Who Holds The Key To Your Love Lock?
I Wanted Truth!
He never even looked twice…
We’ve all been here. We see a hot guy coming and our desire and need to be loved is so strong, so intense, it overwhelms what love actually looks like. We become delusional, even fanatical, of what Love really is. Our actions start mirroring conduct more similar to the Energizer bunny that demands, “Love me, love me, love me.”
Can I hear awkward?
We become so desperate for love, that we get right in its face and proclaim, “What about me? I need to be acknowledged, to be seen, to be desired, TO BE LOVED!
To Be or Not To Be?
To be or not to be, that is the question. Literally! Is love a feeling or action?
Our egotistical nature says love is a selfish feeling, not a selfless act. But in truth, love is a decision to act! God gave, so…
What happens when Romeo is on the horizon and you have lived in your head for so long watching “your script,” that the frames of reality don’t match up with the projection you see?
Here your moment finally shines TO BE, but you blind him with all your preconceived fanatics as to how love is supposed to be. That delectable fantasy where you’re expecting to be seen, to be embraced, to be swept literally off of your feet as you’re twirled about and kissed passionately being ever-so-desired is nowhere to be found.
That’s when he runs right past you without even as much as a hint of a raised eyebrow or the infamous nod saying, “What’s up?”
Can I hear Rejection with a capital R?
You sulk and pout as you engage in your pity party for ONE! No one is invited to be a part of your toddler tantrums and pathetic fits wrapped around your gallon of Haagen-Dazs ice cream and Butterfinger shavings. That’s a Blizzard, baby!
The punch-drunk slobbers from your chasers of To-Kill-Ya (Tequila) and lime along with your emotions to be loved glue your focus to Netflix’s marathon of High Fidelity, How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days, and finally in realizing, He’s Just Not That Into You!
Suddenly the nausea from the Tequila and sugar fix regurgitates loud reminders of Truths. You wanted truth. This Truth will set you free:
You are loved more than you will ever know by someone who died to know you (paraphrasing Romans 5:8).
I have hung a love lock or two in my lifetime, but only one remains. Knowing that someone was willing to die JUST TO KNOW ME, well, that is the one Who holds my key and where my heart is devoted. The One who will never LEAVE ME nor FORSAKE ME!
If love is always flowing and always changing, how can it actually be locked?
Think about that, how can we lock up love if it is fluid; always flowing and changing?
Love is an action, not a feeling. Love is TO BE! TO BE that “love.” To be is an action.
When Love is to be, Love will never fail (1 Corinthians 13:8). Love never fails!
Have we romanticized love so much in our egotistical society that we forgot love is an action and not a feeling?
Love is “To Be” that Love
When I start demanding I need to be loved, that is my trigger screaming I am lacking intimacy with my Lord. God designed us to be loved, but primarily by Him meeting our every need. We are much better spouses and friends when we know and walk in His Great Love.
When You Need To Be Loved
I’m the first to admit that I’m needy for love; God’s love! After all, you can’t become high maintenance without a need, right?
I need to hide myself in my Lord’s Love often so my love tank can be full. After all, like Augustine said, “God loves each of us as if there were only one of us.” Now, that’s liquid courage and LOVE to start each day!
Love is a hard thing to do. I lean into passages that remind me personally how loved I am that will hold me back from falling into the pits of depression, doubt and discouragement. And when others assault and reject, the words of Rick Warren remind me, “God is love. He didn’t need us. But he wanted us. And that is the most amazing thing.”
So I pray… “Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I lift up my soul” (Psalm 143:8).
And since my faith tells me “Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished” (Luke 1:45), I can embrace each day knowing I am loved more than I will ever know by someone who died to know “just me.” And that’s a shot of confidence and boost of courage to face each and every day.
Next time you need “To Be” loved, be that love!
Whenever we are feeling unloved, insecure, devalued or just don’t belong, we can remember to Whom we belong and Who died just to have a relationship with us. Jesus is the only Love worth searching for.
Until next time…