When Our Messes Become Our Message…
Breaking Free Announces Me!
Coming from an experienced beloved who’s walked through her fair share of messes, when we go through great pain and trials, it seems easier to just stay bound and wrapped up in captivity, entangled around comforts of familiarity.
Being a prisoner of fear, it seems every step we take to break free, the paralyzing torment only enhances the strength of our cells of hell.
Traumatic attacks are hard to survive and heal from when our focus is solely based on being bailed out. That includes also the loss of failed expectations, physical pain, emotional scars, and even financial destruction.
I was asked how I comfortably share the torments of abuse and the shame that lingers while breaking free from that controlling link.
Admittedly, there are times when I get overwhelmed reliving it because it feels like another beloved’s trauma. It’s empowering to share, though, because it’s a reminder how freedom has taken back the power of my voice that was once stilled and lost.
I try to emphasize that there is no shame in our game; Jesus is His name! There really is power in the name of Jesus when we release the blood stains caused from those fears of judgment and condemnation.
Maybe that’s why my heart burns with desire in being an advocate for those who have lost their voice because I get it. I’ve walked that path. I not only survived, but it made me courageous and confident enough to start a nonprofit organization helping others.
Change requires a lifetime pursuit understanding and applying what 2 Corinthians 1:4-5 (MSG) talks about. God “comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, He brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us.”
Breaking Free Announces Me!
I met a beloved once at one of our W.E.A.V.E. support groups. I had only learned of W.E.A.V.E.’s existence after escaping exactly what the acronym defines: Women Escaping A Violent Environment. I was not an advocate then. I was attending these meetings because I had found myself a victim of a creepy stalker.
Stalkers want what they cannot have…
Even though I had broken free from the chains of physical and emotional abuse, I was still imprisoned with identity and insecurity depravities that needed some fine tuning with the Lord’s direct intervention.
Our Beautiful Jesus brings healing to our lives usually one step at a time!
I’ve learned now to approach the testing of trials with more peace, confidence and clarity as my faith has deepened. Trials are now perceived as opportunities to learn tools that will help equip me with what might be brewing in the future; for example, hope, trust, peace, perseverance, patience, courage, you name it.
The development of my character became profound after I left my violent environment. Kind of funny how God orchestrates situations at times. Here I had broken free from the cycles of abuse and the Lord introduces me to a woman who I would help break free from her own violent environment.
God uses my mess and message to walk alongside of others who are tired of being told what they cannot be and live out who God created them to be.
Genesis 50:20 (NIV) perfectly announces to the enemy our authority claiming victory, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.”
Pondering the power that Genesis 50:20 foretells will remind us that our trials are not meant to torment us or even keep us on our knees. They’re intended to launch us to a completely different atmosphere where we recognize our messes are our messages.
Keeping our messes to ourselves robs others of the blessings that our testimonies offer.
Our momentary troubles are not meant to be gone through alone, much less swept underneath the rug. They’re oftentimes meant to strengthen us.
Conflict births opportunities. It’s possible our tests have come because they’re going to be a part of our testimony.
God wants us alive and present, available to be His powerful and courageous vessels!
I’m going to be brave enough to try and seize every moment of my trials so I can learn wisdom that will help me get through the next mess quicker and stronger.
Max Lucado’s Declaration of Faith is worthy of being proclaimed:
I’ll get through this.
It won’t be painless.
It won’t be quick.
But God will use this mess for good.
I won’t be foolish or naive, but I won’t despair either.
With God’s help, I will get through this.
~ Max Lucado ~
Until next time…
Thank You For Being Beautiful You!