When You Have Been Abused, Abandoned and Rejected, What Is Next?
Violence, pain and suffering is predominant in the world today. Why do children hate their parents? Why do parents slaughter, use as weapons of mass destruction, or even sell and reject their own children? How do wars between brother against brother and sister against sister ignite? Where’s the love?
Hurt People Hurt Others
Jesus came to redeem our hurts, our lives, our families, by and through His blood which cost God so much. I don’t know about you, but I’m in need of His daily transfusion of blood to cleanse my own soul and wash away my sins.
Needed: Daily Blood Transfusions
Sadly, the world is full of sick, evil and hurt people whose hurts have never been worked through along with mental illness that has been swept underneath the rug for generations. Instead of being diagnosed and treated, it has advanced into a full-fledged epidemic.
It’s tragic because there is no shame in having mental illness. Anxiety, depression, addiction and eating disorders and rage are prevalent because they have been shamed for far too long. This world may demand perfection, but as I say in my advocacy:
There is no shame in our game; Jesus is His name!
Being vulnerable where deep hurts are involved is more than uncomfortable, but I know there are many Beloveds who need to hear how God’s amazing grace sustained me so they can lean in and press through themselves. It is hard when the world beats down on you making you feel insignificant and irrelevant, and you don’t know where to turn or even if you’re important enough to be seen or matter. We all want to know we’re enough.
We can’t claim victory when we’re weaponless, have dull blades on our swords, so exhausted we can’t even see or think straight, not to mention when we’re starving and freezing cold. This is where we get the option to either believe the lies of the enemy or allow God to pour out His Love into our depleted souls by tenderly affirming us. The way He reaches down and coddles and comforts us next to His beating heart reassures us of our meaningful existence and His Great Love that is found in the beautiful pages of scripture. I can’t advocate enough for the strength and peace received through peeling the pages of the Bible wide open. Life literally pours out and ushers you into a relationship that offers freedom and acceptance!
When we’re wounded, even the slightest hiss will send us hiding!
God wants to wrap His everlasting arms around us tight until we slowly release our grip as we become aware and realize how loved and valued we are. We are so cherished, God pursues our lives. Us girls love to be pursued, don’t we? I know I do! He even serenades over us as He rejoices over our existence (Zephaniah 3:17). I don’t know about you, but I have never been serenaded so the realization of this warms my tender heart and soul.
God designed us to need and be receptive to this kind of Great Love so we can realize where our worth and value derive from. His Love is that good, fulfilling and rewarding. And it never ceases. There’s nothing we can do to lose His Love either. For us Beloveds who have been rejected and abandoned, that is nourishment to feast on for our famished souls.
Seeing ourselves from God’s perspective opens the pathway of our hearts and knocks down the barriers of pride that hinders our confidence. This way we don’t have to stay hidden, humiliated and ashamed because we were rejected, in our protective shells. We can stand tall, with feet fitted firmly in the ground, knowing our worth and value.
This is why I constantly share why I go to the Bible first when in distress. The Word is alive and active. When I’ve been attacked, forsaken and rejected, thrown out as discarded leftovers, my heart is shattered. I need guidance, grace, and reassuring tender mercies of love and worth that will help remind me and give clarity to who God says I am. That is why the Bible is so powerful.
We can’t lose sight of the fact that hurt people hurt others. Victims of heinous behaviors would be repeating the same thing to others if we didn’t have this loving and powerful Word of God to equip us with the ability to withstand the flaming arrows of the enemy along with the ability to forgive. This allows us to reach out with compassion to others. We need to share our testimonies of strength and deliverance. Hebrews 4:12-13 clears up any miscommunication about the benefits of the Bible: “For the Word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.”
Beautiful Beloved, being victims of another person’s pain confuses what true, healthy love and behaviors are. Our worth and value comes from the Lord God Almighty, not anyone else! This will help us understand why many of us feel unloved and unwanted. We will do just about everything and anything to fulfill that void. When others fail to meet our expectations and afflict pain onto our already tattered and fragile lives, we often look outside of ourselves for this very reason.
God created us with unique qualities that NO ONE BESIDES US has, and without that quality, there would be no beauty in the bunch! Please do not allow anyone to rob you of your gifts, beauty and talents. The world needs you!
Until next time…
Thank You For Being Beautiful You!