There’s no need to pay attention to what is behind you; I have your back! Just trust me as you take a hold of my hand and enjoy the scenery while you sojourn through the unknown. The path ahead may look quite unstable, but when your mind is focused on the author and perfecter of your story, it makes the outlook of the journey exciting!
Do You Have My Back?
Have you ever come to a place where you’re thrust against a corner acknowledging your passions through your own character flaws and traits that were announced loudly by your actions when you contemplate, “Hey, she has my back”? I don’t know about you, but when we’re fighting all these battles, are we even realizing who has our backs no matter the cost? Do we have each others’ backs when ugliness rears its ugly head? And I’m talking about when we’re less than perfect, too, you know, where we’re all imperfect beings! Man oh man, did I blow it the other night!!! But man oh man, I want a rematch! ♥
One of my girlfriends had purchased a new vehicle and she was feeling good about the color she chose. I don’t care who you talk to, but a new outfit, much less a new vehicle, gives us this sense of accomplishment and makes us feel good about ourselves and gives us that extra jolt of confidence and skip in our step. She posted a great photograph and comment about feeling good about the advice from her mother about the color she chose on her Facebook page. It was reciprocated with congratulatory remarks and words of excitement until one man made a sexiest comment about looking beautiful in “nothing at all.”
You know, many did not even notice the comment or give much thought to it, but I took great offense to this man’s comment and how we seem to have become desensitized by the subtlety of sexual innuendos in our society today through our communications, not to mention the degradation of us Beautiful Beloveds. It’s almost like society has accepted that women are objects for the eye’s stimulation and imagination only instead of being esteemed and embraced. Women were not created to be these sexual creatures that are objects of stimulation while being gawked at or viewed solely for bringing forth sexual pleasure. Women were created to be valued for the worth God designed us to be which is worthy of all respect and praise, right?
Phew….. do you see where my passion lies? Mix that passion with exhaustion and ugly comments, herein lies the battleground!
I took great offense to this man’s comment and went on the attack like a roaring lion. Unfortunately, though, with the eyes of a tiger, I behaved ravenously instead of graciously. Talk about leaving me feeling like I was carrying the whole world in my heavy heart. Even though my girlfriend appreciates me having her back, the battleground should have been handled differently, especially since it wasn’t mine, it was the Lord’s. The disconnect that is so disturbing, though, is aren’t we supposed to have each others’ backs to begin with? Sometimes we become uncomfortable with certain suggestive dialogue and we just shrug it off because it’s typical societal jargon and social media bullying, but that’s where we need to start stepping in by saying, “Wait a minute, that’s unacceptable behavior.” It doesn’t need a dissertation quite like what I presented, but we all need to start calling people out on their disrespectful comments to one another!
I don’t know about all y’all (that southern girl coming out! ha, San Diego girl) but I demand and command respect knowing who God says I am. When I start seeing others crossing over those boundary lines, I just can’t let its ugliness continue. Now, granted, I didn’t exactly behave appropriately. I went for the jugular because his subtly was obnoxiously apparent and offensive to me, I went in for the kill and latched on more like a pit bull. I have repented and apologized, and I will try much harder the next time to bring awareness through more love than bite. We need to vocalize and rebuke comments that are bullying and aggressive and demeaning in nature, especially on social media, because ignoring its presence is construing it as acceptable behavior.
When we start to see ourselves as God sees us: pure, beautiful, precious, cherished, valued and loved; certain behaviors and attitudes coming from the people surrounding our world starts to become offensive to us in ways that never even made us question before; with good reason. The Lord allowed a season of significant change in my own life by removing the familiar and unhealthy, including friendships, to show me what it’s like to live in His Promised Land being surrounded by amazing people! With understanding my worth and value now in being a Beautiful Beloved, encountering the ways of this world, the wicked and evil thoughts that are holding and equating women captive to nothing more than mere sexual objects for fanatical pleasure, I lose my mind to these pathetic gestures, literally.
Next time I pray I will react differently, but I found that we don’t have to stand down and be subjected to this ugliness by cowering in a corner. Women need to stand up boldly and courageously for each other and have each others’ backs; that’s one of the luxuries in being adopted into the body of Christ and what having friends are for. If someone is going to say something in a “public forum” on social media for the whole world to see, then it is up to us not to succumb to the threats in rebuking it.
I may have a long way to go before I become holy in my conduct and speech, but my moral compass and values have changed drastically and I will stand up and be the voice that engages in battle for my sisters with the sharpest sword. This is why I surround myself with nothing but awesomeness; iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17)! Let my humility be a gentle reminder as to why we need to get dressed daily with our spiritual armor so we can take our stand against the devil’s schemes, digging deep into the soil so we’re able to firmly stand our ground, while being equipped with the belt of truth buckled around our waists while holding up our shields of faith so we can extinguish the enemy’s flaming arrows (ugly defaming words). This will bless us with the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:13-18).
I wish I could change the way in which I reacted to the ugly spewing comments, because I want to glorify my Lord, not reject Him, but I learned graciously. Let’s be prepared at all times with gentleness and respect like 1 Peter 3:15 cautions us because the enemy will strike when we’re least prepared and exhausted, so we can have our sisters’ backs 24/7. It takes a bold and courageous Beloved to stand her ground and announce that it’s not okay for women to be treated as anything less than the Beautiful Beloveds God says we are!