is belonging; knowing that their lives matter. Resilience requires community and when we have a buffer zone, our communities become safer.

Every life has value!

The initial trauma of a young child may go underground, but it will return to haunt us! – James Garbarino

Until next time…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries believes that culture changes one heart at a time.  Transformed people transform culture.
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Blameless and Forever Free Ministries understands that by the time a crime has been committed and a victim is harmed, the root causes of that crime may have occurred long ago. D.A. Kevin Barton

I’m Ready To Heal My Childhood Trauma!

“By the time a crime is committed and a victim is harmed, the root causes of that crime may have occurred long ago.” – District Attorney Kevin Barton

Recognizing the truth from what numerous scientific studies have established, along with countless medical professionals, that children who experience neglect, abuse, socioeconomic disadvantages and other forms of trauma are more likely to suffer from challenges such as mental illness, substance-abuse disorders and even physical health consequences.

This is called adverse childhood experiences, better known as ACEs.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries #ACE 1 Unloving Ways

And when we look at the men and women who are incarcerated in the U.S., they have the highest levels of trauma and abuse in their lives, and we put them in a system that was never designed to work with that history???

Transforming our prisons through trauma-informed care is essential for healing and wholeness and restored lives for all affected by crime.

What these eyes see now matters. Every life matters! If we want safer communities, then it’s time we start changing the narrative and start investing in people, not prisons.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries’ mission is to break the cycle of crime while restoring broken lives through God’s Great Love infused with restorative justice practices and trauma-informed care.

In order to decrease criminal recidivism, treatment intervention must focus on the effects of early life experiences.

Hurt people often Hurt others, but Healed people Heal!

Until next time…

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Love Wins…

#lovewins 
Release and restore. A willingness to embrace discomfort is absolutely essential to you being amazing you!

But as long as I’m worshipping other people’s approval, I can never accept myself.  And as long as I never accept myself, I never give anyone else a chance to accept me, know me, and love authentic ME!!!  

Why am I so darn afraid of being Beautiful Me?  
Why do I sabotage and set myself up for failure?  
Fear?  Hello...

When I’m trying to be in an approval-based relationship with everyone, it costs me myself and it means I can’t be in an acceptance-based relationship because I’m in a perpetual posture of rejecting myself, not accepting myself.  

So until we learn to actually accept ourselves, then we’ll always be worshipping other people’s approval or disapproval depending on if we’re compliant or defiant.

Embracing discomfort is absolutely essential if you’re going to be yourself and say yes to you. It means we’re ALWAYS unwilling to experience the uncomfortable fear of rejection.  It doesn’t always mean rejection will happen, it means “I will feel rejection.”  

And that’s okay... 🙏🙏🏿🙏🏽💝

We hurt ourselves from trying to hide from emotional pain.  Our self preservation instincts says to stay as far away from pain as possible.  But that just robs us of the love that God is waiting to pour into our lives.  He is our Christmas gift... 💝

When I feel I’m being approved, I have connection.  We don’t need to suffer alone in isolation, we need connection and community for healing.

We fear authenticity because as a child there were times when we stepped into being our authentic selves, and we weren’t recognized for it.  That hurts and it sucked!  We weren’t validated for it.  Being ourselves, it might not get recognized, it may cause abandonment or worse, we will get invalidated when we are being ourselves.

Perfect Love casts out all fear!  God’s Great Love brings people together who need others that will see them, hear them, hear their pain, and hear their heartbreak.  Love wins every time. #blamelessandforeverfreeministries

#restoreandrelease #trauma #fisherman 
#rehabilitateandrelease #reintegrate 
#fromprisontocommunity #healing
#reentry #reentrymatters #reentryprogram 
#rehabilitate #courage #compassion #bethechange #bethelight #transformation
#trauma #ACEs #restorativejustice #hope #redemption #god #jesus #lovewins 

https://www.blamelessandforeverfreeministries.org/trauma-wounds

Love Wins…

Release and restore.  A willingness to embrace discomfort is absolutely essential in being amazing ME!!!

And as long as I’m running after and worshipping other people’s approval, I will never accept myself.  And as long as I never accept myself, I will never give anyone else a chance to accept me, know me, and love authentic ME!!!

Why can’t we just be?

Fear?

Hello…

When I’m trying to be in an approval-based relationship with everyone, it costs me myself and it means I can’t be in an acceptance-based relationship because I’m in a perpetual posture of rejecting myself, not accepting myself.  

Ouch…

Darn it, I took the bait. Now my head is spinning as the fisherman is reeling me in.

That means I’m still a performance-based queen through my own acceptance-based fears!

That’s a hot mess…

Rejection could be for my protection, too; right?

Hard to shake off those old generational strongholds and insecurities I picked up during my own adverse childhood experiences and trauma.

We all need nurturing and belonging that clothes us with comforting connections. That’s why being authentic is so important; we won’t push others away with our insecurities and fears.

Sitting with our anxiety instead of avoiding it. No more running. It’s wasted energy. Being present is liberating! Let the awkward silence move through you.

Until we learn to actually accept ourselves, we’ll always be worshipping other people’s approval or disapproval, depending on if we’re compliant or defiant.

Why would we give another such power to control and devour?

Embracing discomfort is absolutely essential if we’re going to be ourselves and say yes to ourselves.

And I want to say “yes” to me; don’t you?

This shackling fear means we’re ALWAYS unwilling to experience the uncomfortable fear of rejection.  It doesn’t always mean rejection will happen, it just means “I will feel rejection.”  

I. Will. Feel. Rejection.

EVERYONE feels rejection from time to time…

And given that our self-preservation instincts tells us to stay as far away as possible from emotional pain; pain once felt from the fear of the hook, line and sinker which then released and flung us moving towards it, we became stronger and more resilient in our own acceptance.

So once I befriend and embrace the paralyzing pain delivered from the fear of rejection, it will turn this curse (fear) into blessings.

We can’t always be unwilling to experience the uncomfortable fear of rejection. We become resilient when we faith our fears and lean into it. It’s empowering.

And since my God created us in His image, with the royal blood running through our veins, it’s time to take a stand and embrace being Beautiful You with unique qualities that ONLY YOU AND I POSSESS and quit hiding and running from it.

The world NEEDS what only WE possess!!!

We hurt ourselves from trying to hide from emotional pain.  Our self-preservation MAY SPEAK CONTRARY (get out of that hood), but all that’s done is rob us of the love and healing that God is waiting to pour into our lives being an overcomer.  

Our Beautiful Jesus is our Christmas gift that keeps on giving and giving… 💝

When I feel I’m being approved, I have connection and belonging and an extra cup of confidence.

Connection nurtures, buffers storms by creating resilience and swaddles us tightly in our identity with Christ who alone transforms and restores.

I am not what I have done.  I am what I have overcome!  Redemption.

Overcoming means we are no longer consumed by those hot tears of bitterness and rage springing up. We have more laughter than tears. More joy and less sadness. More resolve and less problems than our insecurities and fears ever birthed. More hope and less fear.

We are called APPROVED; and God is for us, not against us!

God was rejected and wounded by the unfaithfulness of His children over and over again. But His Relentless Love expressed in His pursuit to cover us with His Perfect Gift, He was wounded again by trading His Very Life for us, knowing that we may very well refuse His Great Love again and again and turn our backs!

That’s rejection at its finest, but that’s the God that we serve! He pursues over and over and over again. That’s the spark called hope!

Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. – Desmond Tutu

That’s an unnatural act of Love; God’s Great Love, but we are His chosen and He continues to pursue us.

I want to love others like that.

Sit with me here…

Being vulnerable, we fear authenticity because as a child, there were times when we stepped into being our authentic selves, and we weren’t received or recognized for it. We were rejected. Shamed. Invalidated. Even abandoned or abused. Mocked! Not nurtured.

That hurt turned dark. It developed despair and discouragement that birthed depression and almost death. Every choice and behavior thereafter was triggered and built on the lies of rejection and anxiety.

Being laughed at and discarded while being authentic me has been my greatest trigger between my heart and others. And we wonder why I tried taking my own life 40 years ago?

We weren’t validated for it.  Being ourselves. It might not get recognized, it may cause abandonment or worse, we will get invalidated when we are being ourselves.

But Perfect Love casts out all fear!  

God’s Great Love brings people together who need others that will see them, hear them, hear their pain, and hear their heartbreak.  Love wins every time!

And when we release our fears and become the restored beloveds God created and designed us to be, we become our authentic selves who are available to love on and embrace others who are struggling with the same issues.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Winning the lottery doesn't make you lucky.  Getting to love makes you the luckiest of all because love always wins.  You don't need the love of many - you only need to love many times more than you ever thought you could. Ann Voskamp

The best things in life are oftentimes on the other side of fear. What’s holding you back? Fear of failure? Fear of change? Fear of being alone?

Join me as we run into 2021 celebrating being our authentic selves!!!

Until next time…

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A Labor Of Love…

2020 sits heavy for many of us as it has been a hard year filled with challenges and unknowns. We mourn the victims of the COVID-19 pandemic, with its relentless rage throughout our communities; a year filled with natural disasters and significant loss of life and nature due to the wildfires and hurricanes; and we especially grieve the loss of beloveds who have died as a result of police violence, hate and division.  

But there has been sparks of hope… 

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries always believes 'tis the season to say thanks

Before our Beautiful Jesus came to save us, there was darkness and unrest, kind of like our chaos nowadays.  “People thought they knew what they needed, but the actuality of the birth of Jesus Christ and how He would rescue us eluded them.”

But those sparks of hope have been radiated throughout the shifting and building of Blameless’ community that is transforming and restoring lives through restorative justice practices and trauma-informed care.  

As we have plowed through disheartening, troubling times that have been rather confusing, our eyes have been inspired with hope for what we value:  Restored and Redeemed lives! 

Watching team members embrace their gifts and experience blessings and further healing themselves while helping facilitate healing to our incarcerated community and victims of crime has been powerful recognizing how we all make up a part of the Body of Christ with our unique gifts that only each person possesses. Tapping into power!  

And to hear how our incarcerated started an accountability group because our physical presence was thwarted to actively answer the calling for God in speaking truth to power and spreading messages of faith, hope, and justice was confirmation of our most treasured and valuable investment: The spiritual lives of people effected by crime and violence.

Hurt People May Hurt People, Healed People Heal, and Transformed Lives Transform Culture!

That’s letting God’s presence bring order to our thoughts, infusing His peace into our entire being, and pausing to embrace and absorb this priceless Gift of God, Jesus Christ, as our greatest gift.

Jesus was born in filth, disease and decay (like us today).  Mary may have delivered and brought down heaven, but it was not in conditions that were indicative of any kingdom affluence and/or privilege.  

It was not a silent night…

There was blood on the ground

You could hear a woman cry

In the alleyways that night

On the streets of David’s town.

And the stable was not clean

And the cobblestones were cold

And little Mary full of grace

With the tears upon her face

Had no mother’s hand to hold.

It was a labor of pain…

It was a cold sky above

But for the girl on the ground in the dark

With every beat of her beautiful heart

It was a labor of love…


Noble Joseph by her side

Calloused hands and weary eyes

There were no midwives to be found

On the streets of David’s town

In the middle of the night.

So he held her and he prayed

Shafts of moonlight on his face

But the baby in her womb

He was the Maker of the moon

He was the Author of the faith

That could make the mountains move.

It was a labor of pain…

It was a cold sky above

But for the girl on the ground in the dark

With every beat of her beautiful heart

It was a labor of love…

For little Mary full of grace

With the tears upon her face

It was not a silent night on the streets of David’s Town;

It was a Labor of Love!


It was nothing short of a Labor of Love.  Mary pondered everything the angel Gabriel delivered, the words of Elizabeth, the shepherds’ pronouncements, and the prophetic words of the Old Testament.  She kept tapping into these treasures seared into her heart along with her faith and trust in God. 

These treasures Mary held near to her heart are what kept her brave and strong. This radiance is what both held and lit the way during darkness. 

We may not understand everything, but we can love and support while believing in others because Jesus radiates within our souls.

“When the divine life possesses the soul, it flows over in gracious ministries among our fellowmen.  The affluence becomes an influence importing itself to others.” – John Henry Jowett

Jesus appeared insignificant to the world and yet, He is the most precious and priceless gift one could ever receive.  Without His Love, we could not love.  Without His forgiveness, we could not forgive and release the imprisonment of rage and bitterness.  Without His Love, we wouldn’t have forgiveness, deliverance, and removal of guilt.  Plus, when we trust in Christ for salvation, we become the Father’s beloved children.

Jesus knows what we will need during times of darkness and unrest.  We may feel too lost, alone and overwhelmed to celebrate Christmas because we think we know what we need right at this moment to guard our hearts, but the actuality of the birth of Jesus Christ and how He will rescue us eludes us.

How is God’s gracious presence being displayed through our lives?

Here Mary, full of grace and God’s favor, pondered in her heart all these treasures and tucked them into folds of her heart that kept her brave and strong.  This radiance is what both held and lit the way during darkness. 

If Mary was highly favored and didn’t understand the gravity and depth of what her son was going to do, how can we relate that back to those who have hurt people because they’re hurt and not allow God’s grace and power to transform today’s offender into tomorrow’s neighbor? 

Maybe we should choose to believe God’s Word instead of our own paralyzing and restricting fears, fears of inadequacy, and/or fears of change.  

Mary mirrored what her relationship with God offered; she believed and trusted Him!  Also, she chose to rely on the truths and promises of God:  God loves me, He chose me, God is with me and will not forsake me.  Nothing is impossible with God. This is not because of my own strength, but because of His presence. 

Think about the following words…

Mary, did you know that your baby boy would one day walk on water?

Mary, did you know that your baby boy would save our sons and daughters?

Did you know that your baby boy has come to make you new?

And this child that you’ve delivered, will soon deliver you.

Did you know that your baby boy has walked where angels trod?

And when you kiss your little baby, you kiss the face of God?

Oh, Mary, did you know? 

Oh, Mary did not know, yet she focused on God’s Great Love and Promises!

We will never know what God is up to unless we trust Him wholeheartedly. Yes, even when it hurts. Christmas is God’s message to us of His relentless Love.

God was first wounded by the unfaithfulness of His beloveds, and then wounded again by trading His very life for theirs, while knowing that they may very well refuse His Great Love again and turn their backs. Yet, He never stops pursuing us because He gave us this precious gift called Immanuel, “God with us.”

Merry Christmas!

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Blameless and Forever Free Ministries O Holy Night... It is from this place on our knees that we will see Our Lord's salvation and deliverance come. #Prayerwarriorsneeded to pray this deadly pestilence off of our state prisons. Prayers to rebuke #COVID-19 spread and death bed.

O Holy Night…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries O Holy Night,  prayers lifted  as it is from this place on our knees that we will see Our Lord’s salvation and deliverance come.
O Holy Night…

O Holy Night…

How Great Thou Art!

It is from this place on our knees that we see Our Lord’s salvation and deliverance come.

‘Till He appeared and the soul felt its worth. A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices. For yonder breaks a new and glorious morn:

Fall on your knees.

Oh, hear the angel voices! O night divine! O night when Christ was born.

O Holy Night! Prayer Warriors Needed!

Bow with Blameless and Forever Free Ministries in humble adoration as we proclaim How Great Thou Art.  A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices.  

It is from this place on our knees that we will see Our Lord’s salvation and deliverance come upon our state prison facilities before more death overtakes.

Only God can deliver supernatural healing over this deadly pestilence now ravaging our prison communities and weary world!!!  

Wherever God’s Love is, there is no fear, because God’s perfect love drives out fear (1 John 4:18 NCV).

Love Moves Against Fear!

Thank you, Jesus, for becoming our Immanuel, “God with us.” It is because of Beautiful You that we can experience hope and true joy amidst such devastation and death.

Jesus, you see our state prison facilities. We’ve lost any and all containment now and thousands upon thousands are getting sick and dying daily. Our state prisons are under attack due to #COVID-19’s chaos, crisis and destruction and we need a major prayer covering for order and control.  

There are incarcerated people, corrections staff, their families, your families, my friends, the Body of Christ, and our communities.  What happens in prison does not stay in prison! We need God’s direct intervention to restrain #COVID-19!

Every Life Matters!!!  

We should all want to come together in order to defeat the lies and division of the enemy and pull heaven down! What happens in prison does not stay in prison! This is what community is and does! It does not discriminate, it supports and works together to build and protect!

What a beautiful picture of unity blossoming! Coming together builds STRONG bridges of opportunities for healing.

How Great Thou Art!  How Great Thou Art! It is from this place on our knees that we see Our Lord’s salvation and deliverance come.

‘Till He appeared and the soul felt its worth. A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices. For yonder breaks a new and glorious morn:  Fall on your knees. Oh, hear the angel voices! O night divine! O night when Christ was born.

He knows our need. To our weakness no stranger!  Behold your King!  Before Him lowly bend!  Behold your King! Your King!  Before Him Bend!

When Christ shall come with shout of acclamation

And take me home, what joy shall fill my heart

Then I shall bow in humble adoration

And then proclaim, my God, How Great Thou Art!

He knows our need. To our weakness no stranger! Behold your King! Before Him lowly bend! Behold your King! Your King! Before Him Bend!

Until next time…

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Violence Behind Bars Is Inescapable & Traumatizing…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries operates under the fact that prisons do not disappear social problems, they disappear human beings.

Violence Behind Bars Is Inescapable & Traumatizing…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries understands that as we sojourn with our Beautiful Jesus back inside our state prison facilities; with society’s obsession with punishment, our job is to also help society understand that cages and violent justice only perpetuates violence and IT WILL NOT break the cycle of evil and/or deliver any healing.

If today’s offender will be tomorrow’s neighbor, prison may be necessary for a time, but it is not a solution to evil and crime.

God has showered us with heaven’s rain seeing goodness overcome evil through forgiveness as relationships between victims, offenders, families and staff have become reconciled and restored.

But…

If justice is accomplished by solely locking a person up in prison as punishment, how can we expect that this will somehow accomplish a betterment of a person who has done evil or even make our communities safer?

Incarcerated beloveds rarely return back to society as a morally better person. They usually re-enter society more broken and damaged than before incarceration.

Regardless of the conditions of the confinement or adaptation of incarceration to institutionalized life, our prisons DO NOT make “bad” men and women “good.” Prisons do not overcome or erase the evil that lurks within the human heart. That takes the power of healing, transformation and redemption.

With our state prisons being in lockdown this year due to COVID-19 leading to isolation, suffering in silence, Blameless understands the importance of shifting the narrative by bringing awareness to what our incarcerated go through. This includes the violence they’re subjected to at times, how and why prisons are factories of racism, the mundane nature of it all, along with sharing that there’s not an easy six-to-eight-week course program that one can take that will deliver healing results.

It’s going to take extra grace and commitment establishing relationships, finding the need behind the need, what triggers their behaviors for accountability purposes, and start pulling down layer by layer of the traumas associated with their lives and crimes.

Our incarcerated lives matter and they have value. They are more than worth the time and commitment needed for healing and restoration.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries understands what these eyes see now matter.  Adverse childhood experiences and traumas surround incarcerated lives.
https://www.blamelessandforeverfreeministries.org/single-post/violence-behind-bars-is-inescapable-traumatizing

Every life matters…

This article and new report by Prison Policy is too important not to start off with taking bits and pieces for a good week to talk about. This is prison life.

We have had increased suicides. We have had significant rioting and killings. Suffering in silence increases mental illness and rage. They have suffered sickness and death due to COVID. The anxiety is real and it’s powerful. It’s dark and it will slay you if you’re not careful.

The plague of violence behind bars is often overlooked and ignored. And when it does receive public attention, a discussion of the effects on those forced to witness this violence is almost always absent.

Most people in prison want to return home to their families without incident, and without adding time to their sentences by participating in further violence. But during their incarceration, many people become unwilling witnesses to horrific and traumatizing violence, as brought to light in a February publication by Professors Meghan Novisky and Robert Peralta.

Participants reported witnessing frequent, brutal acts of violence, including stabbings, attacks with scalding substances, multi-person assaults, and murder. They also described the lingering effects of witnessing these traumatic events, including hypervigilance, anxiety, depression, and avoidance.

We can never lose sight of the fact that “these traumatic events affect health and social function in ways that are not so different from the aftereffects faced by survivors of direct violence and war.”

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries believes that human suffering could connect all of us if only we had the courage to share in it .

We pray after reading this study from Prison Policy, you understand a glimpse of what our incarcerated beloveds are subjected to. This way maybe you’ll become a recipient of such incredible and amazing grace yourself that you respond to offenders beyond a “tit for tat” and “eye for eye” justice. Click here…

Until next time…

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Blameless and Forever Free Ministries realizes hurting children grow into hurting adults. Our prisons are filled with beloveds who have suffered their own childhood trauma and need hope and healing for restorative purposes. Today's offender will be tomorrow's neighbor so if we want safer communities, we need to bring the focus in our prisons to rehabilitation and restoration leading to reintegration.

Hurting Children Grow Into Hurting Adults!

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries believes  that hurting children become hurting adults  causing trauma and I healed pain that affects others.

Hurt People Hurt Others, But Healed People Heal!

I repeatedly watched my father’s beat-into-submission cornering of my mother through rage and control while clutching a beer in his left hand. His dangling right hand empowered with flexibility slapped away our quivering lips and stilled our own screams into silence and defeat.

Sometimes pain crushes you. It leaves you incapable of love and void of everything. The brokenness craters a deep wound. Tears no longer roll down your cheeks and screams won’t escape past your lips. Instead, the force brews inside until its burn shatters your broken soul.

I never felt safe or protected after being exposed to these gut-punching realities. I continued to bury the tears and fears that formed a glacier surrounding my heart in ice.

From the weight and movement of my own childhood trauma, this powerful force began to flow outward and downward under its own pressure taking down anyone and everything that was in its path of erosion.

The tears may have initially escaped my eyes, but the shame of the hurt ran away down my cheeks and lingered deeply. Turning my pain inward only regressed my fears and caused a battle within of chaos and unbearable burning.

Feelings that once masked any trace of childhood trauma were now visible. One day after my father died, I noticed how my own reactive behaviors modeled his. My dad may have died, but his life of pain and rage was very much still alive; within me.

Teaching others the value of walking together so that the world can believe in the power of God’s Great Love (John 17:23).

Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) have a tremendous impact on future violence victimization and perpetration, with lifelong health and opportunity.

Working together, we can help create neighborhoods, communities, and a world in which every person can survive and thrive.

Creating opportunities for healing inside our state prisons requires connection and communication, not isolation. Sometimes all it takes is a person filled with God’s Great Love, hope and compassion who has been healed themselves to help uncover unhealthy behaviors that are destroying everyone in its path. This builds bridges of healing.

If we’re not open to discussions leading to what triggers violent behavior, how are we going to experience the peace and transformation that restorative justice practices and trauma-informed care delivers?

Today’s offender will be tomorrow’s neighbor!

Until next time…

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Injustice Anywhere Is A Threat To Justice Everywhere…

Injustice Anywhere Is A Threat To Justice Everywhere. – Martin Luther King, Jr.

When State Prison Becomes Our Permanent First Home!

I’m often asked, “What are the people like inside our prisons?”

They’re broken beloveds in need of healing, but they’re also God’s children. Sadly, around 25% of all incarcerated people have spent part of their youth in foster care (Doyle, 2007). 40% to 50% of former foster youth also become homeless within 18 months after leaving care.

While running a homeless organization, I fought RELENTLESSLY to get a few beloveds who were once in the foster care system into permanent housing. That paled in comparison to how hard housing would be for our returning citizens once they’re released from state prison.

Sadly, we are sending more foster children to prison than colleges. With an annual price tag on incarceration in California being approximately $81,000 a year, we need more focus on programs, because every person is REDEEMABLE!

Gut-punching, raw words spoken from an incarcerated man, still under 21.

“From the time I was 3 until I turned 14, I was bounced to 80 (yes, eighty) different foster homes. When I turned 18, I found myself alone and homeless, and resorting to a life of crime.

Now, at 20, I finally have a home more permanent than any I’ve ever known; state prison!

I’m just one of many kids who age out of foster care…”

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries #ACE 1 Unloving Ways

States are failing in their role as parents to America’s most vulnerable children. They’ve already suffered enough trauma and adverse childhood experiences. It’s time for God’s Great Love to step in and bring healing.

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. – Martin Luther King, Jr.

Time’s up! When our kids age out of foster care; everyone suffers. Hurting children grow into hurting adults. Our state prisons should never become a beloved’s first permanent home.

Our state prisons are filled with hurt people that hurt others, but healed people can and will bring healing!

Until next time…

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Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Prayer Covering Over Folsom State Prison and Warden Hill

Power Of Prayer For Decimation Of Deadly Pestilence At Folsom State Prison

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Prayer Covering Over Folsom State Prison and Warden Hill

Power Of Prayer For Decimation Of Deadly Pestilence At Folsom State Prison

Loved ones, family and friends of those incarcerated, our beloveds are scared and sick with this oubreak of COVID in our prisons, and they need us to be loving, be caring, and BE THERE! 

The Lord made very clear to us during prayer for Folsom State Prison Friday what we needed to do regarding this outbreak of chaos and COVID spread overwhelming those incarcerated, along with the staff. In order to release a covering of peace and healing, we needed to fast and start praying specifically for the leadership of CDCR and, most importantly, Warden Hill. 

Warden Hill is under tremendous stress with the COVID outbreak along with governmental alliances. He needs prayers for his own hedge of protection and sanity.

Prayers for angel armies to surround Warden Hill with peace & perseverance guiding him into fresh revelations daily in order to make sound decisions for containment. Complete annhiliation of this deadly pestilence and the psychological warfare looming over Folsom State Prison.

I understand we would rather cast blame and become paralyzed with fear, and I am no different than all y’all, but right now we need to replace that anxiety and anger and ask for forgiveness first and then fast. Then we can release prayers for supernatural deployment of eternal plans, recalibration and auxiliary to decimate this pestilence that stalks in the darkness and the plague that destroys at midday.  All in Jesus’ beautiful and mighty name!


Forego your Happy Hour of wine and cheese and fast it by prayers and petitions instead; forget the chocolate and replace it by chewing on God’s Word; turn the TV/PHONE off for an hour and sit in the presence of God praising Him for who He is and His Divine intervention. 


Sometimes God allows crisis to occur in order to bring His people together and to glorify Him through our radiance of worship and obedience.


Prayer and forgiveness requires both attitude and action.  If you have a loved one or friend incarcerated and/or are a Christian, this is not to be considered a sacrifice, this should be our heart’s desire!  Every life matters!

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Building Bridges Of Healing That Promote Opportunities!

Blameless and Forever Free ministries believes building bridges of healing that promotes opportunities heals all in our criminal justice system

Building Bridges Of Healing That Promote Opportunities!

My heart has been rather heavy lately, even angry, at how this Petri dish of disease and death within our state prisons has been tolerated, even accepted, as a new “norm” or even as a means of reducing our over-crowded prison population.

Maybe the heart’s heavier because I’m scared for my own son as he finishes his last few days serving time for his crime “burning in hell,” as he put it, before communications were lost due to being infected with COVID in these prison outbreaks that show absolutely no mercy.

A mother’s heart yearns to be there when her child is sick, whether they’re a tantrum-throwing toddler or a 6’5″ gentle giant; but precluding that medicine is brutal for everyone.

Interacting with those incarcerated, one thing is clear: Understanding most people incarcerated likely have had adverse childhood experiences, more likely a highly traumatic experience as a child, the way they react, or deal with adversities, overwhelms their mental health capacity. They act out because something traumatic IS occurring and they’re not equipped with the tools necessary to appropriately deal with it.

Being imprisoned hasn’t offered, nor focused, on rehabilitation for restorative purposes.

Taking out their support systems, no matter how minimalistic it was, during long-lasting lockdowns, precludes emotional support being delivered. With the absence of visitation from loved ones and friends (six months now), encourages reactive public policies, fueling disconnection leading to isolation and shame, destroying opportunities for healing.

Education, connection, compassion, vocational training, chapel time, employment making 60 cents an hour, 15-minute phone calls, yard time with physical activity, is essential for understanding life skills, accountability and purpose in one’s life.

Now with life being reduced back to an animalistic six-by-eight cage with bipolar cellmates, lacking adequate mental-health, medical and spiritual provision, breeds complete disconnection.

Their behaviors went, and continue to go, unexplored and unresolved.  

I don’t have all the answers, but one thing is certain: The work we, as a society, are going to have to undertake is going to take nothing but a supernatural covering to restore what was and is deplored.  

After all, the goal of rehabilitation is to “help inmates stop being prisoners of their past and become architects of their future.” 

During these unprecedented times, innovative and creative circles of compassion are going to be needed for healing for all entangled in our criminal justice system.

And I’m hopeful that life-changing and life-affirming moments WILL happen because of authentic, vulnerable and intimate connections.

As a mother, a grandmother, and the founder of Blameless and Forever Free Ministries, I am eternally grateful that our new Secretary of CDCR, Kathleen Allison, is a woman whose 30 years with CDCR includes experience as a health-care professional focusing on rehabilitative opportunities for restorative justice.

I pray we can all lean into hope and forgiveness as we embrace new beginnings.  Love always wins!!!

Until next time…

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The Kids Who Need The Most Love Will Ask For It In The Most Unloving Ways…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries #ACE 1 Unloving Ways

The Kids Who Need The Most Love Will Ask For It In The Most Unloving Ways…

The sad thing about this reality is, when they get older, the only thing that changes is the magnitude.

To be smart on crime, we should not be in a position of constantly reacting to crime after it happens. We should be looking at preventing crime before it happens. – Kamala Harris

Until next time…

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The Practice Of Forgiveness Is Our Most Important Contribution…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Practicing Forgiveness

The Practice Of Forgiveness Is Our Most Important Contribution To The Healing Of The World – Marianne Williamson

Oh, how I love short and meaningful posts that I can tuck into the folds of my heart to help keep me focused on what matters.

We’re all grieving a loss of some magnitude with COVID-19 running rampant through our lives, whether it’s financial, sickness. loss of employment, social distancing, time or abundancy.

Provision matters and when we’re robbed with many unknowns, we forget the blessings of just being, being present, with peace.

Without peace, we lose direction and self-control. All the hate and division in the world unravels and gives birth to chaos and crisis adding more trauma to innocent lives.

I pray we might search our hearts and find grace to let go of the hurts that are festering. We’re living in a world today that is full of volatile people. Hurts breed bitterness and hate; and hate stirs violence.

Hurt people hurt others, but healed people heal!

Forgiveness soothes our parched souls and pours out living waters that our Beautiful Jesus offers. Talk about contributing healing to those occupying space in our worlds.

If you look at the world, you’ll be distressed. If you look within, you’ll be depressed. If you look at God, you’ll be at rest – Corrie Ten Boom

The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.

If we want to help ourselves and society in bringing humankindness, all we have to do is practice forgiveness and receive the peace that surpasses all knowledge..

We all win!!!

Until next time…

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Breaking The Cycle Of Recidivism…

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Breaking The Cycle Of Recidivism Helps More Than Our Offenders!

“Hi daddy, I miss you. How come you haven’t called in a long time?” “Oh, baby girl, we have coronavirus here in prison so we’ve been locked in our rooms [cells].”

“Eeewww… Mom, you’re right, daddy is sick and bad. They put him in time out, too.”

“I don’t want to speak to you anymore, daddy!”

Gut-punching words for a father to hear during a pandemic that has forced a traumatizing lockdown.

“Mommy, why doesn’t daddy visit me anymore?”

“Daddy, why doesn’t mommy love me anymore?”

“Nana, why do you say bad things about my daddy?”

(Don’t Hate, Rehabilitate!)

Confusing words flowing freely from the mouth of a six-year-old whose father was imprisoned when she was a little older than two.

A mother left to raise her child alone, full of fear, shame and exhaustion, doing everything in her power just to survive. Getting high just to get by. Drinking here and there asking why?

Her inability to cope causes her to forget the needs of the child during the trauma, leaving scars that will forever form her child negatively.

Every word of negativity, fear and exhaustion further confuses and scars the child throughout the experience of the event.

“A child’s well-being is intricately linked to his/her parent’s well-being.”

When hurt people hurt others, once an offender is arrested, brought to court, found guilty and then sentenced to prison, as a society we pretty much have determined that justice is served and prevailed in our criminal justice system.

Is that really the case?

I really believe all that does is perpetuate the cycle to re-offend and also starts a generational stronghold on the family unit where healing doesn’t take place.

Hurt People Hurt Others, But Healed People Heal!

Healing from traumatic life events, such as a parent’s incarceration, can take on many forms.

Over 5.7 Million Children In The United States Have Experienced An Incarcerated Parent

Incarceration also affects and imprisons those in the family, work and personal lives, including parents, significant others, and sons and daughters. And with the increase in mass incarceration, we’re all being effected in some manner.

With a growing U.S. incarceration rate, it means that an increasing number of children (the forgotten and innocent victims too numerous to report) experience the imprisonment of a parent at some point in childhood or adolescence causing more childhood trauma.

And according to the National Institute of Mental Health, childhood trauma is defined as “the experience of an event by a child that is emotionally painful or distressful, which often results in lasting mental and physical effects.”

To make things worse, research also shows that parental incarceration negatively affects children’s educational outcomes and opportunities, according to the Sentencing Project.

Children’s Exposure to Parental Incarceration

Where there’s parental incarceration, this is considered an adverse childhood experience, which is defined as a potentially stressful or traumatic event that has lasting consequences for the child’s health and well-being.

Parental incarceration involves the removal of a father or a mother from the child’s household and/or daily routine. This removal is a traumatic incident for many children and may be accompanied by other corresponding traumatic experiences.

Rejection and abandonment issues arise developing fears and depression with the uncertainty in how long the parent will remain away.

Compassion Influences Culture

We can’t judge or hold back. If we do, we are robbing God of His blessings because we don’t know the unfolding of what their stories will testify to.

Removal oftentimes can be stigmatizing, too. This can produce shame leading to isolation that impedes social support systems, hinders interactions with both peers and teachers, along with children’s educational opportunities and outcomes.

A. Geller notes in “Paternal Incarceration and Support for Children in Fragile Families,” in the wake of parental incarceration, families experience a variety of challenges. These encompass economic insecurity, altered households and relationship dynamics and routines, changes in parenting, along with changes in parental health.

Given that most incarcerated parents, prior to their incarceration, were working, incarceration leads to an immediate decline in family income, an increase in material hardship, and an increased reliance on public assistance.

And unpealing further layers, there’s a significant correlation between childhood trauma and violence in the lives of those who are incarcerated themselves. Our incarcerated population have experienced their own traumatic childhoods contributing to their crimes.

Kingdom Influences Culture

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries is leaning in to rehabilitate our incarcerated and community through kingdom influences and restorative justice by focusing more on the traumatic childhood experiences and awareness in reaching the oppressed, both in our prisons and after release at our re-entry program center, as we operate under our belief that God’s Great Love Changes Everything.

Breaking the cycle of recidivism not only restores, rehabilitates, and saves society money, but it makes our communities safer and brings healing to the known and unknown victims by ending this generational cycle of reoffending.

Hurt Lives Hurt Others, But Healed Lives Heal!

Until next time…

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#Justice4JustinJ – CDCR Pays For Sex Reassignment Surgery, But Not Life-Saving Living Donor Transplants?

The California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation Pays For Sex Reassignment Surgery, But Not Life-Saving Living Donor Transplant?

Life here in California is anything but the California dream. We’re all shocked, full of fear, imprisoned in crisis, isolated while feeling defeated more and more as we try and swim upstream in all this despair.

And it’s not just because of COVID-19, you know!

Yes, part of our pain is due to disease and death, but it’s the exposure of corruption and letdown in our governmental justice system that appears to be screaming, “Mayday, Mayday…”

But when you tell me…

California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation will not pay for a living donor transplant and this beloved has potential donors

I about lost my mind!

Justin is not my child, but I’m roaring almost as loud as if he was.

So wait a minute…

In 2017, a transgender woman by the name of Shiloh Quine, who was 57 years old, incarcerated since 1980 (37 years), became the first U.S. prisoner to receive state-funded SRS. Quine v. Beard, U.S.D.C. (N.D. Cal.), Case No. 3:14-cv-02726-JST. 

A stunning, unprecedented move, from the CDCR where they decided to pay for this sex reassignment surgery (SRS).

But I am bringing your attention to one particular individual in our state prisons with significant health issues. His name is Justin J. Silva, AN0415, incarcerated at New Folsom/CSP Sacramento.

Justin is medically fragile, suffering from end stage kidney failure and is receiving dialysis three times per week at an outside facility. Justin’s dialysis treatment is costing California taxpayers an amount of approximately $100,000 per year.  Justin is on a cadaver kidney transplant list, but has been denied a “live donor transplant” due to the cost to the CDCR; however, Justin has potential donors.

Governor Newsom’s lawyers told a panel of federal judges that the state is taking “extraordinary and unprecedented protective measures” to slow the spread of COVID-19 and protect those medically-fragile.  CDCR/CCHCS proclaims they’re “dedicated to the safety of everyone who lives in, works in, and visits our state prisons.”

Justin has served over half his time for his crime committed during juvenile guidelines. He is and has been subjected to COVID-infected staff during transport, precluding him from social distancing which also puts the community at an increased risk of contracting COVID-19.

Emergency release is also supported by the fact that Justin cannot adequately be protected from COVID-19 at this facility because of the constant transportation and location required in dialysis treatment, along with the fact that CSP-SAC is incapable of providing a renal diet. The diet called for is not followed. His diet consists of processed meat and peanut butter.  

Emergency release is also supported due to complications. He is currently experiencing an uncontrolled secondary hyperparathyroidism and is at risk of needing major surgery from the lack of an adequate renal diet. He has waited “weeks” to even receive his prescribed medication.

Releasing Justin J. Silva to his supportive parents who will care for him and have his life spared with a live kidney transplant is requested. This can and should be done without charging taxpayers what his loving family, who are connected both in faith-based and the greater San Diego communities with prior service in the reentry venue, can perform.  

Why lose more lives, time, and waste tax dollars, when there’s a simple solution to a dire need:  Release Justin J. Silva to his loving parents and have his life spared with a live donor kidney transplant.

The chance that this man would re-offend is exceedingly low, and you have broad power over his fate. Release Justin Silva now. You’ve been summoned to utilize your trademark courage and boldness in the past, but this just requires compassion and a signature to release!

We thank you, Governor Newsom, for using your vast powers in undertaking this emergency action necessary to save this California inmate from dying an “unjust and preventable death behind bars” while saving much-needed California tax dollars.

Decriminalizing human pain equals investing in people, not prisons.

Imprisoned in Crisis

Where the enemy is attempting to bring division, grief and pain, God is restoring unity. What the enemy intended as evil, God will turn it around for good.

#Justice4JustinJ is a call-out campaign to the Governor from the citizens of California, and humanity, insisting that lives must come before dollars. Paying for a transgender surgery, but not for a life-saving transplant and/or release through emergency a medically-fragile beloved whose re-offending nature is extremely low, is unacceptable!

Many elderly and medically-vulnerable prisoners are being kept behind bars for the sake of punishment rather than justice, and it’s time to be a voice for those who can’t speak up for themselves.

I pray you find it in your heart to reach out and email Gov. Newsom, joining in our campaign for #Justice4JustinJ, requesting that Gov. Newsom grant emergency release for Justin J. Silva, who is indeed medically fragile, to the care of his parents who can arrange for his transplant surgery and receive a second chance. It’s hard to be healed and restored when you’re being denied life-saving surgery.

If you’d like to contact the Governor and support this cause, click here. Directions are simple and it’s just an email away.

Every life matters!

Until next time…

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Decriminalizing Human Pain…

#TammyTangentTuesdays Tammy Ingram on demoralizing human pain.    My silence means I’m tired of fighting.

Decriminalizing Human Pain Requires Investing In People, Not Prisons!

Days are long and lack glamour. Darkness and danger are no longer my shadow. Instead, they outline the green eyes underneath the aging facade and eyewear. I’ve grown accustomed to this new look. Hurt people hurt others, but healed people heal.

Days turn into weeks. Weeks into months. Before I knew it, a whole year had passed consumed with a new role. I often marvel at the thought: How does a beloved who once drove herself off a 350-foot cliff being suicidal circle back?

A survivor of violent crimes stemming from assaults from white, brown and black men heal, with obvious battle scars that one can’t cover over, and give back?

A woman who was once married to a Deputy Sheriff/Correctional Officer that went south real quick and press through honoring?

And a mother whose son is finishing time for his crime in state prison and see a great need, a cause worth fighting for?

Sure, being a chaplain helped, but that’s not what restored my sight.

These deep hurts cause people to make poor decisions and become incarcerated. This is what our state prisons are overwhelmed with; people like me, people with deep hurts that were forgotten.

How does one circle back through that trauma to organizing a nonprofit that many say women don’t belong in because of the darkness and danger?

Really?

I’m sure if you asked Mother Theresa, she’d say, “I see God in every human being. When I wash the leper’s wounds, I feel I am nursing the Lord Himself. Is it not a beautiful experience?”

Better yet, ask one of my heroes who has done a tremendous job changing the abuses in the correctional system, Terri McDonald, who even looks like my mother equipped with my quirkiness.

God’s amazing like that, you know!

Terri McDonald is President of the Association of Women Executives in Corrections, 24-year veteran of the California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation, who held both titles of Chief Deputy Secretary and Undersecretary.

She’s a former Assistant Sheriff for L.A. County Sheriff’s Department and who holds the esteemed title of Chief Probation Officer with the Los Angeles County Probation Department.

She’s all about doing the hard stuff…

Blameless and Forever  Free Ministries when will our consciences grow so tender that we will act to prevent human misery , rather than avenge it?

I can’t hold a candle to that resume, nor would I want to; but what I do hold is a life covered in God’s grace, love and transformation that sustained and delivered healing.

Amazing how God turns our insecurities, indiscretions, faulty character traits and behaviors in need of fine tuning into courage, compassion and confidence to walk through crises all for His plan and purpose.

If God’s transforming power can do all of that for me, helping me forgive my assailants and healing my deep emotional hurts, He can and will touch the lives of our incarcerated reentering society.

From Prison To Community – Where Punishment Ends and Healing Begins!

I believe poverty deserves compassion, not punishment. Addiction needs treatment, not a jail sentence. Mental illness requires care, not a cage. And I’m a HUGE supporter of decriminalizing human pain which requires investing in lives, not prisons.

And that requires a whole new mindset and a whole lot of grace. I don’t have all the answers, make multiple mistakes, but I’m a firm believer that God didn’t create and design us to sit back and expect others to initiate change. If we want safer communities and changed lives, we have to put our faith into action and sit in the trenches with them.

The incarcerated’s need to be loved, forgiven and healed is unashamedly obvious!

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries is advocating as Ambassadors of Hope for restorative justice. Restorative justice is responding to crime and violence in a way that transforms the focus through A.R.T.: Shifting punishment to responsibility (Accountability), rehabilitation and restoration (Reintegration), leading to redemption (Transformation).

We are created in God’s image; therefore, we are God’s masterpiece, His work of ART!

America is the land of the second chance. And when the gates of the prison open, the path ahead should lead to a better life, George W. Bush

We operate believing this ART approach not only holds the offender accountable, but it becomes the very stepping stones leading to healing for all beloveds impacted by crime: our victims, the offenders, the families and our communities. And that includes those working in the criminal justice system.

This illustrates really God’s heart of justice: Valuing all human life while promoting accountability. This cultivates community engagement. Together, it changes the culture, inspires the church, and advances justice reform.

The struggle is just one part of the story. Incarceration IS and will ALWAYS be PART of the STORY!

C.W. Lewis proclaims God’s Absolute Truth perfectly, “Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.”

Blameless is founded on the premise that God’s Great Love Changes Everything. In order to hear, we must listen. Find the need behind the need. Hurt people hurt others, but healed people heal! Listening requires engagement. Engagement understands what happens in prison does not stay in prison!

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From Prison to Community – Where Punishment Ends and Healing Begins!

Decriminalizing human pain requires investing in people, not prisons. Blameless and Forever Free Ministries is launching their building campaign to open up a reentry program center built on the gifts and professions of many lives and partners willing to invest in, build up, participate and bring hope and healing to tragic situations for ALL.

That’s Blameless’ mission: Organized to reduce recidivism rates, expand community safety and awareness, and disrupt the cycle of re-offending.

Our goal is to equip beloveds who were incarcerated and lost to live the lives God created and designed them to live; empowering them to live with a purpose.

My silence means I’m tired of fighting. “If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life, it’s the power of using your voice.” Thank you, Michelle Obama.

Until next time…

Embracing Today’s Offender As Tomorrow’s Neighbor!

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Life Doesn’t Have To Be Complicated To Be Beautiful…

Life Doesn’t Have To Be Complicated To Be Beautiful!

Good day, Saturday!

Life doesn’t have to be complicated to be beautiful!

Embrace today. Tomorrow’s not guaranteed. No need to run.

Enough said…

Life doesn’t have to be complicated to be beautiful!

Until next time…

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“Our Lives Begin To End The Day We Become Silent…”

“Our Lives Begin To End The Day We Become Silent About Things That Matter.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Are we slowly dying or are our hearts and souls being rebirthed?

With all the death, disease and division going on in the world today, my thoughts have been fixed to the beautiful words spoken from Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. where he said, “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

I don’t believe Dr. Martin Luther King meant that included destruction; inciting riots and pulling down monuments through decimation as a means to have our voices heard, but heard they have been. Personally, I’ve been blessed to have heard history and heritage I never knew.

I honestly have had to look at my own heart wondering what I really meant by “there is no race in mankind” as far as prejudice and discrimination. Though I may not see the color of a person as anything but an enhancement to the beauty and spice in the bunch, there is a lot to learn in how our black beloveds are perceived and received.

In sitting and chewing on every beautifully written word of “our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter,” my mind sat for hours wondering what I was letting die through my own silence.

My mind immediately went to my children and grandchildren and came to the conclusion real quick that they’re covered with loud proclamations of grace and extra grace.

But then my heart focused onto the oppressed, the abandoned and the rejected and how they must be feeling when no one is speaking up for their lives, the discrimination and the prejudices; for example, the incarcerated and the homeless.

With this COVID-19 spreading like wildfire in the Caifornia prisons alone, with an outbreak of over 3,400 infections that have brought death upon many, their lives have been silenced.

I understand we’re all tired, scared, judgmental and have become somewhat immobilized, but what happens when we try and express our beliefs through loving actions in lieu of loud proclamations?

I’m like everyone else, I’ve been entangled in webs of deception, evilness that prevails, and am constantly under attack because my faith walks out what God’s Great Love means. But isn’t pretending to love others just lip service in our Church today?

According to what I read in the Bible, loving others leads and moves us into action and change.

We can’t just pretend to love others.  We have to really love them!!!  Hate what is wrong.  Hold tightly to what is good (Romans 12:9).

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So after sitting with my thoughts for hours, I started playing around and made a short video to see if it could express something profound and make me think about my own vulnerabilities without boisterous demands speaking directly to open hearts.

I found taking a moment of silence illustrated what really stirred my heart and how I must guard against it moving forward.

Please take a moment to watch the 45-second video and share with me what grabbed your heart out of it.

And I agree with Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter,” but that does not negate our responsibility to act through Love. Love is an action; it is not self-serving; it acts, whether it wants to or not.

And therein lies the challenge…

I believe we Become What We Believe! I have learned through heartache that my identity comes from the Lord solely, so that means my faith must follow with action. That doesn’t protect me from betrayal and the stings of evil, but it does empower me to stand up and continue to move forward with courage and confidence.

My focus may be different than yours, but I refuse to be quiet about extending second chances to those who need a hand up, not a hand out. This is no easy feat, but we’re all called to love the Lord with all our heart, soul and mind along with loving our neighbor as ourselves.

And if we walk out genuine faith leaning into Jesus’ heartbeat, this should include that generous hearts embrace that today’s offender will become tomorrow’s neighbor.

Faith isn’t selective, right?

So we all have a role we must participate in making our communities safer through awareness, comprehensive programming and God’s Great Love. That doesn’t leave room for prejudices and selective love.

As the beautiful Ann Voskamp shared,

Winning the lottery doesn’t make you lucky.  Getting to love makes you the luckiest of all, because love always wins.  You don’t need the love of many — you only need to love many times more than you ever thought you could.”

Until next time…

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From Prison To Vision

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Break The Silence From Prison To Vision

From Prison To Vision…

What’s it like leaving your imprint, your legacy of life, on a prison island to an unknown destiny?

I honestly can’t fathom, but I do know what it’s like being shackled and imprisoned. We all have felt a glimpse of what it’s like being imprisoned due to COVID-19 to a certain degree, no doubt.

Kind of makes us crazy, right?

That isolation is brutal and torturing!

Then add a cocktail or two of criminal conduct, the lingering hangover does more harm than just inviting the consequences of the drunkard.

But why stand with the oppressed and be a voice for the rejected? After all, sipping mango margaritas on the white sandy beaches of Florida is where those whom retire go, right?

Well…

New voices are definitely emerging on the front line of hate and reunification. Mine is no exception. Some are called and some are anointed.

Why stand with the oppressed and be a voice for the rejected?

It’s too easy to hate and cast blame while shifting responsibility onto others than to sit in the swamp battling with the lurking gators and pour life and love that restores what life deplored.  

Working with our incarcerated and returning citizens may not be glamorous and relaxing, but I’ve personally been called to build from prison to vision.  I understand all too well how hurt people hurt others, but healed people heal.

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I’m with Michelle Obama, “If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life, it’s the power of using your voice.”

I don’t know about you, but “I refuse to settle for anything just because I came from nothing.”

We have to break the silence. No one is alone. Blameless and Forever Free Ministries in firmly planted in helping those from prison to community.

Until next time…

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Prayers For Peace…

Prayers For Peace

What Happens In Prison Does Not Stay In Prison!

Prayer warriors, I need your help.  Grab your kids, grandkids, family and friends and come together and join Blameless and Forever Free Ministries today at 4:00 pm (pst).

We will be uniting and linking across the world becoming a bridge of hope rebuilding lives by praying for peace and unity throughout our country, along with covering our prison facilities with a blanket of protection declaring the peace that Psalm 91 delivers.

Open your Bibles at 4:00 pm and start proclaiming Psalm 91 out loud lifting up our country and prison facilities declaring that unity and love will replace division and hate. Ten minutes of time, if reading twice. We’re all imprisoned by this hate! 

This obedience takes ten minutes. There’s power in numbers. Instead of focusing on the riots, division and disease, let’s replace that enemy decreasing anxiety by proclaiming the truths found in the Bible. Together we can pull down heaven by covering our brothers and sisters with love and peace!  We have nothing to lose here, but gain!

Ready or Not, God is on the Move!

What happens in prison does not stay in prison.  Hate and disease spread like wildfire and kill.

Until next time…

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From Prison To Community…

From Prison To Community…

Hi friends and family, are you sensing freedom with the virus restrictions being lifted that has kept us all in shackles and held captive for the past few months?

I call it a glimpse into what our incarcerated go through except we live quite luxurious lives with freedoms they’ll never experience.

I know I’m not quite prepared, nor do I feel total peace, being in close proximity and contact with larger groups, but mask-to-mask conversations and small intimate settings are good for me. I do miss my social interaction with close friends and family, though.

I am eternally grateful for the countless hours spent conducting business on Zoom, but I won’t cry me a river saying goodbye to it either. How about you?

I have to admit, we have been forced to think outside the box to communicate, but it’s given me time to watch and observe. This pandemic definitely consumed every last morsel of energy running through my veins, but it’s confirmed just how precious and fleeting lives are and to embrace our many blessings.

With the rebranding of Blameless and Forever Free Ministries, it’s been a bit tricky and all-consuming having to cancel and reschedule all year’s fundraising events, so I’m trying to transition this blog over to match the nonprofit’s.

I hope to share stories from hearts of those incarcerated, mothers of murderers, what family and friends go through when their loved ones become incarcerated AND released, along with bringing awareness to the discrimination and prejudices our prisoners go through when they become released.

They are not prepared…

We wonder why we have such high recidivism rates?

We’ve lived under this umbrella of mass incarceration for so long, especially here in California, that we’ve basically just thrown away the key for those who have made horrible decisions. Instead, we’ve let power and greed build a criminal justice system without any forethought that prisoners are not animals and they need rehabilitation.

And THEY ARE WORTHY of love and support!

Rehabilitation must begin the day they’re sentenced to prison, not after they’ve been released or served many years!!!

So…

I’ve been having fun with some new programs (only after countless frustrating hours), and created this little storytelling video to help bring compassion and awareness to what Blameless is initiating through our Redemption Team and the purpose of the re-entry program center.

Our incarcerated deserve a second chance. They are serving time for their crimes. But if we’re releasing them without exploring and rehabilitating what led them to the heinous crimes and poor decisions in the first place (deep hurts), we’re creating more volatile and violent behaviors.

Being caged up like animals enables this revolving door of opportunity and excuse for cycles of re-offending to work in full force. This lends to increasing crime and even encourages more homelessness if we don’t get in and heal the hurts that led them there to begin with.

Hurt People Hurt Others, But Healed People Heal!

One element became unashamedly obvious while pouring love into our incarcerated. Blameless and Forever Free Ministries was created because the Lord chose to bring awareness walking through my own crisis. I was able to witness the thirst for hope and how paramount it is that we share God’s Great Love with our incarcerated along with comprehensive programming. This not only offers them a place to belong and transition into, but be accepted right where they’re at (change is hard and awkward).

Being held accountable while learning from our mistakes through God’s amazing grace restores lives, teaches healthy behaviors and boundaries with patience and forgiveness, leading them to experience being successful, productive members of society.

The incarcerated WANT TO SUCCEED. They need help and guidance delivered through forgiveness, surrounding them with support and encouragement, not just those chasing them around through threats of more prison time, parole and probation (though we are eternally grateful for their service). That’s called fellowship in my world!

All they have known is their segregated prison groups and institutionalized existence (thinking) while being drunk on criminal conduct. That’s a cocktail that bites all of us in the assets!

That’s sobering information that needs reform!

Knowing it costs more annually to house prisoners than it would be to send them to Harvard for an education with housing included, this paints a very dark picture and an injustice to ALL that needs fixing.

I’d much rather invest in and have a bunch of Harvard grads running around society contributing to social reform and human kindness; wouldn’t you?

I don’t know about you, but I want safer communities. That requires supporting and rehabilitating our returning citizens along with equipping them with the tools and education they need to plow through all the discrimination and lack of housing availability because of their “felon” tag. Lifetime branding!

All we’re doing is shuffling them around throughout the justice system; from arrest, to court, to prison, to release; to arrest, to court, to prison, to release. We’re all tired of trying. It’s just like the homeless epidemic; we’re not engaging with the need behind the need. It’s a vicious cycle!

Enough said. I’m on a Tammy Tangent.

Let me know what your thoughts are about this Ripl program. I get funky with the musicality, but I’m learning and having fun…

Until next time…

Thank You For Being Beautiful You!

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Honoring the Fallen!

Never Forgotten? 

Courage is Contagious

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Billy Graham proclaimed, “Courage is Contagious.  When a brave man takes a stand, the spine of others are stiffened.”

Honoring the Fallen!  Never Forgotten?  Hmmm… never forgotten?  Really?  Where in most Memorial Day celebrations, unless you’re with a family or community of inactive or active service personnel, do you hear stories of valor and selfless acts of bravery that proclaim this great caliber as to why we celebrate Memorial Day?    

Forgive Us For Not Recognizing Our Fallen!

Sadly, it seems there is more recognition geared towards retail sales advertisements along with the hustle and bustle ushering in the first big holiday announcing summertime.  Much less you add in malls reopening due to pandemic closure, we quickly forget the honor and celebration of what today stands for.

Don’t get me wrong, these preparations for the festivities are great; you know, family gatherings, coming together, barbecuing, boating, camping, traveling with the additional three-day weekend, but what about carving out time to honor the fallen which is the sole purpose of Memorial Day?

There is nothing wrong with the excitement in getting together with our family and friends to unwind and celebrate; we all need that!  But what about the fallen heroes and their families that have lost so much, their precious and valued loved ones, due to their sacrificial service for our freedom?  How are they being remembered?  They are searching for this gratitude and consolation in our festivities that have seemed to be glossed over.

Where is the tribute and honor that should be at the forefront of our celebrations for our fallen heroes on Memorial Day?

Where is the dedicated time for this tribute and recognition that brought us freedom? 

Where does the honor, the respect, the remembrance, and the salutation fit into our celebratory festivities this Memorial Day weekend?  After all, our great nation was built on the freedom that these fallen heroes died for!  That deserves recognition.

The ocean tears that have been released by mothers, fathers, wives, husbands, families, and the many innocent children that look for comfort from a nation that pauses to think about, honor and celebrate what their loved one selflessly gave to have this freedom extended is non-existent and quite neglected.

If you’ve ever had to comfort a grieving soul who just learned of their loved one’s death, there is nothing more dreadful and heartbreaking than delivering the piercing words, “I’m sorry, but your loved one has been killed in the line of duty serving his/her country.”

Being honest here, when I was raising my children, I looked forward to having an extra day off with the announcement that summertime was near. Any excuse to celebrate was quite a gift. Memorial Day just meant getting the boat ready and the family together for a couple of days spent on the water without any further forethought. Tragic!

Where is the honor, recognition and respect geared towards our fallen heroes and their families acknowledging how they dedicated and sacrificed their lives?  This is the pure definition of what is called a beautiful exchange. 

Can we start teaching our children and share with our families the significance of what Memorial Day deserves?  We can testify to this valor of great sacrifice by sharing a few of the following quotes:

“The willingness of America’s veterans to sacrifice for our country has earned them our lasting gratitude.” – Jeff Miller

“The legacy of heroes is the memory of a great name and the inheritance of a great example.” – Benjamin Disraeli

Blameless Memorial Day. In case you thought it was National BBQ Day

Can we maybe start proclaiming how we’re proud to be Americans and express our gratitude for the meaning behind Memorial Day.  This honor will offer golden nuggets of comfort to the fallen and their families to carry close to their hearts reminding them that their lives mattered and stood for victory and won’t be forgotten, nor were their deaths in vain!  Maybe while we’re vacationing, we can even share with others the significance while honoring the millions of soldiers who lost their lives.  Speak it while engaging with others.

There is nothing wrong with celebrating, but putting at the forefront what all of our Fallen Heroes have achieved will keep their legacy alive and one in which will never be forgotten.  It’s a gratitude for blessing us with a privilege that we often take for granted.  We are reaping the harvest from the seeds they dropped during their bout of courage and dedication.  What a gift that keeps on giving, but it needs watering and cultivating! 

By the way, Memorial Day originated way back in the late 1800’s, but was enacted following the Civil War where many Americans started honoring the soldiers who lost their lives by decorating their graves.  Beautiful, isn’t it?  It wasn’t until 1971 that it was deemed a National holiday and celebrated as such through the passing of the National Holiday Act. 

“Those that die for a good cause… hover as a cloud of witnesses over the nation.”  Henry Ward Beecher.

Blameless Fallen Heros

Let us never forget our fallen heroes and their families.  After all, as John F. Kennedy stated,  “Ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country.”  

Fallen Heroes, We Will Never Forget Your Sacrificial Service & We Thank You!

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Honoring The Fallen! Never Forgotten?

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Honoring the Fallen!

Never Forgotten? 

Courage is Contagious

—0o0—

Billy Graham proclaimed, “Courage is Contagious.  When a brave man takes a stand, the spine of others are stiffened.”

Honoring the Fallen!  Never Forgotten?  Hmmm… never forgotten?  Really?  Where in most Memorial Day celebrations, unless you’re with a family or community of inactive or active service personnel, do you hear stories of valor and selfless acts of bravery that proclaim this great caliber as to why we celebrate Memorial Day?    

Forgive Us For Not Recognizing Our Fallen!

Sadly, it seems there is more recognition geared towards retail sales advertisements along with the hustle and bustle ushering in the first big holiday announcing summertime.  Much less you add in malls reopening due to pandemic closure, we quickly forget the honor and celebration of what today stands for.

Don’t get me wrong, these preparations for the festivities are great; you know, family gatherings, coming together, barbecuing, boating, camping, traveling with the additional three-day weekend, but what about carving out time to honor the fallen which is the sole purpose of Memorial Day?

There is nothing wrong with the excitement in getting together with our family and friends to unwind and celebrate; we all need that!  But what about the fallen heroes and their families that have lost so much, their precious and valued loved ones, due to their sacrificial service for our freedom?  How are they being remembered?  They are searching for this gratitude and consolation in our festivities that have seemed to be glossed over.

Where is the tribute and honor that should be at the forefront of our celebrations for our fallen heroes on Memorial Day?

Where is the dedicated time for this tribute and recognition that brought us freedom? 

Where does the honor, the respect, the remembrance, and the salutation fit into our celebratory festivities this Memorial Day weekend?  After all, our great nation was built on the freedom that these fallen heroes died for!  That deserves recognition.

The ocean tears that have been released by mothers, fathers, wives, husbands, families, and the many innocent children that look for comfort from a nation that pauses to think about, honor and celebrate what their loved one selflessly gave to have this freedom extended is non-existent and quite neglected.

If you’ve ever had to comfort a grieving soul who just learned of their loved one’s death, there is nothing more dreadful and heartbreaking than delivering the piercing words, “I’m sorry, but your loved one has been killed in the line of duty serving his/her country.”

Being honest here, when I was raising my children, I looked forward to having an extra day off with the announcement that summertime was near. Any excuse to celebrate was quite a gift. Memorial Day just meant getting the boat ready and the family together for a couple of days spent on the water without any further forethought. Tragic!

Where is the honor, recognition and respect geared towards our fallen heroes and their families acknowledging how they dedicated and sacrificed their lives?  This is the pure definition of what is called a beautiful exchange. 

Can we start teaching our children and share with our families the significance of what Memorial Day deserves?  We can testify to this valor of great sacrifice by sharing a few of the following quotes:

“The willingness of America’s veterans to sacrifice for our country has earned them our lasting gratitude.” – Jeff Miller

“The legacy of heroes is the memory of a great name and the inheritance of a great example.” – Benjamin Disraeli

Blameless Memorial Day. In case you thought it was National BBQ Day

Can we maybe start proclaiming how we’re proud to be Americans and express our gratitude for the meaning behind Memorial Day.  This honor will offer golden nuggets of comfort to the fallen and their families to carry close to their hearts reminding them that their lives mattered and stood for victory and won’t be forgotten, nor were their deaths in vain!  Maybe while we’re vacationing, we can even share with others the significance while honoring the millions of soldiers who lost their lives.  Speak it while engaging with others.

There is nothing wrong with celebrating, but putting at the forefront what all of our Fallen Heroes have achieved will keep their legacy alive and one in which will never be forgotten.  It’s a gratitude for blessing us with a privilege that we often take for granted.  We are reaping the harvest from the seeds they dropped during their bout of courage and dedication.  What a gift that keeps on giving, but it needs watering and cultivating! 

By the way, Memorial Day originated way back in the late 1800’s, but was enacted following the Civil War where many Americans started honoring the soldiers who lost their lives by decorating their graves.  Beautiful, isn’t it?  It wasn’t until 1971 that it was deemed a National holiday and celebrated as such through the passing of the National Holiday Act. 

“Those that die for a good cause… hover as a cloud of witnesses over the nation.”  Henry Ward Beecher.

Blameless Fallen Heros

Let us never forget our fallen heroes and their families.  After all, as John F. Kennedy stated,  “Ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country.”  

Fallen Heroes, We Will Never Forget Your Sacrificial Service & We Thank You!

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It’s Coming…

Worshiping in Truth and Spirit!

Can You Feel It?

Loving to such a degree that you’re overwhelmed by joy. Looking at the sky with its majestic undertones and purity of whispering clouds gliding as free souls, the Creator paints reflections of my own heart and soul through each stroke of the brush.

New beginnings are arising…

Covering me with peace and comfort, the shackles that once were so restricting, tightly bound around my ankles and wrists, no longer hinder me. My arms lift in childlike wonder as I release the bondage of grief and guilt slipping through my fingertips. The innocence surrounding my smile matches the breeze gently caressing my face.

It is well…

This freedom in allowing the golden hues of sand to tease my toes and slip through my fingertips become the most glorious gift God could offer. Freedom in surrendering all. Even the dry places that are saturated with minuscule annoyances. Each lingering grain of sand can’t attack my thoughts. Instead they proclaim:

Annoyances are now Assurances

My strength is found in the presence of my Lord’s endless love!

My mind ponders simple scripture found in Psalm 139:17-18, How precious are your thoughts about me, O Lord, how vast is their sum! If I were to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand beneath my feet. When I awake, I am still with You.

Rays of the glorious sunset brought a frisson of anticipation to my heart as the day concluded. My heart received the meaning of the peace that surpasses all knowledge. It is well...

Whenever my busy thoughts are out of control, the soothing comfort of your presence calms me down and overwhelms me with delight (Psalm 94:19).

Thank you, Jesus! My heart is overwhelmed with joy as my soul rests and receives the freedom that is on every horizon. That is what worshiping in truth and spirit offers!

Until next time…

Come Dance With Me as We Just Be!

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“Help, We Matter2”

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What Happens In Jail Doesn’t Stay In Jail!

“Help, We Matter2”

A handwritten sign posted in one of the windows at Cook County Jail by beloveds in custody stating, “HELP, WE MATTER2.”  This was from early April, 2020 (Jim Vondruska/Reuters/New York Times).

Inmates bringing attention to inhumane conditions inside a jail hung this sign in the window begging for help in response to two inmates who contracted COVID-19 at Cook County Jail and “were placed in ISOLATION CELLS after testing positive.”  

Isolation cells? For contracting a virus that kills, came in from the outside, and needs constant medical attention? These precious lives matter just like yours and mine.

Because these prisoners contracted COVID-19 and officials felt isolating them in cells of hell instead of adequately taking medical measures would somehow keep this beast of a disease from spreading! 

Makes no sense, I know.

Our detention facilities are reservoirs of infection.

According to data compiled by The New York Times, Cook County Jail is now “the nation’s largest-known source of coronavirus infections.” 

Dehumanizing living, breathing life is no way to treat sick incarcerated beloveds, and this is often what our prisoners are subjected to.

Fighting to improve conditions along with bringing awareness to our nation’s prisons, detention centers and jails reflect what is happening inside and impacts society while lifting up the voices of those silenced.  

Every life matters!  Mass incarceration is not the answer and neither is isolation.  Prioritizing equality of empathy should be our number one focus. 

From prison to community!

What happens in our jails doesn’t stay in jail. Cesspool of infection. We have to pray for and pay attention to all the health needs of our detained beloveds and our correctional staff; otherwise, we will become haunted like Southern California. 

As the virus gets in our detention centers and prisons, it doesn’t discriminate and wipes out our ability to control it while claiming lives. This pandemic cannot be ignored because our prisons are filled with beloveds whose lives matter too, and they are part of our community.

According to California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation, reporting as of May 13, 2020, California Institution for Men (CIM) is reported as having 324 confirmed cases of incarcerated beloveds contracting COVID, 50 staff members infected, and now 5 deaths, totaling 379 and still increasing; and California State Prison, Los Angeles County (LAC) is reported with having 94 incarcerated infected along with 42 staff members infected totaling 136. 

These are just the leading two of many cesspool prisons in Southern California and increasing daily. 

As a medical expert announced, “Part of our mistake is to think that these places, jails and prisons, aren’t part of the community.”

The lives of our incarcerated and our correctional staff matter and they are just as important as yours and mine. 

Wouldn’t you agree?

Just because the prison I’m affiliated with, Folsom State Prison, has done an amazing job containing this beast of infection with the infected staff doesn’t mean other prisons aren’t suffering.  The numbers state quite the contrary.

Our communities mean all lives matter!

#WeMatter2!

Until next time…

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Mothers of Murderers…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Mothers of Murderers

Mothers Of Murderers…

Just typing those three words made me uncomfortable. How about you?

No, I’m not a mother of a murderer. I do, however, have imperfect children like myself filled with pain.

Hurt people hurt others, but healed people heal!

I have met, and established relationships with, a dozen or so of incredibly courageous mothers of murderers that deserve to wear crowns of Mothers Of Mercy!

But Labeled As Mothers of Monsters?

How can any mother walk through life being referred to as Mothers Of Monsters?

Every mother’s heart carries enough of the shame-and-blame game of our children’s actions and grave decisions, but that should associate us more so as being Mothers Of Mourning, right?

After all, a mother holds her child’s hand for just a short time, but holds their hearts forever!

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Mother's Love Never Lets Go

Successful rehabilitation is dependent upon the love and support received inside prison.

To every Mother Of Mourning, you’re an inspirational gift from the Lord. I’m honored to witness love in action, strong faith and perseverance as God heals, creating beauty.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries A Mother's Love

The repeated trials and attacks you endure in daily living, from your own imprisonment of guilt and shame, the victim’s family and “those that know” are like daggers to the soul unknown to none other.

Your life and love is our Lord’s work, accomplished in Holy Spirit’s power, and is never in vain, even when we don’t understand. It is unique to only you! Your life is a God-ordained calling and mission.

This assignment was specifically tailored for YOU ONLY to fulfill and you have done well to stand firm and let nothing move you except Love Himself (1 Corinthians 15:58).

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I can’t even imagine the hell you’ve walked through, but I can say this: Being refined by fire is BEAUTIFUL!!! I have become empowered because of you, so thank you!

A mom, mommy, mother can’t change the past, as she will carry some guilt and shame that is tucked between the folds of her heart. Mothers Of Mention, it’s your time to rise and shine understanding you’re Mothers Of Mercy with relentless devotion.

Your children arise and call you blessed because of your unwavering support that comes from the strength of your faith (Proverbs 31:17).

Your Godly image of grace, compassion and tender mercy illustrates God Himself (Genesis 1:27).

Hurt People Hurt Others, But Healed People Heal!

And M-O-M, Mother Of Mercy, your unconditional love to “never let me go” helps us all embrace how hurt people hurt others, but healed people heal! Since love comes from God and you know Him, your life testifies to God’s Great Love (1 John 4:7-10).

A mother’s love is kind of like a rainbow bringing color and life into a dark and dreary atmosphere filled with cold and empty minds.

Counting the times their souls connect to one another pales in comparison to the mourning and weeping veils they’re clothed in.

The celebration a mother holds onto when transformation delivers reminders of “I’m making you stronger,” illustrates how their love is unashamedly obvious. Even though every single visit steals a part of their cherished cuddling and cradling, the bleeding heart may become calloused with scar tissue, but a Mother Of Motivation leans in.

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Death ripped away a part of these mothers, the parts that were most loved. Instead, they are replaced with wearing the black hooded veil. Both the mothers of the victims and the mothers of murderers become haunted by the shadow of death and despair.

Could you describe a M-O-M as selfless, loving, supportive, even an intelligent beloved? Or is the labeling of the mother of murderers too much to bear?

We all participated in the death of Jesus Christ, so maybe examining our own cold hearts might help expose light to the shadow of judgment and condemnation.

These mothers still feel the pain, raw pain, but to think their hearts cannot be broken anymore is disheartening. This pain is seared all the way through the heart branding each beat. They are imprisoned by no fault of their own. A mother’s love never ends; instead it chooses to protect, never leaves, nor forsakes.

Sound familiar?

That’s God’s Great Love!

A mother faces hardship, judgment and ridicule when their child becomes incarcerated. Fearless perseverance is demanded when the world surrounding her collapses beneath her feet.

Unable to guard any mama’s heart, the battleground is and was vicious and bloody. This could only develop strength from constant battle. Behind closed doors, the shadow of guilt and shame ricochets from the flaming arrows penetrating the armor. Where this mama went wrong or where she failed and wasn’t enough lurks to ambush.

The hemorrhaging heart somehow finds the strength from faith to carry a torch of compassion and love to carry a heart through the finish line.

Are you a Mother of Mayhem? Mother Of Mischievous? Mother of Multitude? Mothers of Military? Mothers of Mentally-Ill? Mothers of Misfits?

How about calling ourselves…

Mamas of Masterpieces?

Whether your mother is loving, accepting, beautiful or caring, the common denominator that is often overlooked is how amazing she is: Mother Of Mine!

Thank you for being beautiful you, Mother Of Meaningful! You are indeed Mothers Of Masterpieces!

Until next time…

Happy Mother’s Day!

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What I Know

Blameless What I know

What I Know

I know your heart; do you know mine?

They connected in that moment they brought you to me. That has not changed since then. I know your heart, why we are separated now. But do you know mine?

How I can never describe the feeling of watching and hearing the sound of the metal shackles being locked on your body. The body I cradled and sang to and rocked, your premature birth making you all the more precious to me. To say this hurt my heart… Well, you know, if you know my heart.

I know your eyes, following me across the room, “mom?” Do you know mine? I can’t fix this like I wanted to fix every hurt that came your way. But my eyes are telling you, I can only try and make you see you are never without me.

I don’t know your new world, and you no longer know mine. I know that you know the things I long to share with you and can’t. Your brothers’ lives, your nephews, new cousins’ children, holidays, birthdays and just those days I wish I could reach over and touch your hand, or smile in recognition of some shared family joke. It so hurts my heart that I know these are the things you are missing.

I can only know of your world what you deem safe to tell me. The imagining in my head can be so much worse. I try not to let my heart go there, but nevertheless it is only halfway to the back of my mind.

I know my arms want to hold you and shield you whenever I can. And you don’t fool me – I know your arms come around me, quickly and fiercely even though you say, “Ah mom, the guys!”

I know your smile that sometimes lights up your face when you see me, or sometimes can break my heart. My smile, you know, that will never tire of landing on your face, but always hiding my sadness at where you are.

I can’t know your pain, your fears, your regrets or your way of reconciliation of this life that is now yours. And you can’t know mine. I can’t show you mine. I know you need my strength. Sometimes that is all I can do for you. And that is my pain, mine alone.

You know my soul. You know there is nothing I wouldn’t do for you. Just as I know yours, they are intertwined for always. I know who you are deep down inside.

I know your guilt that comes from your actions. Do you know mine? The time I have spent wondering, “which day did I go wrong?” Did I read to you enough? Did I give you enough apple snacks? Was it that day I spanked you for running out in the street? Or the day I made you stand in the corner for telling me “NO!”?

Silly really, the mundane things I dwell on. But it doesn’t stop me from wondering – what minute of what day would I have changed?

Instead, this is where we are. But it won’t be dark, we have each other to light the way. I’ll light yours and you’ll light mine and we will meet at the end of this tunnel.

And every so often, we pause. Our eyes, our hearts and our souls connect like a magnet and we ask each other – how did you get here?

I don’t know.

Until next time…

Wasn’t that beautiful? Please tell Dana Ordonez how much you loved her heart and transparency through the beautiful words penned. You can leave her a comment that is linked above the post or go to Blameless and Forever Free Ministries nonprofit website.

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We’re Never Alone…

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Hi family and friends! I trust you’re all safe and healthy, filled with overwhelming peace, while transitioning into all these unknowns and chaotic times.

We are blessed to have this rare opportunity to know our Lord while being still and accept His invitation to experience His Amazing Love on a completely different level. We are, after all, never alone…

This Easter we are celebrating the Ultimate Victory by being invited to rest in the Absolute Truth where God’s Great Love defeated death. Love showcasing how our God is able to do abundantly more than all we could ever ask, imagine or even dream about.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve got the wildest imagination with unbelievable dreams to boot, so…

Until next time…

Happy Easter! He Is Risen!

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Redemption Is Possible

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Redemption Is Possible!

From a distance, his muscular build, tattoos and shaved head misleads with intimidation. But redemption tells us another story. After all, He Is Risen! Jesus Is Risen and His Redemption Is Possible!

The founder of Blameless and Forever Free Ministries knows the power of transformation! She’s personally encountered, prayed with, instructed and continues to help invest in those who are feared and rejected. She has established Blameless to see others as Jesus does and introduce the love of Christ through introduction, invitation and instruction.

The founder is excited to be building a team with beloveds that Jesus Christ died for, President Donald J. Trump stands up for, and who Blameless and Forever Free Ministries invests in by offering the redemptive power of transformation for our returning citizens.

Helping tear down barriers through awareness regarding the importance of second chances for our returning citizens who continue to be discriminated against in securing housing, employment and education enables them in being successful and productive members of society which is vital for healthier and safer communities.

Redemption Is Possible! 

April is Second Chance Month.  Blameless believes in not only validating our victims, encouraging our communities through awareness and education, but transforming and rehabilitating the lives of our incarcerated both before their release and thereafter.

President Trump supports Second Chance Month and declares the importance of opportunities for redemption through the second chance initiative in becoming productive members of society in his declaration dated March 31, 2020.

To view President Trump’s Proclamation, click here…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries believes in giving our prisoners a second chance after prison and that is why they are working relentlessly during the restrictions of this COVID-19 pandemic to continue to advocate and bring awareness towards restorative criminal justice.

Even though our fundraising capabilities are temporarily disabled due to social distancing, we continue to maximize this time in locating a building here in Placer County in order to secure a safe place for fellowship and comprehensive programming for our returning citizens to thrive and become successful members of society. Therefore, reducing recidivism rates where everybody wins!

An excerpt of President Trump’s proclamation declares, “While we must be tough on crime, we can also be smart about reducing recidivism.  One of the best ways to break the cycle of crime is to help former inmates find rewarding work.  That is why my Administration is promoting second chance hiring to build on the reforms of the First Step Act and help former inmates live crime-free lives.”  

Click here to continue reading President Trump’s proclamation…

After all, Jesus Is Risen!

Until next time…

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All Is Well Today When We Know God Is In Our Tomorrow’s

Tammy Ingram Founder All Is Well

All Is Well Today When We Know God Is In Our Tomorrow’s…

Hi precious friends and family, I don’t know about you, but with everything going on in our world between COVID-19, social distancing and all the chaos and panic, if I don’t remember that God is with me today, I will never be able to rise up and not shrink back.

Remembering that with my marching orders, which includes being on the front lines combating this enemy as His pillar of strength, that requires walking out all is well today when we know that God is in our tomorrow’s.

As treasured possessions of God and His Works of Art, being God’s handiwork allows us to rise up and shine during crisis for our loved ones, friends and family.

As Christians, we have never been better positioned to rise up and shine and be the light of our Beautiful Jesus (Isaiah 60:1-2) as the glory of our Lord rises upon us.

And if we really think about it, our co-workers and the beloveds in our communities, they are going to be watching us now for hope. Being His vessels, they will lean in for strength, for love and for a calming comfort, seeking a compassionate ear when their lives are consumed and compromised by fear.

Our secret to a freaked out world: We know all is well today when we know that God is in our tomorrow’s.

Walking out Matthew 6:34 can lead us victoriously through the doors of peace and strength, Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Tammy Ingram Founder says Because God Is...  We can be still because God is active.  We can rest because God is working!

As God’s treasured possessions, we don’t have to fret and freak out! We can be still because God is active. And we can rest because God is working!

Now, that’s something to celebrate and praise God for!

Until next time…

Thank You For Being Beautiful You!

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Urgent Prayers Needed! COVID-19 Is Confirmed In Our California State Prisons!

Urgent Prayers Needed!

COVID-19 Is Confirmed In Our California State Prisons!

Why do we need urgent prayers covering our state prison facilities? Because COVID-19 has been confirmed in our California State Prisons.

You might not be able to see when a silent killer like COVID-19 strikes in our state prison facilities, but you can hear this epidemic coming.

Even though the individuals tested positive were correctional staff, as of March 20th, that does not mean our incarcerated are not infected. Receiving proper medical attention in prison is like stumbling upon a hidden treasure.

Ask a mother whose son has a three-centimeter mass in his breast with a family history of breast cancer…

Unless you’ve walked through our prisons personally, either through work, tours and/or detention, you have no idea how close the inmate population is to one another and how stacked on top of each other they are. This is how viral epidemics spread and kill. It’s like living in a Petri dish.

I’m going to forewarn you, the below statement is repulsive and gross, but truth is empowerment.

This is how disgustingly close our incarcerated are: When they defecate in their cell toilets, or urinate for that matter, their cellmate’s head is less than two feet from the toilet. And no, there is no wall or barrier between either.

No privacy. No protection…

Gross!!!

It’s like one person starts to cough and/or sneeze. Then a prison guard walks down the hall coughing every step they take. An inmate on the phone in the hallway coughs all over the mouth piece and wipes his nose with the hand holding onto the phone.

Germs are everywhere!

Then another inmate a couple tiers down starts to cough and before you know it, everyone is infected and there’s no escaping it in the wide-open space. Everyone is coughing, blowing their noses, spitting up phlegm. Petri dish of danger!

And if you think they’re equipped with extra bars of soap and hand sanitizer, paper towels to wipe dry their hands and dispose of, you couldn’t be further from the truth. They are only given limited bars of soap per month, and many of them use their bars of soap to wash their clothes.

Did you say wash their clothes?

Yes. If they have it laundered, most of the time they’ll never receive it back. Stolen laundry is a hot-ticketed item.

Many prisoners wash their two state-prison-issued clothing similar to Little House on the Prairie.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries illustrating inmates washing clothes in state prison

There is absolutely no way to participate in social distancing in our state prisons. They are literally on top of one another.

When they eat, they’re like a can of sardines packed together. They share trays AND food. They shower together without any separation. And with being in lockdown, it allows the contamination to spread through open air and tight spaces.

When they’re in lockdown, it does not keep them safe. It’s a cesspool of toxins.

You CANNOT ISOLATE over 2.3 million incarcerated beloveds from one another to contain and keep this virus from spreading, much less have adequate medical teams and/or facilities to treat those who will inevitably become infected.

Please pray for our prison population; they’re someone’s son, like mine…

Until next time…

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Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Responds to COVID-19

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Tammy Ingram Founder responds to COVID-19

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Responds To COVID-19

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries continues to keep a close eye on the COVID-19 virus and its active spread. As the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the World Health Organization (WHO) and the California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation (CDCR) provide more information and updates on the coronavirus and its increase in spread, Blameless and Forever Free Ministries has canceled and postponed all upcoming events scheduled up through May 1, 2020.

With the CDCR placing all California State Prisons under lockdown, if you have further concerns or questions regarding COVID-19, you may contact the CDCR through email at COVID19@cdcr.ca.gov and they will direct all inquiries to the appropriate division.

The California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation has issued a COVID-19 Preparedness as follows:

As of March 17, 2020, there are currently no confirmed cases of COVID-19 within CDCR institutions.

“Effective March 18, no volunteers or rehabilitative program providers will be allowed to enter state prison until further notice.

All rehabilitative programs, group events, and in-person education classes are cancelled.

The Office of Correctional Education is working to provide in-cell educational programs so as to not interrupt educational credit-earning.

The Board of Parole Hearings (BPH) will postpone all parole suitability hearings through March 20.

All Interstate Compact Agreement transfers of out-of-state parolees or inmates to California will cease for 30 days.

CDCR has activated an email box, COVID19@cdcr.ca.gov, to answer questions from the public, employees, and stakeholders related to COVID-19. This email address will be monitored and questions will be directed to the appropriate divisions.

CDCR’s inmate telephone network provider Global Tel Link (GTL) has offered the adult incarcerated population two days of free phone calls: from 12 a.m. to 11:59 p.m. Thursday, March 19, and 12 a.m. to 11:59 p.m. Thursday, March 26. The youth within the Division of Juvenile Justice already receive free phone calls.”

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Tammy Ingram Founder Hebrews 13.3

Please continue to pray for those incarcerated, their families and our correctional staff.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries will continue to monitor any and all updates and keep you informed.

Until next time…

At least we have some good news: As of March 17, 2020, there are currently no “confirmed” cases of COVID-19 within CDCR institutions. Thank you, Jesus!

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Hi Beautiful, Sorry To Interrupt Your Scrolling…

Dancing Bones Happy Dance Tammy Ingram Founder

Come Do The Happy Dance With Me!

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!

Hi Beautiful, I’m going a little stir crazy today, so I wanted to invite you and others in helping me share my Happy Dance celebrating St. Patty’s Day.

Sorry to interrupt your scrolling – well, not really – but come do the happy dance with me as we shed a layer or two of these toxic germs and shackles while speaking a word or two of love and affirmations.

I just wanted you to know that I’m doing the Happy Dance praising God for you and your life. The world would be so much gloomier without your radiance and sunshine!

I know you don’t hear it enough, but YOU ARE ENOUGH just the way you are and SO LOVED!

Missing you dearly. This social distancing sucks. I guess we’re getting a taste of what it’s like being prisoners, so to speak, but it’s only for a short while. It just reminds me and emphasizes how much I am blessed to sojourn this side of heaven being friends with you.

You are so loved and precious! Never lose sight of that, okay?

I’m praying for a release of blessings, great favor, wonderful health and a soaking of God‘s Great Love to follow you everyday!

Until next time…

Thank You For Being Beautiful You!

Dancing Bones Happy Dance Tammy Ingram Founder

Do A Little Dance…

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Courage To Speak Up For Those Forgotten…

Social Justice Is…

Having Courage To Speak Up For Those Forgotten…

Being a catalyst of change requires strong influencers who stand on lasting values that the good news of the gospel presents.

God’s Great Love Changes Everything!

Bringing my Lord’s presence into a domain (prisons) that the enemy has held captive for centuries is daunting, but worthy of the challenge because after meeting hundreds of prisoners, they’re beloveds just like you and me who have made horrible mistakes and deserve a second chance.

This is why Blameless and Forever Free Ministries has transitioned over to the reentry side and will open up a center to help returning citizens succeed.

Most prisoners develop a deep and sincere desire to change their life circumstances through hope and motivation from family and/or religion. Focusing on this link and alternatives opens many doorways of opportunities in having goals filled with lifestyle changes.

“Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.”

H. Jackson Brown Jr.

Prisons are set up for punishment, profit and containment. Prisoners need hope, motivation and rehabilitation.

Could you be caged up like an animal and live in close quarters with hundreds, if not thousands, of others and accept being told what to do, what to eat, what to wear, when to sleep, when to wake up, when to work, when to shower and when to talk to loved ones on the phone, while being surrounded by criminal conduct and make sound decisions once released?

You might begrudgingly say they’re lucky to have a cage to live in and food in their bellies after committing their crime, but…

How is that teaching them the power to rewrite their stories, you know, through recasting the drama and redirecting their actions?

Having the opportunity to impact their lives is the greatest reward possible and one in which requires softening up great opposition.

Discrimination, racism and negative social policies and laws have labeled returning citizens “once a felon, always a felon.” This caters to the belief and reason why our recidivism rates are so high.

When we force our returning citizens into this category, we wonder why they recommit and/or become homeless.

We are what we believe, and when we’re told over and over that we’re bad and menaces to society, it’s no wonder we find ourselves living under the spell of deceit and lies.

Good decision-making skills requires options. Surviving in prison surrounded by criminal conduct pretty much means association with the wrong crowd. It’s hard to make good choices when there are minimal options available to us. That requires many opportunities.

Prisons are full of beloveds who lack support, encouragement and visitation from loved ones.

Could you sustain hope and peace of mind without a covering of love?

When I was rejected and unloved, my decision-making skills needed help, too. Every decision I made was based on fear. That’s all I knew.

When you’re surrounded by criminal conduct, and most decisions are already laid out for you, without a covering of love, there is no hope or reason to strive forward in making changes.

Strong support and dedication is a rare and unique gift of hope that all incarcerated need.

Reentry process is more like a survival process. Survival of the fittest! This is why it’s imperative to surround ourselves with people who are going to lift us higher.

How can we expect our returning citizens to be productive members of society when we judge, ridicule and turn our backs on them? That doesn’t influence them to become better individuals, become assets to our communities or even make our communities safer.

Unconditional acts of kindness and love opens doorways to new lives and behaviors.

During times of challenge, frustration and failure, knowing that someone believes in you helps you try again. Introducing others to the love of Jesus provides this comfort in faith.

Every day we have the opportunity to make a positive difference in the lives of others. Replacing discrimination with rehabilitation and hate with love will restore precious lives and teach us a thing or two about ourselves, too.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries understands returning citizens, I am more than my mistakes.

Prisoners need society to understand, I am more than my mistakes!

Until next time…

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Imagination – Preview Of Life’s Coming Attractions!

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries Imagination - Preview of Life's Coming Attractions

Imagination – Preview of Life’s Coming Attractions

Sitting isolated in the back of the inmate medical care unit, back pressed up against the cooling cinder block, my body aches with cheeks burning through flushes of fever. My breath quivers between the spell of violent shaking. I wasn’t certain if the unsettling chill that was running down my spine was due to the fever or from the tiny glimpses of thrilling freedom that lay outside the prison’s walls.

My delirious mind imagines the wind of icy fingers running through my hair as I watch the flag become a cape in the strengthening wind. The freedom of the American flag clothed me with hope while my parched throat swallowed what’s possible if I keep leaning in and looking up.

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”

Albert Einstein

There was a time when there was no hope for me, but somehow I encountered God who lit a fire deep within me. This flame was so glorious, it blinded the darkness lurking in my heart. But here I sit; I was set free. What once was so dark turned into an everlasting blaze of radiant light.

My mind bolts back to the kind and empowering words shared with me, “God must truly love you, and I mean A LOT!!! Our Lord doesn’t allow someone to go through these kind of adversities that you’ve experienced unless He has one special and unique calling on your life.”

The sting of the tease of what life feels like through the blowing breeze of freedom that would some day be possible lingers. The illusion of what is possible wars with the recognition of what freedom actually looks like when you’re shackled and imprisoned doing time for your crime.

Power of Purpose

The power of purpose helps keep the focus looking upward from the love and support of a community who refuses to throw away the keys of second and third chances.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries reminds Returning Citizens, "I am MORE than my MISTAKES!

I am more than my mistakes!

Acquiring the gift of insight into our own lives and purpose showcases how God is able to do abundantly more than all we could EVER ask or imagine!

Would you run and hide from the exposure of your own character flaws or would you be willing to develop a plan to make your dreams come true and be all who God created and designed you to be?

Now, realizing that in order to become a great leader, you had to learn and earn an advanced degree at the University of Adversity, your faith ushers evidence to, I can do all things through Him who gives me strength (Philippians 4:13).

Finding a place in society is overwhelming. The first few weeks after release are the most stressful and demeaning as you try and fit in making what others might consider “normal decisions,” but when living institutionalized with minimal choices, it’s easier to make good decisions when they’re already made for you. Yes, even though you’re surrounded by criminal conduct.

It breaks my heart and messes with my head that you fear me. I get it!

But I imagine a community filled with patience, guidance and support. I don’t want to fail, trust me! Prison is hell. Some of us want to change. Imagining the extension of grace with compassion to fail along with the opportunity to get back up and start again is courage to succeed.

I imagine a Body helping me experience my plan and purpose from prison to community.

I’ve completed time in prison for my crime. I imagine my community supporting punishment’s end.

But that decision is yours to make.

The laws of discrimination are permanently seared into my life, so…

I just hope and pray you contain the diagnosis of criminality to loom inside the prison walls and not foreshadow my daunting prognosis.

I can only imagine what it will feel like when my community finds it in their hearts to allow me the opportunity to start over without the looming shadow of defeat and judgment. That was my companion in prison, but now I’m free and looking forward to experiencing what freedom looks like.

Until next time…

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries reports, Did you know 5 in 10 returning citizens have difficulty finding a job?
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Returning Citizens…

What Are Returning Citizens?

Good question! Returning citizens are beloveds reentering society, our communities, from their time served being incarcerated.

Time to make a change!

Since returning citizens are reentering society after serving time for their crime, creating safer and stronger communities must become a top priority for the success of their reentry and reintegration.

Successful reentry and recidivism is dependent upon a community-centered approach that requires bridging the gap between church and state; community organizations and governmental entities.

Who cares…

Everyone should!

Why should we concern ourselves with those who are a menace to society and who obviously didn’t care about following the rules and broke the law?

Walking alongside of those who have done time for their crime helps facilitate success promoting rehabilitation and sound decision-making skills for securing employment and being productive members of society.

They have paid their debt back to society through the punishment received in serving prison time.

We all want safer communities, right?

We all benefit when our returning citizens who leave prison have an education, a chance at higher education, a good job and a place to live.

Being productive members of society, it helps drive down future costs of corrections, reduces the crime rate, most definitely helps improve public safety, but it’s building a sense of community that our returning citizens need for lasting success.

Everyone needs and deserves to be surrounded with love and support! Re-offenders lack relationships, so it bodes well for all of us to walk alongside of them by not discriminating, but instead through rehabilitation.

Our returning citizens have been isolated for the most part during their incarceration and reminding them that they’re supported by their communities confirms that we want them to succeed. This introduces them to support and offers encouragement that they’re on the right path and there’s no longer any need to go through life alone without accountability.

Generous hearts believe that today’s offender will become tomorrow’s neighbor, so embracing our returning citizens by coming alongside of those who are exiting the criminal justice system provides the greatest opportunity for success.

We all have choices and love not only transforms from the inside out, but it leads to action.

Teaching others the value of walking together so that the world can believe in the power of God’s Great Love (John 17:23) is vital to a dignified life.

With advocacy and justice being at the very core of who God is, our prisons can no longer be considered a place solely to punish and reject. We must meet our offenders right where they’re at reconciling them to God.

We can’t just pretend to love others. We have to really love them! Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good (Romans 12:9).

After all, recidivism promotes public safety, builds stronger communities while strengthening collaboration with other agencies.

We’re better together!

Reentry provides those in our criminal justice system with a path towards becoming productive members of society after they have served time for the crimes committed.

Embracing Freedom Without Stigma!

If our Statue of Liberty symbolizes freedom, it embodies hope and opportunities for those seeking a better life in America. Liberty and justice for all represents that the most basic human dignity starts with the land of second chances.

Statue of Liberty in New York City

Inspiring Second Chances Filled With Hope and Opportunity!

Until next time…

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God Sees Beyond Our Right Now…

God Sees Beyond Our Right Now

When life isn’t exactly how we pictured it would be…

Facing seasons of disappointment and despair can leave us feeling isolated and alone.

Encouraging and inspiring our incarcerated can be a daunting lifestyle, but they deserve an outpouring of God’s Great Love.

Meeting our prisoners right where they’re at, determined not to leave them shackled in shame and guilt, surrounded by nothing but criminal conduct, is a priceless gift of Love.

It’s challenging to understand that during these grave times, being in a pit of hell, there are others in similar situations who have gone before us…

When you’re considered “incorrigible,” a “burden” or “a menace to society,” impervious to restraints and punishment, it’s hard to react/respond against this branding, this labeling, cauterized deep into one’s soul and flesh.

And we are, after all, a byproduct of our environment…

Discouragement leads to death and destruction. Being near the edge of the pit serves as a constant reminder that its edges of hell will swallow and take down those who dare come close.

Our incarcerated can only see and hear what’s inside their prison walls. They’re a number, not a person. It’s dark and it’s dangerous. It’s not filled with life and/or rehabilitation. It’s filled with segregated gangs; your color and ethnicity matters because that pre-determines your space, affiliation and housing and HIGHLY INFLUENCES what you learn and become.

But our Beautiful Jesus resides inside prisons and He reminds us through awareness that re-offenders lack relationships.

What would your faith look like if God said to you what He specifically spoke to my heart, There’s an amazing door of opportunity standing wide open for you [me] to minister here, even though there are many who oppose and stand against [you] me (1 Corinthians 16:9 TPT)?

Truly, God spoke those very words to my heart.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28).

As Christians, we are commanded to stand with the oppressed and fight injustice. What kind of Christians are we; ones with selective obedience accommodating our facades or are we, as a community, going to start loving more and rebuking division and strife like we’re commanded?

It’s not about us! Relationships matter. Re-offenders lack relationships!

Addressing our high recidivism rates requires programming and services essential to decrease the re-offender rates and foster successful community reentry. Reducing recidivism will benefit both our offenders and our communities.

When I personally think of despair and discouragement, I am reminded of Joseph in the Bible who had ample reason to be discouraged and knew what longstanding imprisonment offered.

Joseph endured the death of his mother, along with the conspiracy and hatred from his brothers.

Can you imagine the gut-punching torturous blow in being cast into a pit and then sold into slavery?

That’s unfathomable sibling rivalry.

Then to face imprisonment due to false accusations, OMG!!!

I don’t know about you, but my abandonment issues seem rather inconsequential.

Being molded by pain along with having a personal, intimate knowledge and relationship with God, allows us to survive and prosper where most would fail.

Being betrayed and deserted by family undoubtedly leaves deep emotional wounds that only God could graciously heal. Add in a long incarceration, being punished for doing what’s right, Joseph was even forgotten by those he helped.

But God doesn’t forget because He resides inside our prisons and knows what is on the other side of our circumstances.

Joseph’s life is one of God’s most powerful and miraculous stories of what redemption offers. Even saving his offensive family during the famine.

My heart of hearts believes that our beautiful Jesus wants to transform our deep losses and grave disappointments the same way He did for Joseph. God can and will make a way.

I don’t know about you, but I have decided to be a “Doer” of the Word and not just a “Hearer” that James 1:22 talks about.

Blameless and Forever Free Ministries believes God allows crises or shows us problems so we can be part of the solution.

Relevant truth for today: Where we are RIGHT NOW is not our final destination, nor is it for our incarcerated.

Looking through the lens of God’s Great Love, we are able to believe that what lies ahead on the other side of our circumstances is greater strength and victory.

One bad circumstance leading to reintegration.

No story is beyond redemption.

We can’t overcome what we don’t confront.

Living for a cause greater than myself reminds me to maintain the rights of the oppressed that Psalm 82:3–4 expresses. This passion was birthed by a personal crisis which led to a bigger cause.

We need to prioritize what matters. It’s not so much about the events or the many circumstances of life, but our response to them. Our incarcerated haven’t responded appropriately and when they get out of prison after serving time for their crime, they will repeat if we do not intervene and start rehabilitating them while incarcerated.

The most important thing I pray our hearts remember, once our returning citizens are back into society, we need to be prepared to disciple them, encourage them and surround them with love while walking alongside of them. Being prepared to help, not discriminate, will ensure safer communities and society assets.

Until next time…

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Don’t Hate, Rehabilitate!

Don’t Hate, Rehabilitate!

When you’re surrounded for years with only other incarcerated beloveds and their criminal conduct, we wonder why our recidivism rates are so high!

Our prisoners need rehabilitation leading to transformation while they’re doing time for their crimes. Long-standing punishment without restoration is why two out of three offenders return back to state prison within three years after being released.

Hurt People Hurt Others!

Society will continue to pay with more crime, lives and homelessness if we do not step in and do more by intervening and moving them towards restoration, reintegration and redemption!

Embracing that today’s offender will be tomorrow’s neighbor supports the very core and mission of Blameless and Forever Free Ministries which is organized to reduce the recidivism rate, expand community safety and awareness, and disrupt the cycle of re-offending.

We need to do more! Introducing our incarcerated to Jesus by pouring His Great Love into their lives covers them with grace and motivation leading to transformation and a smoother transition back into society.

Reentry programs and the love of Jesus are a powerful tool for successful transitioning and are desperately needed in our prisons today. Otherwise, our incarcerated who have never dealt with what brought them to prison in the first place will be shackled with what they have picked up during their prison term: additional criminal conduct, habits and unhealthy behaviors that are being brought back into and infecting society.

Continue to remember those in prison as if you were together with them in prison, and those who are mistreated as if you yourselves were suffering (Hebrews 13:3).

Long-standing punishment has gotten us nowhere except for high recidivism rates. It’s time we start meeting and embracing our prisoners right where they’re at and pouring the love of Jesus into their lives. Their lives do matter!

Until next time…

Re-offending Lacks Relationship!

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Relational Justice

Blameless Prison Doors

Relational Justice

When you think of offenders doing time for their crimes in state prison, what is your initial response?  Losers?  Criminals?  Drug addicts?  Who cares?

Who ends up in our prison system anyways?  Do we even care?  Or does our prison system take care of that for us? 

Being honest, I admit to being hypocritical; once considering them all vile through my own lens of judgment and condemnation until the Lord allowed a crisis to enter my own life to see who really exists inside this dark and dangerous dungeon. 

Their precious lives matter!

Realizing our prison system is broken and filled with the same repeat offenders, you know, the individuals who went to prison, served their time, got released, re-offended, and then goes back to prison and starts the whole process again; something needs to change.

If we’re all a part of each person’s contribution to society, good or bad, our hearts need compassion through awareness of what an incarcerated beloved goes through.

Being the founder of Blameless and Forever Free Ministries, I know personally who ends up in our prison system:  Hurt people!  Hurt people hurt others!  When wounds stemming from childhood traumas or other hurts are never healed, other vices/actions often become the crutch in dealing with triggers and pain that’s been holding them captive in a torturing cell of hell.

Imagine being shackled in your own cell of hell while serving time behind bars in prison. We’re not negating the pain these prisoners have caused to others, but we’re sharing being caged up like an animal without rehabilitation is only going to make wounded hearts hardened and calloused. This leads them to continue to hurt others, even inside the prison walls.

 

I’ve experienced personally what unhealed pain has caused; the tearing apart of my own family along with hurting another and their family all in the name of fighting.  My son is being released from Folsom State Prison this year.  He has completed serving time for his crime and considers his incarceration a blessing in disguise.

But is society going to accept him back into population with open arms as he transitions or are the flaming arrows and emotional daggers going to penetrate deeper into an already wounded soul through discrimination, obstacles and judgment?

Relational Judgment

What many beloveds don’t realize is what our prisoners go through once they’re released and why rehabilitation is not only vital for our incarcerated, but for society as a whole.

Without transformation from rehabilitation, the incarcerated will never receive the opportunity to succeed with the many obstacles they face, and society will continue to absorb the cost, monetarily and/or possibly with lives, producing more victims leading us nowhere except entangled in this vicious cycle of broken people.

Suffering doesn’t have to lead us to constant failures where frustration and bitterness develops, but it should lead us instead into creative forces for positive changes.  That is transformation.  It can’t take place with just the offenders solely through long-standing punishment, society needs to play a proactive, integral role in transformation.  We are all a part of the solution and need to change.

Transformation is a process, not an overnight conversion and/or purpose.  Changing the way we utilize our prisons so people come out rehabilitated and not worse than what led them there in the first place is vital in building and giving hope to our prisoners.

 

Blameless State Prison Grounds
 

How can we do this?

Being the founder of Blameless, I sure don’t have all the answers, but I’m proactively working with the incarcerated and governmental entities and community members to help find the need behind the need and set up a plan of attack to help contribute to the lives that need help. Blameless believes not doing anything due to fear of failure is not acceptable when many lives are at stake.

With my 20 years experience in the law field, being a chaplain, serving on Folsom State Prison’s Inmate Family Council along with sharing the gospel with the incarcerated and their families, Blameless is now transitioning its focus towards the rehabilitation side and reentry programs for the incarcerated.

This is Blameless’ contribution to help stabilize the homeless epidemic. Without rehabilitation, most offenders will end up either homeless adding to our homeless epidemic or back into crime leading to more prison time.

Public safety issues effect more than just the criminal justice system.  Our prison systems are working towards rehabilitation, but it’s going to take continual effort with changes thinking outside the box.  The old ways are not working.

I believe relational justice must include God and His Great Love serving as the anchor for everything built upon it and will change the way our prisons function.  We will focus on making our offenders emotionally healthier from the inside out with tools to become better than when they entered prison.  This is instrumental in successful reentry before they’re released.

Punishment is never going to work being the long-lasting solution. Yes, offenders need to do time for their crimes, with their punishment meeting their crime, but they should be allowed to change before they’re released. And once they’ve done their time, they should be accepted back into society.

What good is it for society, much less the offender, to be released back into communities where incapacitation and preclusion rules?

Punishment can no longer be the sole answer.  Rehabilitation needs to exist along with punishment. Rehabilitation requires love and action. The vast majority of our incarcerated are never visited and/or encouraged and supported to help facilitate healthy hearts and minds.

Many chaplains, churches and nonprofits, along with our state prison systems, are transitioning into focusing on rehabilitation and God’s Great Love, but we need an army to stand on the front lines with the oppressed and fight injustice.

If deterrence worked, our prisons would be empty.

Transformation is a process. The opportunities have to outweigh the many obstacles. Transformation starts with the offender.  It starts with the offender taking personal responsibility for their actions and deciding to change.  It’s hard to take that initiative when one is not loved and/or supported.  Families need to get involved along with society.

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Blameless and Forever Free Ministries and Chaplain Tammy believes everyone has value!

Everyone Has Value!

Everyone Has Value!

Who do you think ends up in our state prison facilities?  Do we actually even care who’s occupying space in our prison system or does the state prison itself take care of that for us?

What if your son, a brother, your father, your mother or even your husband was there, would you care?

Or would you hide behind your own veil of shame?

We’re all tired.  We’re all trying to survive…

Everyone’s drinking a bit just to take the edge off of it.  Everyone’s smoking.  Wired, yet tired.  Even popping a pill or two to just do.  We’re all tired.  Everyone’s at the end of the rope without any hope! 

We’re all distracted.  Doing everything we can just to keep calm…

Just to keep it together. 

Everyone’s high just to get by!!!

Everyone’s terrified hiding behind their pride!

We all mess up and we all need forgiveness.

Every failed relationship needs another to try again.

Blameless Respect

What is the worst thing you’ve ever done?

Be honest…

Now imagine it being known and exposed to all who dare to look, kind of like living with it taped to both your forehead and back.

How would you feel being completely exposed??? 

Probably would have to get high just to get by. 

Maybe even rob the mob and sob…

How we survive prison is a life-long commitment…

Prisoners survive most sentences.  Sooner or later, they return to the long-awaited outside world.

But is it really what they had hoped for, even fantasized about? 

Nobody thinks about how they’re going to be discriminated against, even tagged with the big “F” as in felon precluding them from getting a decent job, a car, a roof over their head or even vote. 

No one told them that they would have to live making minimum wage just to work.  How can you possibly save enough money to get a car to drive to work, much less support a family with a roof over your head? 

Nobody ever said you’d end up becoming a working homeless person just to survive in a world that is full of hate and condemnation. 

You did the time for your crime, but now you’re forced to live on a dime!

With sobering statistics showing that two out of every three incarcerated return back to State Prison within three years, as a society we are all imprisoned by their incarceration.  Once they are released and walk through those pearly gates, these beloveds must live by a completely foreign set of values and rules.

They have lived under the governance of institutionalized thinking being caged up like animals, but since we’re so good at punishing and not rehabilitating, prisoners forget quickly into their imprisonment how to critically think and function because it was all figured out for them being incarcerated. 

Being institutionalized told them when to wake, pee, eat, shower, exercise, work, etc. 

Kind of like a herd of sheep in their protective pens. 

But this institutionalized thinking never permitted them to deal with the issues that led the prisoners to commit the crimes that incarcerated them in the first place.  Now they’ve been forced to suppress that pain and have developed more issues from being incarcerated.

And we throw them back into reality with a whole new world that jeers their every move with spears of judgment, hate, ridicule, condemnation, discrimination and a lack of acceptance?

Not to mention, if they didn’t have an outpouring of love from family and friends who supported them with love and visitation during their incarceration, how can we expect them to successfully reenter society?

How can we make changes in our thinking and help our incarcerated reintegrate, rehabilitate ushering them into redemption to stay out of prison for the rest of their lives? 

God commands us to stand with the oppressed and fight injustice, so…

One major weakness I find being a chaplain, transitioning Blameless and Forever Free Ministries towards the reentry side for our prisoners along with having served on the Inmate Family Council at Folsom State Prison, not even a tenth of all prisoners have contact visitation with loved ones and friends. 

And without any love and support, we expect them to have successful transition back into society?

Everyone has value! 

Re-offenders lack relationships!

Until next time…

Reoffending Lacks Relationship

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The Incarcerated Say, “Thank You For Loving Us!”

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The Incarcerated Say

Thank You For Loving Us!

How often do we go through life being thanked for loving another?  Especially those with differing faiths, colors and cultures? 

How about being thanked for simple, random acts of kindness that flow naturally from the love in our hearts?

Should our expectations demand acknowledgement and recognition?

I honestly never really experienced what walking out Christ’s mission, ministry and soul was like, understanding His interaction and engagement with EVERYONE, until I started pouring life into the rejected and abandoned; our homeless and incarcerated.  They’ve taught me what love means…

Blameless Warrior/Thank You

Working with the homeless and the incarcerated has emphasized how we are living in a self-serving, loved-deprived culture. 

Sadly, it’s much easier to hate and judge, using others for our own gain, yet so unfathomable to love ALL OF MANKIND through our actions when there’s no benefit to ourselves and/or acknowledgement and recognition.

When was the last time you heard the words, “Thank you for loving us”? 

Much less from those incarcerated?

Break…

My…

Heart!

I felt led to share a recent thank-you card in order to shed light to some of the lives that exist inside our prison systems. 

Admittedly, I used to judge and criticize those incarcerated until my own crisis developed with having a son incarcerated due to fighting.

But I lean in being convinced that every detail of our lives is continually woven together to fit into God’s perfect plan of bringing good into our lives, for we are His lovers who have been called to fulfill His designed purpose (Romans 8:28 TPT).

This beautiful and touching card came from inmates at Folsom State Prison demonstrating what a little love and rehabilitation leading to redemption offers. 

They don’t know Jesus, YET…

I’m honored to be transitioning my nonprofit, Blameless and Forever Free Ministries, to stand with the oppressed and fight for injustice as an avenue to help stabilize our homeless epidemic.  Their successful re-entry back into society keeps more beloveds from adding to our homeless epidemic that is out of control. 

Every life matters!

Look at those eyes on the card!!! Talk about a gift of artistry.  Her eyes captivate me.  The twinkling radiates with life as if she’s actually looking back at me.  What a work of art!

I’m not a badass or warrior princess as some of the inmates might say, because honestly, sometimes I’m so paralyzed in fear and scared to death, I have to continue remembering I’m surrounded by angel armies!  I have a much easier time being referred to as Mama Tammy or Miss Tammy. 

I’m just walking out being obedient to whom my Father says I am, His precious daughter, that the Lord God Almighty chooses to work through as one of His vessels to pour out His Great Love!

“…The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few” (Matthew 9:37; Matthew 9:35-38).

Through the chiseling of my own calloused heart and loving on the homeless and the incarcerated, I’ve had my eyes opened to what God’s Great Love does to those who have been thrown out, rejected and abandoned.  They’re starving!

Maybe it’s because I understand that deep, torturing loss, through my own life crises.

What I once took somewhat for granted and expected, God’s Great Love, many are desperate for and would do anything to be led through that door.

Why shouldn’t we all be extended an invitation to engage in a relationship with our Beautiful Jesus and be loved on?  Jesus doesn’t discriminate, He invites us all.

Our world is starving for love!  And our incarcerated are no exception to that rule and need God’s Great Love!

Thank you, Beautiful Jesus, for allowing me to see society’s desperation and need for Your Great Love through your lens!  Talk about masterpieces…

Thank you, Lord, for the boldness and courage to stand with the oppressed and fight injustice.  Every life matters!  I’m beyond blessed to see Your hand and covering of Love to those who desperately need an encounter with You!

Until next time…

Do It Again, God!  Do It Again!

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The Gift Of Presence…

The Gift Of Presence…

Priceless!

Hi friends and family, I know I’ve been absent this past month.  Forgive my overwhelmed schedule.  But I couldn’t let Christmas go by without saying, I’m praying that we all have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

But first…

Are you wanting, and willing, to give “THE PERFECT GIFT” of Christmas that far surpasses any and all cost? 

We love because God first loved us.  And our love for others is our grateful response to the love God first demonstrated to us (1 John 4:19).  God gave His one and only Son as a gift to us.

So giving the gift of presence might just be the most precious gift we can give to those we love.  Wrapping ourselves in consideration and conscientiousness embraces those we love, hearts become mended as the bow becomes untied and lives become alive and blossom like wildflowers.

Presence is a genuine expression of love.

Presence says “you matter”…

Presence offers peace…

Presence initiates healing…

Presence delivers love…

Presence initiates generosity…

A life of generosity demonstrates God’s genuine love and presence.

Presence is priceless!

Showing up and being present is invaluable.

Christmas Love

Putting away the electronics to listen embraces consideration.  Listening without thinking creates closeness.  Being attentive and mindful requires casting all judgment aside.  Instead, following every line and wrinkle, the twinkle radiating from the eyes, the battle scars and sweet freckles that make up this amazing masterpiece before us tells us more than a story…

Our presence and attentiveness is a gift that speaks volumes and shows we care.  We can’t put a price tag on that and it will never go out of style.  It could start a trend that is re-gifted over and over and over again.  Talk about paying it forward.

And even though it might be a cliche, there’s no time like the present!!!

May we be the gifts that God uses as His presence to bring hope, cheer and joy this year.

Heck, sharing a box of chocolates can and will unite lives with all its feel-good endorphins, not to mention sweeten the atmosphere and those that indulge.  Sharing in the tasting indulgence creates experiences filled with love, joy and peace.

I don’t know about you, but I have absolutely no self-control when it comes to a box of See’s Candy so you’ll know where to find me this year!

May you feel and experience God’s sweetness, His presence and His abiding love throughout this holiday season and through each new day of the coming year!

And because faith makes all things possible, hope makes all things work together, and God’s Great Love makes all things beautiful, may you be blessed with ALL three gifts this Christmas.

Until next time…

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!